UMarianna Abivova yingcali yengqondo, umgqatswa wezayensi zengqondo. Unesikolo kwaye uphumelele isikolo kwiZiko le-Samara le-Palculagy Psychology yeKliniki yeKliniki yeKliniki yeKliniki yeKliniki yeKliniki ye-Psychotherapy. Ubala umntu obangela ukuba kulo msebenzi wakhe ukhokelele kumnqweno wokuqonda ingqondo yengqondo yomntu. UMarian Abianna Abivtov uthi: "Ngexesha lokufunda, kwabonakala kum le ngcazelo yengqondo endiyifumanayo mna nophuhliso lwam, , chaza uElizashe. " Uvuma ngokunyaniseka ukuba ukhetha i-NLP ye-Carlchoanalysis, njengoko ethanda ukusebenza ngesiphumo kwaye efuna ukuqaqamba emehlweni abathengi, kwaye hayi "i-psychoanalysis yingcali yezemali, kodwa ndikhetha ukusombulula iingxaki kwaye kwenza abantu bonwabe. "
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Kule mihla, i-psychology iyakwazi ngakumbi ngakumbi. Ukuba ngaphambili abantu bagalela umphefumlo wabo kubahlobo, namhlanje uninzi lwabo baqonda ukuba iingxaki zibhetele ukusombulula ngengcali. Kodwa emva koko kwavela omnye umbuzo: Njani kunye neentlobo zoqeqesho kunye neengcali zengqondo zikhetha le ngcali? Ngaba ikhona imiqondiso yokwahlula ingcali kwi-charbalan?
Umbuzo kukugalela umphefumlo kwi-psychologist okanye hayi, enyanisweni yimpikiswano. Kule mbuzo, konke kuxhomekeke kwiinjongo ozithandayo. Ukuba injongo yakho kukuthetha, kwaye kuya kuba lula kuwe, unokuyeka oku. Kodwa ukuba awufuni kufuna ukuthotyelwa kwenkukhu yomphefumlo, kodwa ufuna ukutshintsha, tshintsha imeko yakho yokuziphatha, cinga ngokukhula komntu okanye ungafuni ukwenza naziphi na iimpazamo kwixesha elizayo, ke kufuneka ungahambi Kumhlobo wakho, kodwa kwi-psychologists entle eyaziyo malunga nezinto azithethayo, inolwazi kunye neengcali ezinamandla kakhulu. Ngoncedo lwengqondo yengqondo, unokuhlengahlengisa ubomi bakho ngokukhawuleza, ukuqonda kwakho kunye nokubona ngokwakho (ezi zizinto ezahlukeneyo). Emva kolungiso, izenzo zakho ziya kwahluka- uya kufumana iziphumo zokwenyani.
Ngokuphatheni indlela yokuchonga ingcali phambi kwakho okanye hayi, akunzima. Kukho imiqobo eliqela apho ufuna ukuphosa i-psychologist, kwaye ukuba ingena ezi ngongoma zibalulekileyo, kuthetha ukuba inokujongana nayo. Into yokuqala endifuna ukuyifumana kuyo, ingcali kufuneka iqokelele ulwazi. Ayifanele igxile ekupapasheni kwiimagazini ezivuzayo: Ngoku xa kuvulwa naluphi na ushicilelo lunokukhubeka kwinqaku lengcali. Kodwa ngubani obhale eli nqaku? Mhlawumbi umshicileli, kulungile, ukuba ukusukela kwi-psychologistry. Ngelishwa, la manqaku ahlala eyalelwa okanye ahlawulwe. Ke