Kutshanje, abafundi bethu kunye nabafundi banemibuzo emininzi malunga nengxaki yobomi bosapho ... umntu unzima ukusombulula naziphi na iingxaki. Kwaye umntu uyoyika ukutshata kwangaphambili ngenxa yokuba "ubudlelwane", "ubomi buya kwahlulahlula ngaphambili nangasemva" kwaye "awuyi kubiza into elungileyo." Ukongeza, wonke umntu uviwe malunga neengxaki ze-1, 3 nelesi-7 yobomi bosapho. Ke abanye bacinga, emva kokuba bebone ukuba ama-Matshi: "Mhlawumbi, lo ubudlelwane obukhulu? Kule mihla akukho mfuneko yokutshata, unokuphila kanjalo. Kutheni le nto ubomi bakho kunye nenye. " Okanye: "Ndingathini ukuba andikwazi ukusebenza?" Abo basagqiba kwelokuba benze i-adventurds yokuqala, bathi: "Batsho, eyona ngxaki yeminyaka yoku-1, mhlawumbi oku kuvela kuthi?" Kwaye zeziphi iingxaki kunye nezinto abazityayo - akucaci.
Ke, ingxaki. Ngamafutshane, lo ngumzuzwana ebomini xa ubudlelwane buyeke ukukuqhuba ngohlobo olukho ngalo ngalo mzuzu. Ngamanye amagama, baya kuphela. Ucaphukise uhlobo oluthile lweendlela zeqabane lakho, isimilo sakhe, isimo sengqondo sobomi kunye nokunye ... kwaye uyaqonda ukuba awufuni kuphila kangangokuba kufuneka utshintshe into. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba umnqweno wokutshintsha into yenzeka kuphela ukuba ubudlelwane buyinyani yindlela. Ngapha koko, ukoyisa iingxaki zosapho kuphela ngemigudu edibeneyo yamaqabane omabini kuphela. Ukuba umntu uyala ukutyala imali kubudlelwane, ke ayinangqondo ukuyinyanzela kwaye akukho nto iseleyo ngaphandle kokuba igqibe ubudlelwane.
Kutheni le nto ivela? Isizathu esixhaphakileyo bubunzima kwinguqu ukuya kwinqanaba elitsha lomjikelo wobomi bosapho.
Ke, amanqanaba, imisebenzi yabo kunye neengxaki ezinokwenzeka.
Inqanaba lokuqala lixesha lokuthandana-abantu abancinci bafunyanwa, kodwa abahlali kunye. I-Cecy Biakery ixesha lokubhaka. Eyona misebenzi ibaluleke kakhulu kukulawula, abantu abancinci bezakhono zokuthandana nokutsala umdla weqabane. Apho ngaphandle kwayo? Esi sisiseko sobudlelwane bothando. Ukongeza, kubalulekile ukufezekisa i-Autonegraphy yezeMali kunye neemvakalelo kwintsapho yakhe yabazali. Oko kukuthi, kubalulekile ukuba sikwazi ukuzilungiselela kwaye senze izigqibo ngokuzimela, singaxhomekeki kwimeko yokuba abazali bajongane nabazali.
Inqanaba lesibini ngumtshato ngaphandle kwabantwana, abantu abancinci baqala ukuhlala kunye. Kulapho ingxaki ye-1 yonyaka wokuqala isenokuvela. Ilele kwinto yokuba amaqabane kufuneka afunde ukuhlala kunye. Oko kukuthi, "i-trigger" yenzekile. Zombini "zaphuma" kwiintsapho ezahlukeneyo, nganye nganye inemithetho nezithethe ezihlala zingangqinelani. Ukuba sithetha ngemithetho yangaphandle, yonke into ingaphezulu okanye ingaphantsi. Ungavuma, ngubani oza kuthenga isonka okanye ahlambe izitya. Kodwa kukho inqanaba elinzulu. Ndiza kumnika umzekelo. Kusapho, umyeni kaMama wayesoloko esenyuka ngaphambili kunopopu, enxibe, epeyintiwe, elungiselela isidlo sakusasa, emva koko ndandisele ndingutata. Kwakungekho nto injalo kwintsapho yomfazi wakhe. Wonke umntu uvukile ngokulandelelana, emva koko kwi-pajamas kunye ne-coats coozy, kunye, isidlo sakusasa. Elinye labantu abatshatileyo bacinga ukuba abantu abanothando mabaziphathe ngokwemeko yemeko, eyamkelweyo kusapho lwabo kwaye, ngaphandle kokufumana nantoni na ngokuziphatha kweqabane, qalisa ukucinga ukuba "yena (yena) akandithandi ngokwaneleyo. " Ukoyisa kolo mahluko akukho lula, ayisoloko icace gca. Okwangoku, ukungavisisani ngokwesondo kunokuvela ...
