Izifundo zamva nje zikhamisela i-stereotype eyaziwayo ukuba amadoda anobuchule ngakumbi ekubonakaliseni okomnandi kunesondo elifanelekileyo. Ke, abafazi ngamaxesha ama-4 ahlala bebizwa njengesizathu sokuqhekezwa kobudlelwane bengxaki kwicala lomyeni wangaphambili, endaweni yokuba ezo ngxaki zawo. Ngeli xesha, amadoda ahlala engazamkeli imida yabo kwimicimbi enolwazi kwaye aneliseke zizakhono zabo. Umfazi ungazinikela njani ngaphandle kolonwabo okanye ulwalamano nendoda yakhe emthandayo?
"Ngelishwa, indoda ayiyi kufunda kwaye yenze umzamo" ongezelelweyo, ukuba uqhele iminyaka yokwenza uthando kwicebo elithile, kwaye yonke into ifanelekile. Akayi kusiqonda isizathu sokuba into itshintshe, ukuba yonke into ilungile. Ukuba le ndoda ngequbuliso iyaqonda ukuba utshintsho olufunekayo luyafuneka, luya kubangela ixhala kuye, kwaye akufuneki ukuba lihambelane neengcinga zesondo. UBulumko babasetyhini kukuba indoda ayifanele iqonde ukuba uzama ukutshintsha okanye ukufundisa, "utshilo umqeqeshi wenyama yesandla.
Ingcali icebisa abasetyhini ukuba babonakalise umonde, bangazenzi ulindelo olwenziwe liqabane, olunokukhokelela ekutyeni, kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu - ukungavumeli utshintsho olubukhali kwaye konke okutsha ukuzisa ngokuthe ngcembe. Ukondla ukukhusela iqabane, abasetyhini bahlala bebonisa oko bakuthandayo, kwaye bangakhange benze ntoni, ke umntu angayiqondi kakuhle, kwaye xa efanele atshintshe amaqhinga, kwaye xa efanele atshintshe amaqhinga, kwaye xa efanele atshintshe amaqhinga, kwaye xa efanele atshintshe amaqhinga, kwaye xa efanele atshintshe amaqhinga. Kodwa le yeyona nto ibalulekileyo! Ke ngoko, umsebenzi ophambili womfazi kukudlulisela kwindoda evusayo, ingachukumisi ikratshi lakhe.
"Kukangaphi na, bafazi, zama ukuvala amehlo akho kwinto yokuba endithandayo ayilunganga ebhedini. Ngapha koko, akuqhelekanga ukuba zenziwe "izinto ezincinci" kwaye zingayi kumphathi, ukuba unokufundisa ngesondo, "imeko ye-Ekaterina Libimov ineentetho.
I-Ekaterina Libimova, ekhokela umqeqeshi wesini saseRussia