Uqhawulo-mtshato kunye nokutshata okuphindaphindiweyo akuyi kumothusa mntu namhlanje. Ela maxesha sele idlulile xa umfazi oqhawule umtshato wathatyathwa njengohlobo oluthile olungaphelelanga, oluhlelelekileyo, kwaye lwamjonga ngokuzisola. Namhlanje, abantu abaphumeleleyo abaphumeleleyo banembali yezibini, ezintathu, okanye nangakumbi mitsha. Kodwa nanamhlanje, amava angaphumelelayo ekwenzeni intsapho yokuqala esenza igalelo elibi kumfazi kwaye, okokuqala, ekuzithembeni kwakhe.
Enye yezona zinto zoloyiko zibaluleke kakhulu-Inkxalabo yokuba umtshato olandelayo uya kuba yimpumelelo. Abasetyhini abatshatileyo, ngakumbi abaselula, ukuba umtshato wabo uphelile kakubi ngenxa yokuba umfazi weqabane, uqala ngokungathandabuzi ukubaphatha, kwaye ukuba isizathu soqhawulo-mtshato saziphatheka, asikwazanga zibabhinqi ukuba azinakugcina usapho.
Ngeli xesha, izibalo, kunye namava obuqu abafazi abaninzi bathetha ngokuchaseneyo: Imitshato yesibini kwiimeko ezininzi inamandla kwaye iphumelele ngakumbi. Oku kungenxa yokuba kumtshato wesibini, lo mfazi uza, njengommandla ovuthiweyo, kwaye unoxanduva lokukhetha umahluko, kunye nokwakha ubudlelwane phakathi kosapho. Ke ngoko, akunyanzelekanga ukuba woyike ukungena kubudlelwane obutsha nendoda oyithandayo, kwaye ukuba yonke into ifanele, emva koko iphinde ibuye intsapho.
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Amadoda emhlabeni aninzi, kwaye ukuba umyeni wakho odlulileyo okanye i-Cohabiter akazange afezekise izinto ozilindeleyo, ayifanelanga la mava angalunganga asasazeke kwisiqingatha sonke sobuntu. Abantu bahluke kakhulu, kwaye nje ubudlelwane obutsha banokuvula amehlo obhinqileyo ukuba zingaphi iindlela zokuziphatha kwaye, ukuba unqwenela ukuba umntu abe.
Nangona kunjalo, isitshixo sempumelelo kumtshato wesibini kukuthobela iqela lemithetho engeyiyo. Okokuqala, akufuneki ugxile kumava akho adlulileyo kunye angaphumeleliyo kubudlelwane bosapho. Ungawukhumbula umtshato wakho wokuqala wokuqala, nangona kunesitshixo esibi. Ulwalamano lwangaphambili kunye nomyeni wangaphambili akufuneki ukubakho kumtshato wakho wangoku. Eli lixesha elidlulileyo, kwaye makuhlale apho, apho kufanelekile, enzonzobileni komphefumlo wakho, ngenxa yoko, inxenye yemyuziyam.
Okwesibini, akukho nto ayinakuthelekiswa nomyeni wangoku kunye neyangaphambili, kwakhona, i-albet ngesitshixo esihle. Ngaphandle koko, umyeni uya kuvakalelwa kukubakho okungapheliyo kwalo wosibini ungabonakaliyo, ngokuchanekileyo, umntu ophelileyo. Kuyafana na ukucacisa abazali, ezinye izalamane, intombi: Akufanelanga ukuba umyeni omtsha uthetha ngomyeni wakhe ongaphambilana.
Okwesithathu, kwisiseko samava okuqala osizi ubudlelwane bomtshato, kufanelekile ukuba baqonde ukuba emva koko unobangela weengxabano, ixanda, kwaye uzame ubudlelwane obutsha ukungavumeli ezo ndlela kumacala omabini.
Umtshato omtsha liphepha elitsha lobomi, kwaye kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba yonke into ingahlukile kuyo: Umyeni omtsha uneminye imikhwa yasekhaya, ifuna ukuthandana, ukuthanda izinto ezizezona. Oku kufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo kwaye kuya kufuneka wakhe usapho olutsha, kwaye ungazami ukongeza imodeli yosapho oludala kunye nomntu wokuqala obambeleyo kumyeni omtsha emntwini omtsha. Kwangelo xesha, kufanelekile ukuba siqonde ukuba umtshato omtsha lithuba lokulungisa imeko, lungisa indlela oziphatha ngayo, ukuba negalelo kubomi bakho Yintoni engazange yenziwe kubudlelwane bangaphambili.