I-manipulators ifumaneka kubomi bethu kuzo zonke iindawo, kodwa eyona inobungozi ilapha, esikule nto. Kwaye aba ngabazali bethu. Rhoqo umzali-mbini uncamathela ekufutshane nomntwana wakhe osenyongweni, kuba akahlambelanga nantoni na malunga nayo kwaye, okona kubaluleke nangayiphi na indawo, kwaye umntu omdala uyayazi. Umntwana akaqondi ixesha lokuba imeko esekhaya ikwisiqhelo, kodwa nangayiphi na imeko avakalelwa kukuba angakhululekanga, ahlangabezana nezalamane zakhe. Umntwana onjalo ukhula ngequbuliso kuzo zonke iintlobo zokuphazamiseka, ukuphelisa okungaphantsi konyaka kwi-ofisi ye-psychotherapist. Namhlanje sagqiba kwelokuba siyifumane indlela amabinzana anokubalwa ngayo umzali onetyhefu kunye nendlela yokuhlangabezana nengcinezelo enjalo.
"Kodwa i-Tamnatshin Nyana ..."
I-Flash Flash Ihlokondiba, elivele kwinethiwekhi Isibini sabantwana sibuyele, enyanisweni asimnandi kakhulu. Eyona nto yayiyinto ethile "yonyana yentombi yonina ihlala ilunge kunawe, kwaye ke, yilahleko engapheliyo. Iskimu esinjalo sihlala sisetyenziswa kakhulu abazali abanetyhefu: "Uyajonga apho uSasha wangena khona! Ngekhe uvunyelwe nangaphakathi. "Kwaye bonke emoyeni enje emva kokuba bethetha nomhlobo wakhe, umntwana wakhe waphumelela ngempumelelo iimviwo kwiyunivesithi evumayo. Ngamaxesha anjalo, ukuhla komntwana okuqalisa umntwana, umzali uzama 'ukufuna ingqondo "umntwana oqhekekileyo, ngaloo ndlela enzakalise kakhulu umntu omdala onokwazi ukujamelana nengqondo.
"Ndihlala ndingcono!"
Umphathi womzali uhlala ewonke. Olu hlobo lunqabile, kodwa ngolunye lwezona ntlobo zingathandekiyo zabazali abanetyhefu. Ibinzana eliqhelekileyo lesihlobo esinjalo liya kuba lisithi: "Kuyamangalisa, uyamthanda umyeni wakho ngento efana nento, kwaye ndikhangela le nto indala, nangona ndimdala kunawe." Akukho nto ingenabungozi apha- kukho ukuncipha komntwana wakho, ukuze kubhetele ukubonakala kungcono kwawakhe amehlo.
Umzali onetyhefu uhlala enciphisa zonke iinzame zomntwana
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"Ninoyolo ntoni?"
Olu hlobo lwabazali luphakamisa ii-neurotics zexesha elizayo kwaye ziphazamisa kakhulu abantu. Abantwana abakwiintsapho ezinjalo phantse akukho nto ayinakuthi akukho nto ingenakutyala, nokuba sinobuthathaka komzuzu njengokutya iilekese ngaphambi kwesidlo sangokuhlwa, umzali ufuna ulwaphulo-mthetho lonke. Umntwana uhlala esenza zonke ii-whimps zomzali, ukuba likhona ixesha, kusenza oko kunje, kodwa ngeli xesha, umzali akafane avumele uhlobo lomsebenzi ngaphandle ulwazi lwakhe.
Ngaba ikhona indlela yokuphuma kubudlelwane obunetyhefu kunye nomzali wakho?
Bamba umgama
Eyona ndlela ilula yokunciphisa ifuthe elibi lomzali kukude. Rhoqo, umntwana kunzima ukwahlukanisa izalamane zawo, nokuba unengxaki yendlu yakhe, kodwa kufanelekile ukuba uqale ukhangele iindlela zokupheka kude nezihlobo ezityhefu, kwaye ucinga ngokubuya ngokulula ayiveli.
Fumana inkxaso
Njengoko inkxaso kunye nenkuthazo inokuba njengezinye izalamane, kwaye abahlobo abalungileyo abaya kuba nakho ukufumana amagama afanelekileyo kwaye ngokuthe ngcembe, kodwa amanxeba akho ngokuqinisekileyo aya kuphilisa. Ungabelana nabanye nabantu obathandayo ngomoya womntu, okuthetha ukuba iimvakalelo ezimbi aziyi kukutya ngaphakathi.
Musa ukoyika ukunxibelelana nengcali
Sisoyika ii-ofisi zengqondo kunye neendlela zengqondo, nangona le kuphela kwendlela yokucombulula iingxaki zakho. Ukuba kukho ithuba elinjalo, nxibelelana nengcali kunye nabazali bam, mhlawumbi abaqondi nje ukuba lenzakalise yonke eli xesha likuqhubayo ngeendlela zabo zokukhulisa.