Ubudlelwane obuphi, akukho mntu umangaliswayo. Phakathi kwabafazi, kwanemfashini yokuba neqabane. Ngaba lukhona umahluko omkhulu kwiminyaka yobudala, ukuba yomelele kangakanani umtshato, apho umfazi mdala kangakanani kunendoda, nokuba i-PSChologist yosapho i-Olga i-Olga rosiv iyaziwa ukuba i-PSChologist yosapho iyaziwa ukuba usapho lwengqondo luyaziwa.
Namhlanje, inani elikhulu labafazi abaphumeleleyo nabasaziwa kakuhle banokuqhayisa ngomtshato ophumelelayo kunye nendoda encinci. Umdlali we-Julianna Moore phantse iminyaka elishumi emdala kunendoda yakhe uBartarlich. UHugh Jackman omncinci omncinci kunenkosikazi yakhe iminyaka elishumi elinesithathu. Imvumi shakira i-gerard ye-gerard ye-gerard iminyaka elishumi. I-Yana Rudkovskaya i-Evgeny iPalhenko iminyaka esibhozo. Umahluko phakathi kweminyaka yobudala ephakathi kwe-Grishava kunye neqabane lakhe uAlexander Nesterov yiminyaka elishumi elinambini.
Kutheni le nto abafana abancinci beza kubudlelwane nabafazi abadala?
Ngokutsho koochwephesha bezengqondo, oochwephesha, oogqirha, umahluko onamandla kubudala - iminyaka emihlanu ukuya kwesixhenxe, kwaye indoda ifanele ibe mdala kwisibini.
Kwiiperithi ezinjalo kukho uthando, ukuqondana nokuziqonda kunye nokuhlonipha ngokunxulumene neqabane, kuba umdala kwaye ngexesha lomtshato sele ekwazi ukufezekisa into ebomini, yenza isiseko sosapho lakhe elizayo. Kule mibutho yabasebenzi, umfazi, njengommiselo, angakwazi ukusebenza, ukubandakanyeka endlwini nabantwana. Olu hlobo lolwalamano lungachazwa njengosolusapho. Nangona kunjalo, ukususela ngalo mzuzu xa ibhinqa laqala ukusebenza kwaye lifumene isikhundla esithile, iindima kusapho kunye noluntu ziye zatshintsha. Abafazi bafumana inkululeko kwaye baqala ukuchaza iimeko zabo. Kwaye umtshato ovela kusolusapho wajika waba liqabane. Kuyo loo mibutho yabasebenzi, namhlanje ungafumana amaqabane ngomahluko kubudala, kwaye umfazi uya kuba mdala.
Lunamandla kangakanani ubudlelwane obunjalo?
Imitshato efanayo inokuthi ide. Abafana abatsha batsala abaFundi abaDala ngokuyintloko: Inenekazi leqonga le-hume ayisabalali kwinto yokuba umntu makayenze - uliqabane elilinganayo. Kwangelo xesha, i-psychology yendoda yazi ngokugqibeleleyo, ngexesha elifanelekileyo lilungele ukuthatha igxalaba lakhe, lingaxhasi ngokungapheliyo, kodwa ngokwenza izinto ezibonakalayo. Unokuvala amehlo kwezinye iintsilelo ezithile. Ewe kunjalo, akunakwenzeka ukuba ukhanyele ukuba ngamanye amaxesha kukho ubalo kwimitshato enjalo. Kodwa amaxesha amaninzi indoda inyula kuphela imali, unxibelelwano kunye nenqanaba lentlalontle. Mhlawumbi ebuntwaneni, abantu abanjalo babenolwalamano oluhle nonina okanye umakhulu wakhe, kwaye ke, xa yayilixesha lokucwangciswa kobomi bakhe, banyula eyona nto ikhululekileyo.
Yintoni iqulathe umtshato ongalinganiyo?
Umtshato nendoda encinci kakhulu, inika uxinzelelo oluthile kumfazi. Kwaye zininzi izibonelelo. Umtshato ngokhetho oluncinci-ivuselelo elikhulu alizaluki kwaye linganikezeli. Ngapha koko, ihlala yenye yezizathu zoqhawulo-mtshato kwimitshato yohlobo losolusapho iba yinto yokuba umfazi uyayeka ukulandela. Uyalibala ukuba amadoda athande amehlo abo rhoqo. Ke ngoko, bafuna ukubona kunye nebhinqa eliyiqinileyo nelihle abazikhathaleleyo. Ibhinqa elinemkhulu kunendoda yakhe alinalo ixesha lokuphumla, linolwazi kakuhle lo khuphiswano kwimarike ye "Brides", ngoko ke kufuneka kubekho amanyathelo amabini ngaphambili.