"Ndiyakwazi ukuthetha kwesi sihloko ixesha elide kakhulu, kwaye andikwazi ukonakalisa izinto ezintlanu zekhonkrithi. Zininzi kakhulu. Mhlawumbi eyona nto iphambili kuyo yonke into iqala kuyo, lo mnqweno wokuba nguTata. Ukuba umntu akanayo, ndiye ndicinge, kwaye akufuneki uqalise abantwana. Ke ngoko anikulungelanga oku, kwaye mhlawumbi ayiyonjongo yakho ebomini. Le yinto eqhelekileyo kuba sonke sahlukile. Umzekelo, ndiyabathanda kakhulu abantwana bam, emva kokuzalwa konyana neentombi, baba yinjongo yobomi kum. Sifuna abantwana abaninzi ngakumbi.
Kubalulekile ukuthanda, ukuqonda, ukukhusela, ukuxabisa kwaye ungaze ungcatshe, ungamkhubekisi abantwana. Bantwana ningonwaba. Kwaye kufanele ukuba ube nguBawo, umzekelo olungileyo. Kwaye ke yonke into ilula kakhulu. Utata osoloko usela, ehleli ebhedini kwaye ekhwaza ebantwaneni, kuba ibhola ekhatywayo ayivanga, ayingomzekelo ulungileyo. Ngelishwa, kukho imizekelo emininzi enjalo, ngakumbi abo bantwana babonakalise kwiminyaka yoo-1990 ukuya kwele minyaka ingama-1990 ukuya kwengama-30. Kodwa kulungile ngoku ukuba ngoku umhlaba uyacotha, kodwa utshintsho oluchanekileyo. Ulwalamano olusempilweni kusapho kunye neendlela zokukhulisa ziye zathandwa kakhulu.
Utata olungileyo uchitha ixesha elininzi nabantwana, nangayiphi na imeko, elona nani liphezulu. Ubonisa umzekelo kubantwana bakhe, into umntu abengubani. Unyana, lo ngumzekelo wendoda, indlela aziphethe ngayo. Kwaye nentombi yam, Nina nibonisa ukuba yintoni na, leliphi na le ayinyulele umntu ukuba angalingane noyise. Kubalulekile ukuba ucinge iqabane lakho, kukho imodeli efanayo yokuziphatha kwabantwana kwixesha elizayo: nangayiphi na indlela, yiba ngumtshato, mawutshata. Ngala maxesha, utata kwaye ufanele uzibonakalise. Ukuba indoda ingumzekelo, umzekelo, emehlweni abantwana uya kuhlala eyinkwenkwe. Abantwana baya kuphuma bayeke ukuhlonela. Kodwa ukuba awukwazi ukwenza into, uziva ngathi uziphathe ngandlel 'ithile, eyona nto iphambili kukuyivuma, kwaye ungabizi ungene kuwe. Kwakhona, uyintsapho, kwaye unokuzicombulula ngokukhuselekileyo ezo ngxaki kunye neqabane lakho. Uncedo kunye noManyano kusapho, ukusombulula iingxaki kunye neengxaki zomntu ngamnye- lo ngumzekelo ofanayo wabantwana, njengoko kufuneka kwenziwe nabanye abantu eluntwini.
Akukho meko ayinakukhubekisa abantwana. Kuya kufuneka ubenzele uthando kunye nokukhathalela, ubaxabisa. Musa ukoyika ukubonisa ubuthathaka babantwana ngothando kubo kwaye ungabambeleli ileyibheli "ndiyindoda." Wonke umntu ubonakalisa iimvakalelo, kwaye oku kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Wonke umntu unokuthi akayithandi into kwaye kukho into engakhululekanga, kwaye oku kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Yonke le nto iyakunceda ekuphakamiseni okuhle, onobuchule kunye nokuziqonda ngokwakho kunye nabanye abantwana, kwaye oku kubaluleke kakhulu. Kulungile, kubaluleke kakhulu - ungalibali ukuba yonke into iqala kuwe. Sebenza kuqala ngaphezulu kwakho, kwiimpazamo zakho, iingxaki zakho, musa ukoyika ukuzivumela. Kwaye njengabantwana, bavuya kwaye kweyona nto intle emhlabeni. "