ngoko, yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuba zizindululo zabahlobo kunye nabantu obaziyo, obathembayo nabanezimvo zabo ukuzimamela eyona ndlela ilungileyo. Ngenxa yokuba kubalulekile iimpapasho kwiimpapasho hayi storsis kwi Instagram ngengcebiso, kodwa iseti zinto: utshintsho kubomi phakathi kwalo eziqhelekileyo emva kwakho unyango; ixabiso elamkelekileyo; Intuthuzelo kunxibelelwano kwaye ngaphezulu. Inqaku lesibini ngokuqinisekileyo lubukho bemfundo ephezulu. Ngoba namhlanje kwi-Intanethi, unokufumana inani elikhulu lengqondo kwizicatshulwa zengqondo, ethi "Bhala" iisayithi, ipiyano, ixelele ngokwabo njengabantwana, kodwa xa uqala ukuqokelela ulwazi malunga nabo, ijika loo nto ukuba aba bantu banemfundo yomsebenzi. Lo ngumzuzu wengozi. Ukuba abantu abanayo imfundo, oko kuthetha ukuba baya kuxhomekeka kumava obomi abo, batolike ngenxa yakho, ngaloo ndlela beziqhelanisa neengxaki zabo, uloyiko, njl njl. Ngelixa umntu onesifo sengqondo siya kusekelwa kwi Ulwazi abalufumene eyunivesithi, indlela aqhuba ngayo phantsi kolwalathiso lwaBaphathiswa, izifundiswa, njl. Njl. Mastery idluliselwa kubandakanya ukubanjwa. Ngokwemvelo, imfundo yengqondo sisiseko esiqinisekisa ukuba umntu owenzele umntu owenzeyo kunye neengxaki zakho akazukukhathaza. Umzuzu wesithathu -Ukuba ufumene ugqirha wezengqondo, kwaye emva koko uziva udidekile kwingxaki yakho, ufundisiwe nangaphezulu, uxinezelekile, wathembisa unyango oluza kuthatha unyaka nangaphezulu, ndikholelwe , ayikufanelanga ukuya kwingcali enjalo. Kwi-Psychology, ukuba ngoku siza kukhupha ngaphandle isifo sengqondo (ngokutyumbayo), zininzi iindlela zokusombulula ingxaki yomntu kwaye iphinde ivelise yonke into efutshane kakhulu. Unyango lweenyanga okanye iminyaka luziqhelanisa namaqela onyangoUkuba udibana nesicelo se "ngcali" ukuba sithathe izihlandlo ezili-10 okanye size kwizihlandlo ze-Avenue kwaye ufumane ibhonasi - 2 simahla, kufuneka uqonde ukuba ayikho malunga nemali. Kule meko, izicwangciso "ezingcali" azibandakanyi uncedo olukhawulezileyo kuwe, umsebenzi wabo, njengoko kunokwenzeka, ukuqinisa inkqubo inde. Endodwa, ndiyayibona into endinokuyifumana kuyo nayiphi na imeko, kuyabiza. Namhlanje kukho iindlela ezininzi zengqondo, kodwa ayingabo bonke ingcali elungileyo. Le yindlela ihambelana neengcali kulo naliphi na inqanaba, kungekuphela kwi-psychology kuphela.
Kwaye njani ukuqonda ukuba uneengxaki ekufuneka uzicombulule emsebenzini? Ngapha koko, ihlala ibonakala ngathi ukuba nathi yonke into ilungelelene, lihlabathi nje nje elingalunganga kwaye abantu bafumana okubi ngokupheleleyo.
