U-Anton Khabarov wathandana nomfundi wakhe ofunda naye e-Elena kwiSikolo seSchepkinsky kwaye wayifumana indawo yakhe, njengoko wavumayo ngokwakhe, ngazo zonke iinyaniso kunye nenyaniso. Bebonke baphumelela umlilo, amanzi kunye nemibhobho yobhedu. Bahlala benolwalamano olukhawulezileyo. Kodwa emva kweminyaka engamashumi amabini yokuphila kunye nokuzalwa kwabantwana ababini, basafuna ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye kunye.
-Anton, lena, yintoni etshintshileyo kubudlelwane bakho kwiminyaka?
UAnton: Ndiyakholelwa ukuba ngoku babhetele kunokuba bekukho, kuba sizithanda izibonelelo zomnye, kodwa siqhelane nezinto ezingalunganga, kwaye oku kubalulekile. Ngaphambili, uLena wakhubeka kwinto ethile, kwaye ngoku uyaqonda ukuba akukho mfuneko yokuba ikhosile kwinto enye yexesha lekhulu. Ukungafezeki akunakulungiswa, kwaye abasasicaphukisi. Siva omnye komnye. Umzekelo, uLena ngokuzolileyo ubhekisa kwinto yokuba ndidiniwe, ndingafuna ukuphumla. Ke, ndaya kwiveki eArmenia. Kwaye kwenzeka ukuba ibe nye. Oku akuthethi ukuba sineemvakalelo ezipholileyo. Siyathandana kwaye sifumana umtsalane owomeleleyo. Sinenqanaba elikhulu lenkululeko phambi komnye.
Elena: Andikwazi nokusazi nokuba yintoni isixeko, kuba uneshedyuli yefilimu, ehamba kunye neenqwelomoya. Ngoku nje ucinga ngakumbi malunga nomhlobo kunawe, kwaye awumngcikivanga. Ndingabuza ukuba unjani, fumana impendulo: "Yonke into ihamba kakuhle, ndiyalala." Kwaye xa siqala kuphela ubudlelwane, badityaniswa, kwaye uqhagamshelo buhlala.
UAnton: Ndikhumbula indlela endihlala kuyo kwilali ehlotyeni, kwaye iLena - eKalineyod, kwaye siphoswe ngokwenene. Kwakungekho fowuni, kwaye sabhala ezinye iileta. Ndilinde iposi! Ukuba le leta yayinamagqabi mabini, kwaye hayi ezine, ndandikhathazekile. Waphendula ngokukhawuleza, kwaye saphumelela malunga neleta ngeveki, bahamba ixesha elide. Ezi leta zigcinwe.
Elena: Xa sele uphumle iminyaka emininzi, ngamanye amaxesha ukuhamba-isizathu esihle sokukhumbula omnye komnye.
-Ungayifumana i-fact ekhanyayo esecaleni?
UAnton: Ngokuqinisekileyo. Ndiyakwazi ukubhiyozela ubuhle babanye abantu basetyhini, njengoLena - amadoda. Singaxoxa ngayo. Ndinomntu oqhelekileyo olawula ngokupheleleyo inkosikazi yakhe, kodwa enyanisweni iyonke inkohliso. Ukutshintsha, imizuzu elishumi.
"Kakhulu iChastr, ndingakhwela i-phumela enye. Kwaye iLena kufuneka iwedwa. Oku akuthethi ukuba sinemvakalelo. Siyathandana kwaye sifumana umtsalane oqinisekileyo"
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-Lena, ngaba awunakhwele ngo-Anton konke konke?
Elena: Umona usenokungabikho, le yinto eqhelekileyo engaqhelekanga. Kubalulekile ukuba oku akuguqukeli kwi-mania kwaye akuqhelike ubomi okanye umntu.
-Iingquzulwano ezihlala zithatha inyathelo lokuqala loxolelwaniso?
UAnton: Olo mzuzu uthile uzinzile ngokwengqondo, onenxeba elingaphezulu kwaye ukhubekile. Kodwa ngokubanzi, ndiza kushiya ixatyiwe ixesha elide kakhulu. Nangona ixhomekeke kwisihloko. Siyalungisa ngoku, sifunga yonke imizuzu kwaye sihleke kwangoko. Namhlanje andikwazanga ukuphinda ndiyikhuphe iPoltyte, kulungile, andikwazi kunceda uLena: "Masitsalele umnxeba," waphendula wathi: "Ngaba uyaphambana ?! Zintathu iibhloko zokungazi. " Okanye ufuna isibane esinye, kwaye ndingomnye. Kodwa ndiyaqonda ukuba ikhitshi ngummandla wayo, kodwa eofisini yam ndingayenza le ndlela ndiyithandayo, kwaye ndiyaluthanda ukukhanya.