Inqanaba elilandelayo yintsapho enabantwana abancinci. Owona msebenzi ubalulekileyo ngeli nqanaba kukwamkelwa kweendima zabazali. Ukongeza, kuyimfuneko ukuba abanye balawule ukungalibali ngokutshata. Rhoqo ngokuzalwa komntwana wokuqala, abazali bayalibala ukuba bayindoda nomfazi, ngenxa yoku, ukusondelelana nokusondelelana phakathi kwabo kulahlekile. Kunokubakho iingxabano malunga nemfundo yomntwana. Ikhwele linokwenzeka, kuba omnye wabatshati unokuziva ngathi umntwana uxhonywe omnye.
Rhoqo kukho umbuzo malunga nokuqonda kobungcali bomfazi wakhe, malunga nokuxhomekeka kwakhe kwemali kwindoda yakhe. Eli xesha libizwa ngokuba yintlekele yeminyaka emi-3 yobudlelwane.
Inqanaba lesine ngulondolozo-isigaba somtshato ovuthiweyo. Eli lixesha lemfundo yabantwana, eliqhubeka de umntwana wokuqala alishiya indlu. Kubonakala ngathi yonke into ihamba kakuhle, kuya kufezekiswa imeko ethile kwezentlalo, evula amathuba amaninzi, akasenabantwana abancinci. Kodwa umtshato ngeli xesha sele ufumana amava, izinto ezidibeneyo ezidibeneyo zinokuphulukana nokubaluleka ngenxa yobudala okanye ezinye izizathu, amahlakani kufuneka ajonge abatsha ukuze bahlale benomdla omnye komnye. Ukongeza, ngeli xesha, abantu badla ngokuzisa iziphumo ezithile zobomi, oko kukuthi, imbambano ephakathi iza. Kwaye abantwana abayi kuba semva - njengommiselo, ngeli xesha bafika bekwiminyaka yokufikisa, engasoloko ihamba kakuhle. Utatomkhulu noomakhulu bayaluphala, babakhathalele. Ngokubanzi, yonke into ayilula njengoko kubonakala ngathi kuyazi. Yonke le nto imalunga nentlekele yeminyaka esi-7 yobudlelwane.
Eli nqanaba lesihlanu yi "" "isigaba esingenanto"-isigaba apho abantwana bashiya indlu kunye namaqabane bahlala bodwa. Ithathwa njengeyona nto inengxaki. Ihlala yenzeka ukuba ubomi bosapho bujikeleze ikakhulu abantwana. Kwaye xa bemka umzali ekhayeni- tshata okanye baqalise nje ubomi bokuzimelela-kuyavela ukuba amaqabane akathethi ngawo omnye komnye. Oko kukuthi, bayichithile kakhulu kwimisebenzi yabo yabazali kangangokuba bayilibele indlela ababeyindoda nomfazi.
Ewe, inqanaba lokugqibela - i-monostadia - umntu ovela kumaqabane usemntu emva kokufa komnye. Igqiba umjikelo wobomi kuyo.
Ukujonga oku kungasentla, kunzima ukungavumi ukuba ubomi bosapho bunzima. Umbuzo uphakama, ngaba kukho ubudlelwane ngaphandle kobunzima? Iingcali zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba akukho. Uphuhliso olungaphezulu alunakwenzeka ngaphandle kwentlekele.
Kodwa banokujongwa ngendlela eyahlukileyo - njengokukwazi ukutshintsha isimo sengqondo ukuya phambili. Ewe, ubomi babutyhila iintsilelo zakho phambi komnye, kodwa kukho ithuba elikhethekileyo lokujamelana nabo, lingcono kuwe kunye nomnye. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, le ngxaki ibanjelwe ngokudibeneyo ngabaPheluli bababelana kuphela, iimvakalelo zomelele. Eyona nto iphambili kukungakuqali kwiingxaki, ungavumeli kwindlela, ecinga ukuba "yonke into iya kwenziwa yenzekileyo kwaye uzisombulule kwaye uzisombulule.
Ukongeza, ukuba kuyavela ukwakha ukuthembana, ukungqinelana ngokupheleleyo, intlonipho kunye nenkxaso, iingxaki zingadlulanga.
Kwaye okwangoku, iimvavanyo zinikwa kuphela abo banako ukubazoyisa ;-)