Abathengi beza rhoqo kum kwaye bathi banyathela indawo okanye banike isangqa kwaye babuyise okanye bekukho ubudlelwane be-10 kwaye bonke banjengekopi. Ewe kunjalo, kufanelekile ukunikela ingqalelo kwixesha lesishwankathelo kunye nokuphindaphinda kubomi bakho ngamaxesha amanye amaxesha. Zama, ukuwela kwimeko ethile, khumbula, kwaye nokuba yinto efana nento. Ihlala yenzeka ngolu hlobo: Imeko nganye yemeko elandelayo imbi ngakumbi kunangaphambili, kwaye oku kubonisa ukuba ingxaki onayo kwaye kungasonjululwanga. Inqaku lesibini - uhlala uwela kumazwe abuhlungu, apho ukufumanisa kunzima ukuphuma. Ukuqonda okwenzekayo kunye nawe kwaye kutheni le nto kanye iyingcali. Kodwa hayi rhoqo. Nawuphi na umntu onengqondo unokuyakha ngokuzimela imixokelelwane efanelekileyo kwaye uhlalutye apho konke kuqalile ukukhupha ingxaki yayo kwi-subconsion, ukuyibeka kwaye uyisombulule. Kwingcali yengqondo, kufuneka uhambe xa ungakwazi ukujamelana nale meko, sikwindawo efanayo, sihamba kwisangqa esivaliweyo, singayincedisi inyama yobuqili, uyayiqonda yonke into, kodwa Awunokwazi. Ndikholelwe, iiseshoni ezimbini ezivela kwingcali elungileyo ziya kwanela ukuze ubeke intloko yakho endaweni.
Ngaba intetho edumileyo "Uncedo ngokwakho lusebenza ngoochwephesha bezengqondo? Ngaba ugqirha wezengqondo unokuzinceda, ukuba unengxaki, umzekelo, ukuzithemba, kunye nolwalamano, namadoda, njl njl.
Masiqale ngento yokuba ugqirha wengqondo olungileyo ngumntu okokuqala (ngaphambi kokuba ibe yingcali yengcali) yagqiba zonke iingxaki zakhe: Wagqiba kwelokuba angakuphumelelanga. Ngokwemvelo, ubomi bakhe bobuqu buyekelekile kwimigaqo-siseko ye-necology yendawo yangaphakathi neyangaphandle, ebandakanya imeko yokuvisisana, ulonwabo, ukuzithemba, okusekwe ekuboneni okufanelekileyo, ukungasebenzi kakuhle, ukukwazi Nxibelelana nabantu, bahlabe, bavakalise uluvo lwabo, musani ukuthetha "hayi". Ziqonde, hlala uziqonde kwaye uvavanye ngokuchanekileyo - lo ngoomatshini bokuphamba ophezulu apho yonke into iqala khona. Imbono echanekileyo yesiqhelo yi-Core, embindini wendalo yethu encinci, apho uRyxece ahamba nabo bathandekayo, nokuba ngabahlobo, abazali, ukuba ne-charisma, kuba le Umntu uyazi kakhulu, kuziva kakhulu kwaye uyaqonda. Ugqirha wengqondo olungileyo uyakwazi ukuskena umntu. Ngapha koko, ungummeli ococekileyo okuqonda ngokuchanekileyo ukuba uziva ucinga ngokuchanekileyo into ofuna ukuyithetha. Le yinto enkulu idibanisa kunxibelelwano. Ke ngoko, ndifuna ukubuyela emntwini onjalo. Oku kukwasebenza nakwimpilo yobuqu- abantu abanjalo bahlala benomdla kwisini esahlukileyo. Ingcali yengqondo yenye yonke iyonke kwaye yonke into iyahambelana.
Uninzi lwabantu lukhona kwiingxaki kunye nomntu wesini esahlukileyo
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Yeyiphi ingxaki kuwe uninzi lwakho luhlala lubhenela kubameli besini esifanelekileyo? Kwaye amadoda?
Indawo ekhokelayo kwabafazi isebenzisa iingxaki zesini esahlukileyo. Ukunqongophala kwentsebenziswano - emva koko sifuna iingxaki emfazini ngokwayo, ubudlelwane nomyeni wakho, nabantwana, abazali, obenzela abantu. Kwaye, ewe, ubudlelwane kunye nawe kuba iingcambu zengxaki kufuneka zijonge ngaphakathi ngokwazo. Kwindawo yokuqala kukho ubudlelwane kunye nabasetyhini kunye nomsebenzi okanye ishishini - kubameli besiqingatha esiqinileyo soluntu, le yingxaki ebalulekileyo. Kwaye kuphela kulwalamano nabantwana nabazali. Ngaphandle kokuba sonke sihlala kwindawo enye, amadoda nabafazi zizidalwa ezivela kwiiplanethi ezahlukeneyo.