-Naphambi kweengcinga kunye nokukhwaza malunga noqhawulo-mtshato okanye ukuhamba okwethutyana kungafiki?
UAnton: Sinokoyikisa ngokungxama esomeleleyo ukuba umntu uza kuhamba, kodwa akukho namhla akazange ahambe. Konke oku kuthiwa ezintliziyweni.
-Ukuqala ukuhlala phantsi kophahla olufanayo, ngaba ubuqonda ukuba uninzi lwabantu abahlukileyo okanye olufanayo?
Elena: Kubonakala kum ukuba sivumelane ngo "chemistry", onke amanye amanqaku oqhagamshelwano afunyanwa kamva. (Uncumo.)
"Xa abantu behlala kunye kwaye kubi umntu ombi, kubi nakwesibini. Abafazi bakulungele ukuya kwi-psychologist kwaye basombulule iingxaki, kodwa akukho bantu"
Ifoto: Polina Bunny
- Ke ngoku ntoni?
Elena: Usapho, abantwana, ubuchule. Sinokunxibelelana nomntu othile, singathethi ngayo, kodwa phantse sihlala sikhula ngendlela efanayo ngaye. Kwimicimbi yobungcali, umdla, ukuthandana kubekho umahluko, kodwa sinesimo sengqondo esifanayo ngobomi. Kodwa akunjalo kwangoko, safika koku.
UAnton: Sithanda abadlali abahlukeneyo, iifilimu ezahlukeneyo, izinto ezidlalelaniyo, iincwadi. Nangona kunjalo, kunjalo, kukho ukungangqinelani, kusenokwenzeka ukuba kunokwenzeka amashumi amahlanu anesihlanu. Kodwa ngokubanzi, ukuba ne-hobby eqhelekileyo kunye nezinto ezimnandi azimfuneko. Ngoku ndinesifo sokuntywila, uLena wenza i-dive yokugqibela nelinye iqabane. Eyona nto iphambili kukuba isikhundla sokuziphatha, imiqondiso ebomini, eyona nto imbi singayingqinelani nje, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala kum ukuba singumntu omnye.
- Ngaba imikhwa yasekhaya yahlukile kakhulu?
Elena: Ewe! Ungaphupha nantoni na, kodwa kubomi bokwenyani-ukothuka yimikhwa ye-on othandekayo. (Zihleka.) Ukungena nolwalamano olusemncinci kakhulu, kunqabile ukuba ngubani onokuba nguwe, siyaqhubeka nokuphila ngokufakelwa ngumzali, nokuba simkile ekhaya, njengam. Ngelixa ufike kwinto eyakho, lidlule ixesha.
- Kwaye yintoni eyahlukileyo?
Elena: U-Anton unosapho olunobuchule kakhulu, indlu ibisoloko igcwele iindwendwe, iingxoxo, iingoma eziphantsi kwekatala ... kwaye xa sasicinga, sakha izicwangciso zexesha elizayo, salumkiswa ukuba siya kuba neyadi yeyeyadi . Kodwa ekugqibeleni yaphuma ngokuchaseneyo. Ndiyazithanda nje iindwendwe, kwaye uAnton uvaliwe ngokumalunga noku. Ukuze ayokuqokelela inkampani yimbonakalo ethile. Kodwa ndiyayiqonda into yokuba xa usebenza ukusuka kusasa ukuya kususela ngokuhlwa, iqela elinengxolo ekhaya ayisiyiyo inketho yakho.
-Ngoko ke akukho mandla omnye komnye ngoku?
