"Mholweni!
Sifuna ugqirha wezengqondo. Ndineminyaka engama-31 ubudala kwaye anditshatanga. Kwaye ndifuna kakhulu usapho! Kwaye ndifuna ukubopha ubomi bam hayi u-Ababa owo, kodwa nomntu olungileyo. Kubonakala ngathi ayisiyo-urba. Kukho imfundo ephezulu. Ndisebenza ngempumelelo. Kodwa ngamadoda ngandlela thile engazange asonge. Ucebisa ntoni? Ngaba zikho iindlela zokufumana i-satellite yobomi? I-Elena ".
Molo, Elena!
Dibana nesatellite yobomi ngokuqinisekileyo kunokwenzeka. Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kukungahlali ekhaya kwaye ungalindi inkosana kwi-Whiteree "," iya kuthetha iqhekeza lezinto ezincomekayo, liya kuvuma iSeredede, iya kuvuma izipho.
Into yokuqala kwinto ekufuneka iqaliswe kukuziphatha umbuzo: "Ungubani na, yindoda yephupha lam?" Yizame ngokweenkcukacha ukuyichaza, unokubhala ngokubhala. Aze emva koko azibuze: Ngaba ikhona indoda enjalo? Kwaye, ukuba impendulo ilungile, inyathelo elilandelayo iya kuba luluhlu lweendawo apho unokufumana khona umntu onjalo. Nasiphi na izandi zenkani, zama ngakumbi ukuya apho kulula ukudibana khona. Emva kokuthandana kubalulekile ukunika othando lwakho ukuba aqonde ukuba unomdla kuwe, into oyifunayo. Konke oku akulula. Amabhinqa amaninzi ayamelana nembono yokukhangela i-satellite yobomi, kwaye ngaphandle, ngandlela thile bovelwano lwakho. Oku kwenzeka, okokuqala, ngenxa ye-stereotypes kwinkcubeko yethu yokuba umfazi kufuneka oyise. Kwangelo xesha, akufuneki abonise nayiphi na imisebenzi. Okwesibini, esi sisiphumo sombono woluvo lokuba umntu ufanele enze konke konke kuthi. Xa umntwana ezelwe, bamkhathalela, bondle, bambathisa ngesandla - ngokubanzi, basebenzela zonke iimfuno zabo. Ukuba umntwana ufumana ingqalelo ngakumbi, xa ekhula, uhlala eqinisekile ukuba zonke iingxaki kuye kufuneka zicombulule abanye. Ngenxa yoko, ngenxa yezi zizathu zibini, kusekwe kwezi zizathu zibini, kudala ukuqinisekiswa okungafanelekanga, ukuzithintela ukuba zive njengenkosi yobomi bakhe. Kodwa ihlabathi elisingqongileyo alikwazi kokusonwabisa, kuphela ngokwazo linoxanduva loku kwaye likwazi ukutshintsha into. Ke kuqala masinike umntu ithuba lokufumana. I-anecdote ibaluleke kakhulu kwesi sihloko, xa le ndoda ithandaza kuThixo, ifuna imali, kwaye uThixo uyamva aze amthume imali: "Ndiza kumthumela njani imali? Wayengathenga itikiti le-lettery! " Ke ungaphoswa ithuba lakho, thenga amatikiti;)
Enye inqaku elibalulekileyo lokungafikeleli kwimiqondiso ebandayo yendoda. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, uninzi lwethu luphila intsomi yokuba umfazi kufuneka angabi nakho. Kwaye ngale nto kufuneka ulumke. Ngapha koko, umntu ngamnye unamava okuthi agatya umfazi owalatyayo, ngokufuthi ukusukela kwi-kindergarten (amakhwenkwe akhuliswa ngoomama nootitshala abakwi-boeergarten, njengommiselo, abafazi). Kwaye akafuni ukuphinda amava kwaphela. Intliziyo engozini yomntwana ihlala ifihla ngasemva kwenkathalo. Ke le ndoda ibalulekile ukuba iqonde ukuba ibalulekile kwaye inomdla. Ngokubanzi, ukwamkelwa yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokubeka umntu ngokwakho. Ke bonakalisa umdla onyanisekileyo ebomini bakhe, mandithethe ngawe nangezo zinto azinobuchule kuye. Ngokuthe ngcembe uya kuba ubalulekile kwaye ufuna yena ngumntu. Ewe kunjalo, kuya kufuneka uwele kwenye i-right. Kufanelekile ukuzama ukulungelelana phakathi komsebenzi ogqithisileyo kunye noduko- kwaye oko, kunye nomnye abantu boyikisa abantu.
Enye ingcebiso encinci enokuba luncedo. Khumbula iifilimu ngamabali othando onwabisayo. Landela imodeli yokuziphatha yomfazi. Mhlawumbi ngeendlela ezithile ozisebenzisayo;) olona hlobo lwe-win-win kukulinganisa umfanekiso wakho kwindoda ethile. Thetha naye ngaphambili, zama ukuqonda ukuba yintoni ebaxabisa abantu, kwaye iyaphelisa. Kwaye uzame ukuhamba ulwazi olufunyenweyo. Kwakhona, musa ukugqithisa-le modeli yokuziphatha kuya kufuneka idibanise ubomi bonke. Kwaye uphephe ukuba ugqibelele kwaye ungacacanga, kwaye ke iya kuba sisingcikivo sokungaphili kokungafezeki kwakhe.
Kwaye ekugqibeleni, kunokwenzeka ukuba kwimiqondiso esemthethweni umntu uya kukulinga, kwaye intliziyo ayiyi kubeka kwakhona. Kunye ne-cice versing. Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, le nto kufuneka ihlawulwe kukufumana ingqwalaselo kukungahambelani kweenjongo kunye nemigaqo-nkqubo, kunye nokuhambelana ngokwesondo.