Baya kubafundi abathandekayo, siyaqhubeka nokuhlola amaphupha ethu asinika imifanekiso ye-bizarre.
Ngomemelo, imifanekiso, isimboli, basikhumbuza ukuba umsebenzi wengqondo onzulu uye kuthi nokuba singasebenzi kule mizamo yokwazi.
Ukutshona kwamaphupha ethu, sinokuvula isigqubuthelo sezo nkonzo kunye neengxaki "zengqondo yethu.
Kutshanje ndiye ndafika kum ileta yethu enomdla kwaye eyachukumisayo yabafundi bethu, endandiyibukela ukuba ndiphendule.
Ke, iphupha awabelana nalo.
"Ndihlala ndiphupha iphupha elifanayo, okanye endaweni yoko, eyona nto iphambili yokulala iyafana, kwaye indawo entle yahlukile. Andikwazi ukuya ekhaya, ndiyalibala indlela ebuyayo, abantu abajikelezileyo okanye abandiqondi, okanye abazi iidilesi. Andikwazi ukubiza ekhaya ndicela indlela, okanye ndiyilibale inombolo yefowuni, okanye ibhetri yefowuni ikhutshiwe. Ndineminyaka engama-63, kwaye eli phupha liya kuphupha iminyaka engama-20. Eli asilo phupha lezinto ezoyikisayo, kodwa imvakalelo ingemnandi kakhulu. "
Ngaphambi kokuba anike iphupha lenguqulelo yakhe yohlalutyo, ndiza kwenza isicelo sakhe esingazi nto malunga neemeko zobomi bakhe kwiminyaka engama-20 eyadlulayo.
Nangona kunjalo, ndenza ingcinga yokuba eli phupha laqalisa ukuphupha kungekudala emva kwesiganeko esibalulekileyo ebomini bakhe, esenzeka kwiminyaka engama-40 ukuya kwangama-443.
Kuba eli bali ayaziwa, unokwenza izigqibo ngokubanzi.
I-Psychology yengqondo yengqondo yindawo yengqondo ephathelele kwiipateni zikarhulumente ebomini ebomini bakhe ubomi bakhe bonke-kudala yabele into enjalo njengentlekele.
Omnye wabo lixesha leshumi elivisayo. Kukuhamba ngesaqhwithi seemvakalelo, iimvakalelo, isiphaqhwithi sehomo, umntwana sele ephelile ukuba ngumntwana ngalo lonke ixesha, ahluthwa amalungelo onke aze afumane imisebenzi kunye nenqanaba elikhulu lenkululeko.
Ixesha lengxaki elaziwayo liphakathi kobomi, i.e. Phantse iminyaka engama-40. Phantse eli badala luphononongo lwehlabathi lonke, iinqobo zokuziphatha zobomi kunye neempawu zomhlaba.
Abantu abacekisekayo kunye nokhuphiswano bahlala emva kokuba babe nobungqina ngakumbi kwaye benikela ingqalelo kubathandekayo. Isikhokelo sabo sisoyitha zonke iindawo ezintsha nezintsha zithathelwa indawo ngokomeleza ubudlelwane kunye nabantu obathandayo.
Rhoqo, iintsapho ezininzi zahlukane xa amahlakani efikelela eli xesha. Amadoda nabafazi baqonda ukuba baba ngabazali, kwiindlela ezininzi zokugcina iintsapho zabantwana. Kwaye xa abantwana bekhula kwaye bengadingi ukhathalelo lweyure, ke abazali babo banenqanaba elithile lenkululeko, umdla kunye nenkanuko yokuqalisa ukuze uphile.
Njengommiselo, eli xesha linxulunyaniswa namava amaninzi, kubandakanya nokulangazelela kunye nentlungu ngokwamaphupha, engasabeki ukuba inikwe inyani, ngaphandle kokuba amaqela angaphandle kunye nezenzo ezisemncinci.
Abantu abaninzi ngeli xesha banqwenela kakhulu ukuba baqale banxibelelane nobomi babo ngokungathi uyafudukela ekutshoneni kwelanga, kwaye kwakungekho mfuneko yakutshintsha.
Ngamafutshane, eyona ngxaki yobomi bomntu okanye i-crains ineminyaka engama-40 yelo nxalenye yobomi, xa yayingamandla amaninzi, ukucinga, izimvo, iingcinga, impilo, esele idlulile.
Inxalenye yento efunyenweyo ebutsheni, ukusuka kwisikhundla sokukhula kunye nomntu omdala, akusekho kubonakala kuyinto exabisekileyo kwaye ibalulekile. Uxolo ochithwe kumava angenanto, iingxaki, abantu abangazange bathethe kwanto ebomini. Ngapha koko, njengoko usazi, ixesha liyabhabha ngokukhawuleza, kuba mdala siba.
Emva kokuba ngamnye wethu okanye enye le ngxaki, efumana indlu kwishawa: Izikhokelo eziqolileyo, amaxabiso kunye nemigaqo enokuthembeka. Njengokuba, umzekelo, ubudlelwane bokomoya kunye nobuninzi kunye nokuchuma kwendlu, ukuqonda kwabo kolwazi lwabo, ubuchule babo kunye neetalente zempilo, kunye nomphefumlo.
Ngendlela, igama elithi "ntlekele" lihlala linika umthunzi ombi, kwaye imeko izama ukungazinzisi kwaye uphephe. Kwaye ngokupheleleyo ngelize: Ingxaki yenye yamanqanaba afunekayo ophuhliso lwethu, kwaye uLizwi uguqule engcelele 'ibhulorho "okanye" inguqu ".
Ngoku masibuyele ephupheni lamaphupha ethu. Malunga ne-43, waqala 'ukulahleka yiNdlu, alibale indlela kuye, "kwaye kangangeminyaka engama-20 ngamaphupha, la mava abuyela kuyo.
Mhlawumbi umxelela ukuba usahlangabezana nemeko ethile yeminyaka engama-20 eyadlulayo. Ayizange idlule ngaphandle komkhondo, kuba waphulukana nekhaya. Okanye into awayeyigqala eqinile kwaye inokuthenjwa, njengendlu.
Kwaye ekubeni yonke le nto yenzeke ngexesha lentlekele okanye inguqu, yayingayidluli okanye ayibalulekanga. Ephupheni, umfundi wethu usafuna indlela yokubuyela kwinto yokuba yayilikhaya yayinokuthenjwa kwaye ingashukumi. Kwaye ngoku akanakubuya kuye, mhlawumbi ngenxa yokuba ngoku indlu yakhe kufuneka ibe ngandlela thile: ezinye izinto eziphambili, ezinye izinto eziphambili, ezinye izinto eziphambili, isimo sengqondo sazo kunye nobuchule babo. Ezolukho kubuthongo lobulumko.
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UMaria Zmvuskova, ugqirha wengqondo, ugqirha wonyango losapho kunye noqeqesho olukhokelayo kwiZiko loQeqesho loQeqesho loQeqeshe leMarika Khazina