UAnton: Akukho zinto zimangalisayo zehlabathi, kodwa impendulo kwinto ngamanye amaxesha ingaqhelekanga. Sisanomdla omnye komnye. Xa ndibona uLena wenza i-yoga, ixesha ngalinye lithanda inani layo, iindlela zakhe. Uhlala ebonakala ngathi inomdla ngokwesondo. Ukubonakala ngathi kuya kubaleka, ayisiyonto nje yokulala kwi-rug. Kwaye ndifuna ukuba ndiyithanda nangakumbi. Xa ndingekho ekhaya ixesha elide, bendisoloko ndizisa kumthengisi weenwele ukuze athathe ixesha elinye lokubonakala phambi kwayo ngeyona ndlela inokwenzeka. Oko kukuthi, ngoku siza kubonisa kwaye sihlise omnye komnye. (Uhleka.)
-Uhlala ngokwaneleyo ngaphandle kwabantwana. Ndiyazi i-anton nditsho amahlaya, ukuba ulinde ntoni, xa sele bekhulile kwaye bakushiye ...
UAnton: Ndisenolwazi oluncinci. Uninzi lukholelwa, kuquka nam, ukuba unabantwana abathathu: Vladik, uAlina no-Anton (kuhlekeka), kuba ndifuna iliso namehlo. Ndonwabile ukuba sinethuba lokuya kwindawo ethile kunye. Kodwa bobabini abantwana bethu bayanqweneleka. Ndafuna umntwana, unyana wam okokuqala, bendiyakwazi ukuba ungayibiza njani. Ndiyindoda esebenzayo kakhulu, iLena ihlukile ngokupheleleyo. Umzekelo, ndiye kwihotele enye iminyaka emihlanu, kwaye ithi sele ingenakwenzeka. Kwaye ndiqala ukuphumla, nje ukuba ndinamatikiti kunye nokugcina kule hotele.
"Ndiyathanda ukuvula imida yendawo yonke indawo" ihlala kuyo "." Kwaye ndingahamba kwizihlangu iminyaka emithathu, ukuba awufumananga abanye "
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-Uhlala uphumle ngaphandle kwabantwana. Kwaye zange bacele ukuba baye kwenye indawo nawe, abazange bakhwele?
Elena: Kwiminyaka emithathu eyadlulayo, sonke sasikunye eGeorgia, emva koko sahlala siphumle nge-Anton. Sichithe kakuhle emva koko. Ke kaloku uAlina ukulungele ukuya kwenye indawo, we-vlad, uneminyaka elishumi elinesine, akasekho. Nguye lowo uya kuyithabathela emathangeni, akayi nako, bathi, Ndiya kuva ubunzima kuwe, bazali. (Uhleka.) Kodwa akukho mntu unethamsanqa apho. Kufuneka sibekho ixesha elithile kuphela. Ndinomhlobo, banobudlelwane obuhle kakhulu nomyeni wakhe, kodwa kuyakholelwa ukuba abantwana bazala umama wakhe, ke bahlala kubo bonke. Kufuneka nje siqonde ukuba ungcono kangakanani.
UAnton: Abantwana baya eTurkey kunye nogogo kunye noLena. Ngoku ndayichitha inyanga yonke eSevastopol, ndayibeka umfanekiso "wegazi kwidesika". ULeya weza kum nentombi yakhe. Kwaye iVladik yayingafuni, ihleli nomakhulu wakhe, wayenentombazana ngelo xesha. (Ukuhleka.) Khange ndiyinyanzele.
-Ukuba uyazi malunga nentombazana, ke unolwalamano oluthembekileyo kunye naye?
UAnton: Ndifundile malunga neLena. I-vlad iyabelana naye ngakumbi naye, kuba ihlala ihlala ekhaya kwaye isondele kakhulu ebantwaneni. Kodwa uNyana akaziceli iSoviet. Ngoku ngoku wayekulo xesha xa waye engenguye igunya kuye. Kwaye oku kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Oku akuthethi ukuba akandibeka nantoni na, inayo umbono wakhe, kwaye ndonwabile kakhulu ngayo.
Elena: Sithetha uninzi lwabantwana, ndizama ukubacela ukuba babuze yonke into. Ndiyakholelwa ukuba sele kwi-kindergarten kufuneka inxibelelane nabo ngolwimi oluqhelekileyo. Emva koko baya kuhamba nawe kwiincoko zoFrank. Xa uqhelanisa ukuba le minyaka ilishumi kusafuneka uthethe noNyana wothando, malunga nolwalamano lwamadoda nabafazi, ndiye ndaphendula kwaphela ukuba lishumi elinesine eline.