Ungaluqonda njani ukuba utyelelo kwi-psychologistl luncede? Ngaba ikhona imigaqo yonyango oluyimpumelelo?
Yonke into ilula ngokwaneleyo: Ukuba uphume kwi-psychologist, kwaye kwaba lula kuwe, kuthetha ukuba uncede ukutyelelwa kwi-psychologist. Olu luphawu oluhle. Ukuba ufuna ukuza kuye - le yingxondo yesibini yempumelelo yonyango. Indoda yale mihla ilungiselelwe ukuba ayifuni ukungasikhumbuli kuphela imeko yakhe, kodwa nokuqonda izizathu zakhe. Xa ushiya ugqirha wengqondo ombi, unokuziva engaqondanga ngakumbi, unokuziva udidekile ngokupheleleyo. Ngokubanzi, unyango lungaziwa ukuba luphumelele xa ubomi bakho buqala ukutshintsha: Ngokwemvelo, kungenjalo, kodwa ngenxa yakho uyiqondayo.
Kodliwanondlebe, utshilo ukhetha i-NLP Psychoanalysis. Sixelele ukuba kutheni? Ngoku uluvo lwakho aluguqukanga?
Ewe, ndikhetha ukusebenza ngeendlela ze-neurolyutistic zenkqubo. Ndiza kuthelekisa i-NLP ngokusebenza kwe-laser: Xa umntu esiza, umzekelo, ngesisu, kunye neseshoni enye, sikhulula kule tumar. Ushiya wanelisekile kwaye wonwabile. Inyani yile yokuba ukunqunyulwa kwenzeka ngaphakathi kweseshoni enye-umntu uza enye, kwaye amagqabi ahluke ngokupheleleyo: ngama amehlo avuthayo kunye nesiphumo. Ndiyawuthandisa ngalo mzuzu wokutshintsha uguquko, kuba umntu uyalawula ukuphosa i-backpack yonke, eyayihlala itsaliwe kunye naye kwaye yayingakuyekisi ezantsi, ayizange ikhuphe ioksijini. Indoda ivakalelwa kukukhululeka kunye nefuthe lamandla. Ewe kunjalo, le ndlela ilungele ukusombulula zonke iingxaki, kodwa isebenza kakhulu kwimibuzo ethile ethile. Ngokuphathelele i-psychoanalysis, ndinomsebenzi onqabileyo wengqondo, phakathi kwezinye izinto, le ndlela ayinakubizwa ngokuba kunyango ngokukhawuleza. Ngale ndlela akukho nto iphosakeleyo - wonke umntu, kwaye umntu unelungelo lokukhetha indlela yokunyanga ngakumbi. Konke kuxhomekeke ekubeni zeziphi iziphumo ofuna ukuzifezekisa: ngokukhawuleza, umgangatho ophezulu kwaye uyabonakala, i-NLP ilunge kuwe.
Ukuba uskrolela kwi-Intanethi okanye ujonge nayiphi na indawo kwi-psychology, ke ezona zihloko zibalulekileyo namhlanje zinobudlelwane obutywala, ukuzithemba okungaphantsi, iingxaki ebomini. Rhoqo, kumanqaku akwizihloko, ababhali babhekisa kubuntwana kwaye bathi iingcambu zazo zonke iingxaki kufuneka zijongeka khona. Ngaba Ngokwenene? Ungamoyisa njani ubunzima babantwana kunye nokoyika? Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba ujongane nazo ngokwakho?
