Kwanakwezona zibini zitshatileyo, iingcali zengqondo ibizwa ngokuba yi-fippishots kubudlelwane. Kwaye apha kubalulekile kumanqanaba okuqala okuqonda ukuba yonke into ayigungqiyo phakathi kwakho, kwaye iqale ukwenza into. Ngesicelo somqeqeshi obhinqileyo, ingcali ekukhetheni isibini esifanelekileyo somtshato kunye nobudlelwane, uJulia Lansk uxele malunga neempawu zokuqala zendoda ezikuthile kuwe.
Kudala kuqaphela ukuba i-Psychology ye-Psychology ingaqondakali ngokupheleleyo kubafazi kunye ne-vice vice. Ngapha koko, asisoloko siqonda amagama omnye komnye. Nangona kufanelekile kumabinzana asele eguqulwe yaba yi-cliché, ngamanye amaxesha inokuqondwa ukuba ubudlelwane bakho buza kufika esiphelweni. Nazi amabinzana aqhelekileyo afuna ukunyanga ngayo konke okunzulu.
Julia lansk
1. "Umangalisa kakhulu, ndiqinisekile ukuba ungazifumana umntu olungileyo kunam" . Ibinzana elinje litsho Indoda esele icwangcisa ukubaleka kulwalamano. Ngenxa yoko, uzama ukubeka yonke into ekukhanyiseni into yokuba iya kukwenza oko, kwaye ityhafile ityhala ngokukhangela itheko elinenzuzo nenomdla.
2. "Qoo. Ngaba kufuneka uchaze yonke into? " Ibinzana eli, elingumthetho, elindeleka ukuba lisithi: "Kwenzeka ntoni phakathi kwethu?" Ingcebiso evulekileyo evulekileyo yokuba ubudlelwane buyekisiwe.
3. "Ndidiniwe njani ngemicimbi yakho kunye nemibono ye-chiesimu." Ibinzana elinjalo lemvakalelo libonisa ukungabikho kwakhe okuqokelelekileyo, okuthetha kuphela ukuba lonke ixesha aliginyele iimpazamo zakho kwaye liphosakele, kodwa isitya sizele.
4. "Andinaxesha, ndinabahlobo, izinto - kufuneka ndihambe." Ndikholelwe, indoda efuna ukubona umfazi uya kukhangela iindlela kunye namathuba, kwaye lowo ungafuniyo - izizathu. Ukuba ubaleka, izinto eziza kuqala kuye. Mhlawumbi akukho bahlobo bakho apho. Mhlawumbi ukhangela isizathu sokuba angabi nawe.
5. "Ndixakekile ndabuya kamva." Njengomthetho, akabuyanga, qatha ukuba akazange athethe nantoni na, ulibale isithembiso esinikiweyo. Kwaye okunjalo okungekho nzalisekileyo okuthenjiswe ngulo luphawu olucacileyo alunamdla kuwe.
6. "Akukho meko." Kukho ingxelo enjalo: nditsho ukuba ndifuna ukukubona, kodwa uphendula ukuba kuyabanda ngaphandle. Kodwa akubandisi esitratweni. Okukhona eli binzana livakala, ukuzithemba ngakumbi kufanele ukuba imeko ayikho kwimeko.
7. "Ndinayo yonke into." Oku kuthetha ukuba kubomi bendoda ngoku yonke into ingasebenziyo njengoko ingathanda. Kwaye kakhulu ngakumbi, ubudlelwane bakho naye bukwancanca kule filnel yokungoneliseki.
8. "Ndidinga ukuba ndedwa." Indoda icela ukuthatha ikhefu kubudlelwane, iphinde iphinde iphinde ibuye yonke into. Kodwa esi sicelo asisoloko sikhokelele nantoni na elungileyo: ayiyothuba, kwaye uyeke. Ufuna nje ukususa kwaye uthathe ikhefu kuwe.
9. "Ngaba awudinwanga kukubuza?" Indoda inobuqili ukuba uguqukele kuMama, mlandele kwizithende, unexesha lokuphoswa, nokuba ukhe wabonana.
10. "mka!" Ibinzana eliphefumlelweyo lisenokungabi ngumnxeba wokuqala, kodwa okokugqibela. Yonke into icacile apha ngaphandle kokuphawula.