Uninzi lwethu lwawa kwimeko apho abahlobo abakho kubo bonke abo bantu babefuna ukubona okulandelayo. Iingcali zibiza ukuba lunonxibelelwano olunjalo. Kwaye umgqatswa wezayensi zengqondo, iNgcali ye-NLP uMarianna Abvitova uxela indlela yokuqonda ukuba akukho mpindezelo.
Ubuhlobo luthando olufanelekileyo lweembono, izimvo ngokubanzi ngobomi, zokuzonwabisa ngokudibeneyo, apho wonke umntu ufumana iimvakalelo ezifanelekileyo. Ubuhlobo bukhona ukuba akunjalo ukuze babandezeleke ngenxa yenkqubo yayo. Kwaye ukuba ufumana ukungakhethi ngumntu onomntu onomntu, eyintsimbi yokuqala eyoyikisayo, uzivavanye kuzo zonke ezinye izinto. Kwaye ukuba yonke into iyahambelana, cinga: Ngaba ufuna ubuhlobo obunjalo?
INDLELA YOKUXELISA NJANI UBUCHULE BOBUCHULE
Ukusuka kubantu abaqheleyo kunokufumana izicelo zokuboleka imali, nika ukubonakalisa iimpahla, ukulungiselela into, nceda ubhale umyalezo wesibini. Kwaye zonke ezi zicelo ayisiyo umlinganiswa wexesha elinye-umntu uhlala eyimfuneko kuwe. Kuya kufuneka uqonde: ubuhlobo obunjalo bunjengomdlalo kwisango elinye, apho usisebenzisa khona. Sebenzisa ubukrelekrele bakho, iWedi, iWall, amathuba, ixesha kunye, kubaluleke kakhulu, amandla akho.
UMarianna Asavitova
Ukuba, xa unxibelelana, uninzi lweencoko zinikelwe kumhlobo wakho, le nto le yenye yeempawu zobudlelwane obunetyhefu. Zama ukulandela umkhondo, njengamabali omhlobo asabela kumabali akho: bavutha ngumnxibelelanisi, uphulaphula ngononophelo. Ukuba uqaphele ukuba ngexesha lamabali malunga nawe, jonga kuphele, usasazeke, kuthetha ukuba awunamdla kwiingxaki zakho, uthando. Ke ngoko, unxibelelwano lwakho alubahlobo, kunokuba usetyenziswe njengeendlebe "vest" okanye "iindlebe ezikhululekileyo."
Kukho abantu abahlala besenza into. Bafumana abamelwane babhabha; Iguqulwe igesi - itshise ikhitshi; Uye ezantsi esitratweni - i-solselka yawa, yafumana imbambano yengqondo. Abaze bathathe isigqibo okanye benze, ngoko bafuna nje uluntu. Nangona kunjalo, yonke into ayilunganga. Ukuba umntu onjalo ayeka ngequbuliso ukunceda ebomini bakhe usuku, ubonakalisa imimangaliso yokuba nobuchule kwaye uba ngumntu oqolileyo. Akunzima ukuba kuqwalasele ubuhlobo nolwalamano apho usetyenziswa khona njengomongikazi.
Amantombazana ahlala efuna intombi ukuba ihambe umsitho. Kodwa intombi entle ngeenjongo idla ngokungalunganga kuba akukho kukhuphiswano. Ke intombi ikhethiwe, iba luhlobo lokubonakalisa ubuhle. Kubonakala ngathi ngabahlobo naye, kodwa enyanisweni olo ubudlelwane bungazenzi zibonelelo.
Fuck umhlobo-ntle. Uyakuvuyela ukungcatsha uluntu ukuba lungathi tu. Emhleni, kusoloko kunjalo kumzuzu wokugculela kunye nokuzisa iimfanelo zezinto ezifunwayo zomntu, malunga noko bakutyalayo, ngelixa i-gossik ngokwayo ayinangxaki. Ke ngoko, yazi: Indoda enyibilikisayo ihleba malunga nawe ayisebenzi kuwe ngobubele.