Kuyinyani, ulwalamano olunobutshekileyo olusuka ebuntwaneni, njengokuba kunjalo, kunye ne-90% yazo zonke iingxaki kunye nezinto zethu, kuba izitena zobuntu zibekwa kubudala oboko. Kwaye ukuba ubudlelwane betyhefu olwenziwa kusapho lwakho, unokuthi ngokuzithemba ukuba uya kuphinda uve ubunzima ebomini. Ewe, ndiyabongoza wonke umntu ukuba aphile ngenkangala: Ukuqonda nabani na onxibelelana naye, kutheni kwaye ufumanisa ntoni kulwalamano. Sebenzisa indlela enjalo yeshishini ebomini nakubantu, kodwa ngokwelizwi elihle leLizwi. Ewe kunjalo, unokunxibelelana nentombi, esele isetyenzisiwe iminyaka engama-20 njenge-vest, kodwa kuya kufuneka wazi ukuba olu lwalamano alunanto yokwenza nobuhlobo. Kukho ezinye iintlobo zolwalamano lwetyhefu. Kwi-Psychoperapy i-Psychoterapy kukho igama elithi "umfazi onxilisayo" - Lo ngumfazi obandakanyiweyo kutywala bomyeni wakhe. Ukuba umfazi onjalo hlukana notywala, uya kufumana umntu owahlukileyo omele azisindise. Ngendlela, unokufumana kwaye umntu oqhelekileyo, kodwa ngezenzo zakhe ngokuzithoba mazize ngokwasenyanisweni ukuba iya kuba lilootywala ngokupheleleyo. Ke ngoko, kuya kufuneka ujongene naye kwaye kutheni unxibelelana-oku kungenziwa ngokwakho. Ukuba awuziqondi, udidekile, uziva ngathi uhlala usebenzisa, kuya kufuneka uqhagamshelane nengcali. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuqonda eyona nto iphambili: Kuya kufuneka uqonde abantu abafanayo, kodwa nathi, funda ukuba kutheni yonke into injalo, kwaye ayikho ngenye into. Kwaye ulungele ubomi bakho emva konyango oluza kutshintsha lukhulu.
Ukuba sithathela ingqalelo ukuba iingxaki zethu zivela ebuntwaneni kwaye kuba abazali bethu bengafezekanga. Ungaba ngumzali ofanelekileyo ongayi kubangela ingozi yengqondo emntwaneni wakhe. Ngaba kunokwenzeka?
Akunakwenzeka ukuba ube ngumzali ofanelekileyo. Singabantu, hayi abangcwele. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo yiphupha elingafumaneki apho ungafuni ukulingana. Kodwa ukuba ucinga ngokunzulu ngokuba nabantwana okanye sele unazo, ukuphepha ukuphakanyiswa kwezinto ezigqithisileyo. Kukho iindlela ezi-2 zokukhuliswa: ngokweemvakalelo nangokuqina, nganye yazo ikwimo yayo ecocekileyo - ayiyonto ngaphandle kokugqithisa. Indlela yeemvakalelo: Ezi zi-pusi-pusi-pusi, kwaye xa umntwana edlula ngaphaya - amatyala athile enesicelo sesikhokelo, emva koko ke ukuziva unetyala kunye ne-pussi entsha. Indlela eyingqiqweni: Ungayisebenzisi, umntwana une iiyure ezingama-24 ngosuku lwe-mug kunye neeklasi, akukho xesha lasimahla, ukulawula, imbonakalo egqibeleleyo, funda "ezintlanu". Ngokwemvelo, ezo nxa zonke ezigqithileyo aziyi kukhokelela kwinto elungileyo, kwaye umntwana uya kukhula abe ngumntu ongumntu. Ukuphakanyiswa kokukhuliswa kufanele kube "golide phakathi". Abantwana kufuneka bakhule eluthandweni nasekukhathalelo. Owona mzuzu ulungileyo wemfundo ngumzekelo wakho, kwaye awuzange ulibale ngayo. Ukuba ufuna ukusondela kumzali ofanelekileyo, uqonde umntwana wakho njengoko kunjalo, ungafuni okuthile kuyo, musa ukusebenzela i-intermating yayo kuyo kwaye ungayibeki i-ECBoding yamaphupha akho. Umntwana ngumntu omncinci ofuna ukuhlonitshwa, emamele kwaye eve. Umntwana kufuneka aqondwe. Kuya kufuneka abe nexesha lasimahla kunye nobuntwana obonwabisayo. Akudingeki ukuba uyithathe i-24/7, awuyi kuba ngumntu ophumeleleyo ngale ndlela. Kuya kufuneka ukuba abe nexesha ledwa kunye nokuziphucula, ukuze afunde indlela yokuphupha, ukuphumla, ukudlala, ukudla. Kwaye igadi emincinci - kubo, kunjalo, akunakwenzeka ukuba ukwala ngokupheleleyo, kodwa kunciphisa ukusetyenziswa kwabantwana babo kumandla ethu.