"Kutheni le nto ndisithi kufuneka ukhathalele impilo yakho kwaye uza kuzala kamva? Kuba xa ufumanisa iingxaki zakho zangaphakathi, awuyi kubaxhoma emntwaneni. "
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- kwaye omnye komnye unokuxoxa ngayo yonke into?
UAnton: Kukho izinto endizingathethiyo uLena, nonxweme lwakhe, kuba ndiyazi, iya kuba yinto engathandekiyo kuye, njengabanye behemusi, ihleba ngathi. Kwaye malunga namava akho anzima ahamba e-Neurosis, ndixelela ugqirha wengqondo, andiyifumani. (Ihleka.) Kwaye i-lena ikhona, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha yiya kwisibini. Kwaye ke sithetha ngayo yonke into, bahlobo abasondeleyo kunathi, asiyenzi.
Elena: Xa abantu behlala kunye kunye nomntu wedwa ombi, ke ombi kunye nowesibini. Njengommiselo, abafazi bakulungele ukuya kwi-psychologist kwaye basombulule iingxaki, kwaye batsho ukuthi: "Xa ndandisithi:" Kodwa xa sele ndikrelekrele kuwe, "wavuma. Ingcali inceda ekusombululeni iingxaki ezizizo, kwaye umntu uqala ngokuphila ngenye indlela kwaye ujonge ezinye izinto.
- Makhe sibuyele kubantwana. Ngokomgaqo, ngeendlela zokukhula, uya?
Elena: Ewe kunjalo, sijonga kwicala elinye. Kutheni le nto ndisithi kufuneka ukhathalele impilo yakho kwaye uza kuzala kamva? Kuba xa ufumanisa iingxaki zakho zangaphakathi, awuyi kubaxhoma emntwaneni. UAnton ushushu kakhulu. Oku akuthethi ukuba ubaleka abantwana, kodwa uphi? Nangona esebenza kuyo. Ndikhanyisa nam. Kodwa inye into xa umfazi ekhwaza, omnye umntu - xa umntu onamagxa amane namagxa abanzi kunye ne-bass. Umama nje wam uhlala enyanzelekile, "ayisuse," kwaye inokuba imibala ephakamileyo, kodwa yabantwana sele inotsi emhlophe. (Ukuhleka.) Unyana wenza izimvo: "Mama, kulungile, kutheni undikhwaza? Masithethe ngokuzolileyo. " Kwaye ndiyacinga: "Kwaye ngokwenene, ndikhala ntoni?". (Uhleka.)
UAnton: I-Vladika ineminyaka yotshintsho, ijonga imida yezakhono zayo kwaye ihlala imele. Izihlandlo ezininzi zenza iimpazamo ezifanayo, zivaliwe kwimeko, ekufuneka simncede ekuweni. Ndizama ukuba kunye naye kwincoko, kodwa ndinazo zombini izithintelo nezithintelo. Ewe kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha ndigoba intonga, kwaye uLena uyandithoba, utsho. Ngamanye amaxesha kungekufike ngexesha lokuzikhulisa kwam, kwaye nangaphambili, xa ebona ukuba ndiza kuqhuma ngoku. (Uhleka.)
- Ngaba abantwana banxulumana njani nezinto, kuPirigene, ngaba yi-balhet yabo?
Elena: Kwenzeka njalo, i-vlad igubungela amaza, utsho esithi ufuna ezombhalo izinto, kwaye ngandlel 'ithile unxibe iimpahla zomtshana. Ndithi kuye: "Unemali ethile. Ungafumana i-suite ukuba kukho imali eyaneleyo. " Ngoku ndenze indawo kwiiklasi zokuthetha, kwaye sele omnye umhlobo acele ukuba amncedise, afumane imali. Nasendleleni, andithandi ukuba phawu, ndiyakuthanda ukuvula abakhi bendawo yonke indawo ndiphile. Kwaye ndingahamba kwezinye iibhutsi iminyaka emithathu ukuba andifumananga abanye. Kwaye i-vlad ndizithenga izihlangu rhoqo kwiinyanga ezimbini, kwaye ihamba kwi-snekers entsha ukudlala ibhola. Iifowuni zikwisihloko esigulayo. Utsho ukuba kwiklasi ye-iPhone, wayenayo, kodwa wamthoba xa wayenyamezelekile. Emva koko, ndatsho: "Akho i-iPhone. Uye waqokelela imali, kodwa kutheni efuna ifowuni enjalo? Sifumana, kodwa hayi kwizinto. Siya kuhlala sifuna le, ke-nto leyo, kwaye ke ayinasiphelo.
