Kuncwadi lwengqondo lwengqondo, "i-systrome eshiyekileyo" ichazwe ngokweenkcukacha - ixesha xa abantwana abakhulileyo beshiya indlu katata. Kwaye ngaphandle kwale meko idumileyo, eli nqanaba lihlala lubuhlungu ngabazali.
Ubunzima beli xesha labazali baneenguqulelo ezininzi: Umntwana akangomntwana, ungaphantsi kwenkathalo engaphezulu, azimeleyo ngakumbi kwimigwebo yakhe kunye nenkxaso, elungile ukwamkela.
Ukongeza, kwiintsapho ezininzi, ukukhuselwa kwabantwana phantse ekuphela kwentsingiselo yobomi. Kwaye ngononophelo lwabo kubomi obuzimeleyo, ubukho bootata kunye nabanye oomama bafika apho bevela kuzo zonke iintsingiselo zobomi.
Kwaye omnye ungqimba ngaphezulu, efihliweyo ngakumbi, kodwa akubangakho buhlungu. Ukuba nabantwana abavuthiweyo bangumqondiso wokususwa kwabo, ukupheliswa kwemikhosi, ukuqaqamba, iminyaka emincinci ukuya kwixesha elidlulileyo. Inqanaba elitsha ebomini, kunzima ukwamkela.
Ewe, owona mzuzu unzima yeyona nto ibalulekileyo, ihlala ihlulwa komzimba kunye nomntwana: Yenza umkhosi, ukungena kwiZiko, ukuBoniswa kwendlu yakho, ukuya kwindlu entsha eyakho. Kwelo xesha linokulujonga ukuba lusizi, ubukrakra, ukulangazelela. Kwaye kwelinye icala, ubomi bomntu ngamnye bokomoya buyindalo, kodwa ukwahlulwa koku kungabi lusizi.
Nali iphupha kwesi sihloko samaphupha ethu: "Ngenye imini ndabona iphupha malunga nesandla, endizifundayo. Ngaphandle kwefestile kubonakala ngathi uyahamba ngesakhelo, amaxesha onyaka ayatshintsha. Nantsi intwasahlobo. Ingcuka ibuza ehlathini kwaye inditsalele umnxeba. Ndicacisele ngengqondo kuye ukuba wayengakulungelanga ubomi ehlathini, lilizwe lakhe. Kwaye uthi kuye. Ndiziva ndihlukane nobuhlungu. Ndiyathemba ukuba uza kuphila ngonqabiseko, ahlukane neengcinga zakhe malunga nabazingeli kunye nezinye izinto. Kwaye ndiyaqonda ukuba ingcuka kwaye ihlasela abantu, mna ngokwam bendibetha ngezandla zam. Kuba sesona siphumo sakhe sihle kuye kuloo meko.
Ephupheni, ndiyaqonda ukuba ndiyalala nditolike. Ndiyaqonda ukuba lelf lingunyana wam ovukayo. Kwaye yayilixesha lokumvumela ukuba aqhubeke nobomi obuzimeleyo. Ndiyazi ukuba iingozi ezahlukeneyo zinokudibana. Kwaye unokutshintsha. Isenokungayithandi. Kodwa kunjalo. Andisahambeli nobomi.
Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku ndifumana iimvakalelo ezikhethekileyo malunga nokulala. Kwaye ngelixa ndiqhubeka ndisoyika unyana wam. "
Ukulala akufuni ukuba kwenziwe idryry-iphupha le-samrell ifayili ye-samrell uqobo: Iingcamango zengcuka, ngubani na ozonwabisa, unxibelelana nonyana wakhe ehlathini. Ukungakhathali kwengcuka ngumzekeliso malunga nokulungiswa kweempazamo zabazali, ukuphulukana noluntu kumntwana omdala.
Kwaye kwangaxeshanye, eyona nto ibalulekileyo yokulala ngamava ahlukeneyo ahlukane nemvume yokuba yonke into iba ngokuchanekileyo.
Sinqwenela iphupha lobulumko kwaye sizithabathela kweli nqanaba litsha lobomi.
Kwaye ngawaphi amaphupha akho?