Ucinge njani ngombono wokudala iprojekthi "yeemfihlakalo zeBenada kunye neMariana Abravitova", imiba emibini yokuqala enokujonga kuyo iYouTube? Nguwuphi umahluko ophambili phakathi kweprojekthi yakho ukuba ifana nayo?
Ukuba sithetha ngeprojekthi yam entsha "yeemfihlo ze-Bedres kunye noMariana Abravita", emva koko unokulitolika eli gama ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Kwabaninzi, igama elithi "ukulala" lidala ubudlelwane kunye nokuvumelana, ukuphumla, intuthuzelo, ukuzonwabisa. Ngokuhambelana, indlela esesikweni ebhedini yentetho ayinakuba njalo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ibhedi yindawo yenkululeko, ukususwa kwezinto zangaphandle nezingaphakathi, ukupheliswa kwemida. Impahla esinxibayo esilala kuyo, uPajamas, waseBhatani wasekhaya, njl., Uyathetha ngokuzithemba. Ukuba ugqirha wengqondo udibana kwiqonga neqhawe ebhedini kunye ne-pajamas, le yokugqibela inemibutho enjalo. Ngokoluvo lwam, umntu uya kuxela ngokungagungqiyo ngaye, kwaye uhlala ukonwabisa kakhulu kwaye unomdla wokufuna ukwazi, kuba ndikumemele ukuba uthathe kuphela abantu abanomdla kuphela abanento yokwabelana nabaphulaphuli kwaye banam. Unyanisile, ngoku kumabonwakude nakwi-YouTube kukho inani elikhulu leenkqubo, isiseko sodlan 'indlebe nabantu. Kodwa kubo bonke kukho indlela esesikweni kunye nokubethwa ngokuyinxalenye ngokwayo, eyale tyala kum iphantse yangenakwenzeka. Ndineendlela zokukhulula umntu kwaye ndimnceda aveze, anyaniseke. Kule nto saphumelela yonke into - kwaye, mna, njengeembali, kwaye ababukeli bam abambonayo, kwaye, kunjalo, amagorha am, kuba banethuba lokuthetha.
Ngubani oza kuba sisitudiyo sakho? Oosaziwayo okanye abantu abaqhelekileyo?
Indwendwe lenkqubo yam inokuba nganye nganye. Ndinomdla ebantwini, ubugcisa obahlukeneyo kunye namanqanaba entlalontle. Kodwa iya kuhlala ingaba bantu babugcino, bunzulu, buqaqambile, buphumelele, banomdla. Abo basindayo kwibali elingaqhelekanga, elahlukileyo, ukuphulaphula ukuba wonke umntu unokufunda okuthile. Ngapha koko, ayiyonyani ukuba ungafunda kuphela ngamava akho, omnye umntu, kwinqanaba lengqondo, sikwabona njengeyakho ukuba babenenxaxheba kwigorha, ke ngoko baqhuba into elungileyo ukuvela kweva.
