I-Psychoterapy ye-Psychoterapy yosapho iqokelele ulwazi ngendlela imbali yookhokho bethu abachaphazela ngayo zonke izizukulwana ezilandelayo. Idluliselwa ngohlobo lweentsomi, iintsomi, izithixo, izilwanyana zabantwana, iqhutywa ngokuthe ngcembe kuthi kwiimeko ezithile.
Umzekelo, ukuba ukuphonononga imbali yohlobo lwakho, sinokubona iindlela ezingaqhelekanga:
Bayatshata kwaye bazala abantwana abanethuba elinye lokuphumla ukuba oomakhulu, oomakhulu kunye noomakhulu;
Amadoda angaqhelekanga aneempawu ezifanayo, imikhwa kunye nezifo;
Imfundiso eninzi, akukho mntu wayengenayo imfundo ephezulu, nangona kungekho mntu ucengayo kwaye engakhethi ukuba abantwana bafunde.
Sisenokungazi uninzi lweziganeko ezenzeka kookhokho bethu. Ungaze wazi ukuba ayingamaphupha ethu.
Ukulala lulwazi oluthe ngqo esifumana kumava akho aqokelelweyo kunye nentsimi yosapho ngokubanzi engazi.
Makhe sijonge kunye iphupha lomfundi omnye, owavuka, ngokunxulumana nombutho wagqobhoza eli phupha kunye nezalamane zabo.
"Mna nomyeni wam siye elwandle, siya kuthatha umntwana womyeni wam kumtshato wakhe wokuqala wokuqala. Kodwa ngenxa yesizathu sokuba umntwana azifihle. Kwizitrato kukho uloliwe, kwaye iintloko, oko kukuthi, i-dieliftive yeli, ngesizathu esithile kungekho. Wayefihliwe.
Akukho mntu uyaziyo apho akhoyo.
Uloliwe unye kwimigca, kwaye ingozi yenzekile kumgca olandelayo uye ngasekunene. Umqhubi wololiwe, owe ngengozi, uhlala ejele.
Imibutho ye: Umgca woliwe nguhlobo lwam, kwaye umqhubi ungumakhulu kunye notat'emfiri. "
Siza kuqala ukuhlalutya iphupha kwisiseko sokulala kunye neengcinga zephupha kwesi sihloko.
Okokuqala, ukulala kuyafakwa into efihlakeleyo. Kungenxa yengqiqo, umntwana ufihle, ufihle i-dielinetive. Ukulala kunenqaku lokuba kwenzeka ntoni kuyo kufanelekile ukuba kube yimfihlo.
Inkqubo yonyango losapho ithi iimfihlakalo ezingaphezulu zikhuphe isizukulwana esidlulileyo, ezo ziganeko zininzi ziya kuphinda kokulandelayo. Umzekelo, uninzi lwabasetyhini kunzima ukuthoba kwaye banyamezele umntwana, kwaye ukuba uyayijonga ibali labo, kuyavela ukuba umama okanye ootata wakhe babeziimpazamo abazikhethe.
Obu bubuthathaka, isiseko semfihlo kukungaqondakali, kodwa onke amaphupha abonisa ukuba uqhagamshelwe nabani.
Emva koko-umfanekiso oqinileyo: uloliwe ngaphandle kwe-dieliftive, ngaphandle kwentloko yakhe.
Kwaye komnye umgca loliwe ungena ngengozi, kwaye umqhubi uhleli entolongweni.
Oko kukuthi, intonga enye (uloliwe) ayiyi ndawo, njengoko kungangeni ndawo, kwaye okwesibini kufuna ingozi ngenxa yesiphoso somqhubi. Iphupha lithi kwimigca yomibini "entloko", i.e., intloko yegesi ingekho okanye yenza into engamkelekanga.
Kwaye iGranidia yabhala ukuba uloliwe unengxaki kaloliwe ngasekunene. Unyango losapho lubopha ngecala lasekunene lomzimba wethu kunye noYise, kwaye ngasekhohlo - kunye nomama. Oku kuyasebenza nje: Izifo kwicala lasekunene lomzimba zibonisa imbambano okanye iintlungu ngokunxulumene notata, nangakwicala lasekhohlo - kulwalamano.
Ingozi emgceni yenze umqhubi ngasekunene, ngenxa yoko kungacinga ukuba le "ingozi", kwenzeka into entle yentlekele, yenzeka kwintsapho kaBawo.
I-snodicvicta ingabamba ngokucacileyo inxulumano esikhokelela ekudaleni ukulala. Kubomi bokwenyani, kuya kufuneka afunde ukuba le nto yenzeka kutat'omkhulu kumgca woomama notata. Mhlawumbi iyakufumana intembelo kunye neziganeko kunye nayo.
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UMaria Zngqoskova, ugqirha wezengqondo, ugqirha wonyango kunye noqeqesho lokukhula komntu kwiZiko lokuRhweba uMarika Hazin.