-Lena, awuzange uva ubunzima ngenxa yokuba umyeni uphumelele ngakumbi?
Elena: Ewe, bendikhathazwa yile nto kuba ndifunde nzima kwaye ndidlale ngempumelelo zonke iindima eziphambili esikolweni. Ndakhonkxiwe ndinethemba elikhulu. Kodwa umsebenzi uxhomekeke kwiimeko ezininzi, kwaye lo mfazi unomnqweno wokuzibandakanya kusapho, abantwana. Ndixhalabile, kodwa sele nditshintshe ingqondo, ndathetha nawe, ndidlulisela indlela ethile. Ke ngoku bonke bangabadlali abaya kummiselo, ndikucebisa ukuba ubuyele enkundleni, nokuba kubonakala ngathi umntwana usencinci. Uya kuhlala emncinci, njengendoda iya kuhlala ifuna ukukubona kusapho. Kodwa ukuba umntu uyathanda, uya kuyiqhela le kwaye yonke into iya kuqonda. Kwaye ukuba akunjalo, mhlawumbi awuzukufumana.
-Une-anvan anton?
Elena: Ndayibiza ngenye indlela ngokwahlukileyo, kodwa ukuba umbiwe nzulu, kunokwenzeka ukuba igama lingumona oqeqeshiweyo. Ndicele uAnton ukuba ancede kwiisampuli, kodwa ayinakuba yimeko yomsebenzi wakhe. Indoda yakha umsebenzi wakhe ngokupheleleyo kum. Ukuba uyakwazi ukwenza into kunye kwindawo yemidlalo yeqonga okanye kwishishini, asize sivume. Sikhululekile kakhulu ukuba sidlale kunye. Ndazilambela kunye "nomzalwana", kodwa kwakudala. Kwaye ngexesha lokukhulelwa, ndathatyathwa ngaphandle kweesampulu kwiiprojekthi ezininzi, kodwa andizange ndinyamezele eli xesha, ndalalela ezibhedlele. Emva koko ndancamathela kakhulu kwindlu nangengqondo ndilahlekelwe ngumzuzu. Kodwa ndijonga indlela u-Anton ndisebenza ngayo ngoku, abanye abadlali, lo ngumsebenzi we-HoIF. Mhlawumbi andiwuthandi lo msebenzi ukuze ndifele kwindawo. Ngoku ndidlala i-Theatre ngoku, abarhwebi bavela.
"Siyafumana, kodwa hayi kwizinto"
Ifoto: Polina Bunny
- Khawufan 'ucinge ngemeko ye-Lena ihamba kabukhali kwaye ikhusele ...
UAnton: Yiba yinkanyezi ngaphezulu kunam, akukho bunzima kule. (Ukuhleka.) Le ayisiyi-coquetry. Kwaye Megazazre? Kodwa kutheni kungenjalo? Ndiza konwaba kuphela.
-Lena, nakwiNdlu onayo ngokwaneleyo?
Elena: Ndizithanda izinto ukwazi iindawo zethu ukuba azinaluthuli naphi na. Kodwa ndaphiliswa ngokomntu ogqibeleleyo (kuhleka), kwaye ngamanye amaxesha besinomncedisi wekhaya. Kodwa xa abantwana besithi kum: "Apha unokususa egumbini lethu," Ndiphendula ukuba ziya kuzishenxisa. Abantwana kufuneka okungenani babe neminye imisebenzi endlini. Kwaye ndihlaziywe ngokuziphindezela, i-plinth idrafti, i-shit, ipeyinti, iyagqobhoza eyam. Ndiyifihla imizobo kunye nomnini webhayisikile.
- Ngaba uyayenza kuba uyathanda okanye kuba uAnton akayenzi?
Elena: U-Anton uchithe ixesha elininzi kwilali, uyayazi ukuba yimalini, kwaye ukuba kukho imfuneko, uyakwenza yonke into, kodwa akayithandi, kungcono ukumemela ingcali. Kwaye ndiyathanda ukumba umngxunya, emva koko ndicinge ukuba ndenze ntoni ngayo. (Uhleka.)