Ngaba umtya wengqondo ubulala njani ubomi bethu? Ungayilahla njani kwaye wonwabe?
Uninzi alucingi malunga nefuthe lenkunkuma yengqondo kubomi babo. Kodwa kuqala siya kuhlalutya oko kuyinkunkuma yengqondo. Inkunkuma yengqondo lixesha elide lenze ixesha elide iseti yeendlela zokuziphatha, iindlela, iingcinga, iinkolelo, iinkolelo kunye nezigqibo ezahlukeneyo.
Zimbini iintlobo zenkunkuma yengqondo. Eyokuqala inokuthintela uloyiko, amathandabuzo kunye nokuvalwa okutshayo, okwinqanaba leqonga le-subconstay wena kwaye unganikezeli ithuba lokuzama into entsha. Uhlobo lwesibini lubandakanya ukujonga okukhulu, iinkolelo kunye nezigqibo ezahlukeneyo. Kungenxa yolu hlobo lwenkunkuma yengqondo yokuba ubunyulu bobuchule bokuqonda kolwazi olutsha lungasoloko lulahlekile, oludluliselwa kwisihluzi esele simiselwe iingcinga esele zimiselwe iingcinga esele zimiselwe iingcinga esele zimiselwe iingcinga. Ngokwemvelo, imbeko yengqondo ithintela amava amatsha kunye neemvakalelo ezintsha, ngaphandle kokujonga ngokupheleleyo nangokuguquguqukayo ngemibuzo emininzi kungangabikho.
Kodwa ungayisusa njani inkunkuma yengqondo, ukuba uBomi obuyityhefu? Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kukuqonda ukuba akukho meko ikhethekileyo kuyo nayiphi na imicimbi. Oko kukuthi, izimvo ezimiselweyo malunga nento yokuba "bonke abantu bayatshintsha" okanye "ikati emnyama egqibile ukuba iphumelele indlela, ngelishwa" inokuhlangana ngenyani ye-50%. Uncedo lokufakelwa olunje lunokwenzeka ngamanqanaba aliqela. Okokuqala kufuneka uqonde ukuba zeziphi iinkolelo ezikuthintela ekuonwabiseni ngokupheleleyo apho uyiyo kwaye ufumane imvakalelo ephezulu kwaye uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde ubonakale kwindalo esingqongileyo. Ngaba uyabuthanda ubomi obuphilayo, okanye into elahlekileyo? Umbuzo omnye, impendulo onokuthi ufumane ngayo kwangoko. Emva koko, kuya kufuneka 'uphelise inkunkuma yengqondo. Oko kukuthi, kuyimfuneko ukutshintsha izimvo ezimiselweyo nemizekelo yokwenyani evela kuBomi, eya kuthi ixhaswe zizibakala zezi. Ukuba umntu ovela kwizinto ezijikelezileyo ukwazile ukwenza into ngokuchasene nenkolelo yakho yexesha elide, emva koko oku kunokuthathwa njengesiseko. Kwangelo xesha, kubalulekile ukuba ugxile kwizinto zanamhlanje.
Nayiphi na inkunkuma yengqondo inokuba luhlobo "lomgibe", apho kuya kuba nzima ukuphuma khona ukuphuma. Ngokuxhomekeke ekungabikho kocalucalulo olungenangqondo, kunokwenzeka ukuba wenze kwaye ufumane amava akho awodwa.