Nali iphupha lomnye wafundiswayo, umfana:
"Intombi yam nentombi yam ilala kwaye inxibelelana ngolwalamano lwethu.
Ngeli xesha ndiyasebenza, kodwa ndiqinisekile ukuba ayihlali ebhedini, kwaye inyamalale kwenye indawo. Kwaye ke ndijonga phantsi kwengubo kwaye ndibone ukuba ibhedi yam iphele ndawo, ayizanga ndawo, kodwa ishiywe nathi ebhedini. "
Eli phupha libonisa ngokugqibeleleyo ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kubudlelwane nentombi yakhe.
Kubonakala ngathi ngamagama yonke into igudileyo kwaye ichanekile, kwaye imeko ingaphezulu kwe-usondeleyo. Kodwa kwangaxeshanye, ukusondelelana kutshatyalalisiwe. Ufihla uhlobo lobumdaka kulwalamano lwabo. Kwaye ucinga ukuba ayihlali phakathi kwabo, kwaye iyanyamalala kwenye indawo. Ngapha koko, yonke le nto ibonakalayo, kwaye iba yinto ngokucacileyo.
Abantu abaninzi - omabini la madoda nabafazi - bacebisa ukuba ukuba amaqabane abo angaphantsi kweempazamo zabo, iya kuba yingenelo kubudlelwane.
Kukho abo bangatsho ukuba ukuthandana kunye okanye kudala utshintsho. Abaninzi abatsho ukuba abanelisekanga, ukuze bangazenzi ukwenzakalisa kwaye bangakhubeki iqabane.
Eli phupha libonakalisile le ntsomi, iphupha lakhe!
Elinye inkalo enokuboniswa kunye nephupha.
Ephupheni, iqhawe kunye nentombazana yakhe bathetha ngolwalamano lwabo. Mhlawumbi ngalo mzuzu ufuna ukufihla i-feeds, kukwakho izihloko kulwalamano lwabo, ezithathwa njengengafanelekanga, ezinqatshelwe kwaye zimdaka, ngenxa yoko akufuneki bakhathazeke. Kufuneka banyamalale bodwa. Umzekelo, uninzi lwabasetyhini abafuni kuva ukuba umntu unokuthandabuza okuthile okanye ubathande kangangoko bangathanda. Okanye ungafuni ukwazi nantoni na edlulileyo intanda yakhe. Kodwa kunokubakho ezinye iziganeko, ubudlelwane, iimvakalelo eziphazamisayo kwaye zichukunyiswe ukuza kuthi ga ngoku. Ke, imixholo efanayo inqatshelwe. Babonakala ngathi bayasithintela ubudlelwane obukhoyo. Ke ngoko, amaqabane ahlala enyula isicwangciso esiliqili: Ungathethi ngento enokwenzakalisa umntu wabo amthandayo. Bacinga ukuba ubudlelwane babo buza kucoceka.
Ngapha koko, kukho izihloko ezingaphezulu kunye nezingaphezulu kakhulu kunye neendawo ezimbalwa zokunxibelelana ngokusondeleyo.
Mhlawumbi iphupha letyala lethu lithetha ukuba kulwalamano lwakhe nomhlobo wakhe ngelo xesha kubonakala ngathi akukho lungelo kwiimfuno zakhe zabantu. Kubandakanya into endala kwaye engafunekiyo. Kuya kufuneka athobele ubunyulu obugqibeleleyo, ongenakukwazi, okoko oku kuyamchasa kunye nobume bayo.
Kuyathakazelisa ukufunda ngakumbi ngamaphupha akho ngamaphupha? Emva koko bhalele ngeposi: [email protected].
UMaria Zmvuskova, ugqirha wengqondo, ugqirha wonyango losapho kunye noqeqesho olukhokelayo kwiZiko loQeqesho loQeqesho loQeqeshe leMarika Khazina