Ukubonakala komntwana ngumjikelo omtsha kubomi balo naluphi na usapho, indlela yakho yesiqhelo yobomi ayisoze iphele. Nangona kunjalo, abazali abaninzi bale mihla akazange baqiniseke ngokupheleleyo ukuba ixanduva liza kuwa emagxeni abo ngokufika kwesidalwa esincinci ekhayeni labo. Indlela yokuqonda ukuba "umzuzwana" weza, siza kuthetha namhlanje.
Awuqali mntwana ukusombulula iingxaki
Kungekudala imeko, kodwa iyenzeka - uninzi lweengxaki zomtshato lukhethekile ukusombulula ukuzalwa komntwana, emva koko lwalumangalisiwe ngokunyaniseka: "Kwakutheni ukuze kube nzima ngakumbi?" Umntwana akafanele afezekise indima yoxolo, ukongeza, utshintsho kwintshukumo eqhelekileyo yobomi ngokufika komntwana unokukhulisa ubudlelwane bakho kunye neqabane. Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukuze uzicwangcise ngokupheleleyo kwaye uqiniseke ukuba isibini sakho silungele eli nyathelo linoxanduva.
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Uyaqonda ukuba umntwana uza kutshintsha
Ngelixa umntwana engavelanga ebomini bakho, awuyi kuba nakho ukuqonda indlela ekunzima ngayo ukubonelela ubomi obutofotofo kumntwana omncinci. Ingabonakala kuwe ukuba ebomini bakho phantse akukho nto izakutshintsha: Uza kuchitha ixesha elininzi kwinethiwekhi yentlalo, sebenza ekuqaleni kunye nonyaka ungacwangcisa iholide. Ngelishwa, akwenzeki. Kwiinyanga ezintandathu zokuqala zobomi, ufunda nje ukuphila ubomi obutsha apho wena nomntwana wakho, malunga neshedyuli yobomi obudlulileyo, ubuncinci, kufuneka ulibale.
Uyaqonda ukuba imfundo yomntwana iyasebenza
Umntwana ovele kwintombazana yakho okanye odibene naye kwipaki nabazali unokufa ukuze ingcinga iya kuvela: "Ndifuna le!" Ngokukodwa ukuba abazali balo mntwana bathethe ngolonwabo lwabo kunye nendlela ingxaki encinci ebanika umntwana. Bambalwa abantu abaya kuthi baxelele ukuba ukongeza kwisidima somntwana, kuya kufuneka ujongene neengxaki kunye notshintsho apho ungaba mnyama khona. I-sober ivavanye amandla akho.
Ukulungele ukuvela umntwana ngemali
Enye impazamo enkulu yokuba abazali abancinci bavumelekile lumbono wokuba ihlabathi alikho ngaphandle kwabantu abalungileyo. Ewe, nceda ungafumana kwizalamane nabahlobo bam ekuqaleni, kodwa umntwana osele ekhulile, kokukhona uya kuba nakho ukucaphukisa intsapho okanye uhlale nomntwana: "Awukwazi ukwenza nanamhlanje!" Ukuba awufuni kuphulukana nomhlobo, ungaze umxelele eli binzana. Khumbula ukuba ungabala kuphela amandla akho, kwaye ke, kunye neqabane, xabisa amathuba akho ezilwanyana, kwaye ukuba "iinkwenkwezi aziguqukiyo," ihlehlise imbonakalo yomntwana okwethutyana.