Zeziphi izihloko eziza kuxutyushwa ebhedini ngengqondo yengqondo mariana abravitova? Ngaba iya kuba ziiseshoni zonyango okanye udliwanondlebe oluqhelekileyo kunye nonxibelelwano?
Indlela yokwenza udliwanondlebe iya kwahluka. Kwaye ndiya kugxothwa, kubuntu begorha kunye nencoko ngokwayo. Isikhundla sam asikukhuthazi ingubo yakho kwincoko, kodwa ndimnike umntu ukuba athethe. Ndiya kuya ngqo, tyhila kwaye uve unxibelelwano. Ukuba undwendwe lwam lufuna unyango lwe-psychotherapy, luya kwakhiwa, kodwa ndicinga ukuba umbukeli akasayi kuqaphela, kuba ndinayo, njengamashishini ayo kunye nophuhliso. Udliwanondlebe oluqhelekileyo alukho ngendlela yam, kodwa ndisengumntu wobudala, ke ndiza kuzama ukuthetha nezihloko ezinjalo ezingamnandi kuzo. Ndicinga ukuba ukudluliselwa kwam kuya kwahlukile kule ndawo yelizwe lethu.
Ngaba unayo iresiphi yolonwabo onokuthi wabelane nabanye abafundi bethu? Nguwuphi umfazi wale mihla ufuna ukonwaba, kufuneka eme kwindawo yokuqala? Ungafunda njani ukuzithanda?
Ewe, ndinayo. Ukuba uyazamkela ngokwakho kunye nemithetho yeli lizwe, isiseko ukuze sonwabe sele sinayo. Zonke izinto zobubi baqala xa ungamkeli enye okanye enye okanye nje. Ukuba izikhalazo ezininzi ngawe, ufumana iimpazamo ezininzi, ubunzima, ukukhula, awuzithandi ukuba uhlala ubopha imvakalelo yolonwabo (ukutshata, utyando, uyolo lweplastiki, uyakonwaba ungaze. Ukonwaba yimvakalelo ngaphakathi engaxhomekekanga kwinto ethile. Impumelelo yakho ingaphakathi kum, umxholo wakho wangaphakathi kunye nengqolowa engaxhomekekanga kwizinto zangaphandle. Awunako ukwenza ukubopha: Ukuba ndinayo, ndiya konwaba. Musa ukubambelela kwaye iindima zentlalo: kuphela umfazi otshatileyo onokonwaba, ulonwabo lubanu, njl. Ekuqondeni kwam, ulonwabo luyayiqonda, xa ubonakalisa, ngovuyo lokuzibona kunye neli lizwe, emva koko nxamnye nonke uqala ukusasaza yonke into, abantu abanomdla kunye nawe. Ukuba unomdla wokuphila, uya konwaba.
UMarianna, kutshanje, incwadi yakho ethi "Ndiyi-magnet yemali" yaphuma- Uthini?
Ubomi bethu buyilewe ukuze sifumane yonke into, kodwa enyanisweni kuphela kwinto esivumela ukuba ube nayo. Kuba akukho mntu unokuthanda umntu onokubeke umda kwiminqweno-ethethayo, siyavumela into yokuba ifumane into, kubandakanya nesicwangciso sezinto ezibonakalayo. Ewe kunjalo, oku, okokuqala, inkxalabo i-subconstal kwaye ezo nkqubo sizifumanayo ebuntwaneni xa kusenzeka ubuntu. ncwadi My "Mna Magnet for Imali" icacisa ngezinto ezinjalo kwaye ifundisa ukuba reprogram ngayo indlela ukuphelisa "psychology of biha". Iqokelele ubunzima bechwephesha, indlela yokuthanda imali kwaye ibenze bakuphendule ngokuphindaphindiweyo, indlela yokufunda ukuzivumela ukuba ungubani. Funda incwadi yam apho iimfihlakalo zemali ebomini bakho ziyatyhilwa.