Ukuba uya nakweyiphi na ivenkile yencwadi, unokuntywila kwiincwadi ngamagama anjenge: "Abafazi kunye namadoda kukungafani ngokungakhathali." Imo yethu yahlukile, kodwa amaphupha ethu asakhupha ukuba amadoda nabafazi bafana nokufumana indlela eya kumphefumlo wamadoda ngawaphi amaphupha adutyulwe ngayo.
Lala - njengendlela yokuguquguquka kwengqondo yethu yokujamelana nokulimala, ubunzima kunye neengxaki, ityhila yonke ipelethi yamava amaphupha.
Phambi kwethu, iphupha, elixelela abathathi-nxaxheba kwelinye lamaqela ezengqondo. Sasinethamsanqa nawe ukuba wayesabelana ngesisa ngephupha lakhe, kodwa nendlela awayemjonga ngayo noncedo lwamanye amalungu eqela kunye nonyango.
Ke ngoku sinokufunda lo mzekelo wokusebenza namaphupha omfana omnye.
Lala:
"Sihamba nomhlobo wam, kwaye ikhokelela kwisandisi kwi-leash. Ngequbuliso i-proridgege yawa kwi-leash kwaye yakhwela kwindlela ephezulu, esihamba ngayo. Umhlobo wam uye wakhawuleza ukuba ambambe, kwaye ngelo xesha inqwelo yakhe enkulu yadutyulwa yaza yatsala unyawo. Usuka kwintlungu, kwaye ndiyakhwaza ndiphelelwe lithemba kwaye ndothuka kwaye ndivuke. "
Iqela lalibuza ngentlonelo iphupha, njengoko elinokuchaza le phupha ngokwakhe.
Ngoncedo lweendlela ezinomdla zokuqonda iphupha, apho bonke abathathi-nxaxheba kwiqela baqala ukudlala imilenze, amaphupha akhumbula umzuzu obhlungu kubuntu bakhe, owayengekamkhathazi kangangeminyaka emininzi.
Waxelela ukuba xa wayeneminyaka emi-6, wayenenja kwintsapho yakhe. Le nja yayiyintsapho eyathandwayo, yayidlala naye yahamba ngokuzonwabisa. Nangona kunjalo, inja yayingathobeli kwaye yayihlala iwela i-leash yokuqhuba iikati, ezinye izinja okanye nokuba nemoto edlulayo.
Ngenye yezi ntsuku, inja, eyahamba nayo yonke intsapho, yaphinda yaphula i-leash. Amaphupha ethu, awayeyinkwenkwana incinci, ebukele oyithandayo ehamba endleleni, kwaye wadutyulwa phantsi ekufeni, engenaxesha lokuthoba.
Inkwenkwe ikhala inkqantosi kwaye idiniwe, kodwa akukho nto ingenakwenziwa. Kwimibono yabantwana bakhe, wayecinga ukuba umqhubi washukumisa ngokukodwa inja yakhe. Kodwa malunga nale meko, izalamane zayo zazithetha kakhulu kunye naye. Ngenxa yoko, wayengenamntu wokuthetha malunga nokukhulisa kwaye ukuphosa intando yakhe. Kunye nabantwana ngeli xesha, ubomi bendalo, ubomi nokufa, okwenzekileyo emehlweni akhe. Inkwenkwe kwafuneka ichaze ukuba kwenzeke ntoni kwisilwanyana sasekhaya, esikukufa ngokubanzi kwaye simnike ukuba sikhathazeke le nyaniso kwaye silusizi.
Nangona kunjalo, njengoko wayexelela ukuba sele exelele sele ephupha kwiqela, abazali baphantse bazisa inja entsha kwaye bengazange babuyele kwimbali ebuhlungu.
Kodwa, njengoko uyazi, iimvakalelo ezimbi esingafiyo zihlala zingenakuphambuka kwinkumbulo yethu, kumava ethu kunye nokungazi kwethu. Kuba ngephupha, unyaka onyukayo nge-25, inkwenkwe yakwazi ukusinda ngokutsha amava akhe obukrakra.
Kamva, eli qela leqela lathi liziva ngathi ngumthwalo ngomphefumlo wakhe umntu, kwaye wakwazi ukujongisisa ihlabathi kwaye wayenethemba elingakumbi.
Ndiyazibuza, kwaye amaphupha akho anceda ukujamelana neengxaki kunye nobunzima? Thumela amaphupha akho kwi-imeyile: [email protected].
UMaria Zmvuskova, ugqirha wengqondo, ugqirha wonyango losapho kunye noqeqesho olukhokelayo kwiZiko loQeqesho loQeqesho loQeqeshe leMarika Khazina