Abacinezeli bomfazi-ayilonto inqabileyo kwiintsuku zethu, uninzi lwabasetyhini kangangeminyaka kwaye amashumi eminyaka ubudala nakwiminyaka namashumi eminyaka iphila ngotywala wasekhaya kwaye babone amathuba okuhamba. Kufanelekile ukwenza ugcino: Iingxabano ezitshatileyo, iingxabano kunye nokulwa amaqabane eemvakalelo kunye ne-tyranning kunye ne-tyranny yasekhaya: i-cineran yekhaya, kwaye ikhona lixhoba lakhe.
Ingxaki ayisiyiyo kuphela amaxhoba e-tyrandia yasekhaya kuphela, kodwa nakwinyani yokuba ubuntu babo butshatyalalisiwe ngobo banjalo ngaphandle kwe-tyrann yabo ngaphandle kokukhetha, kuqinisekisa ngenxa yexhoba. Kodwa indlela yokuqonda ikhaya lakho i-cinedy yakho kwindoda xa ubudlelwane buqala nje kwaye abuphuzi kakhulu ukuyilungisa?
Kukho inani lemiqondiso engqina ukuba indoda yakho ibhekisela kudidi lwabantu abanetyhefu ekulula kakhulu ukuba baguquke babacinezeli basekhaya, njengokuba bekunjalo nje ukuba bangenzi nto ngokupheleleyo kwaye ukuthobeka kwexhoba.
I-Ekaterina Zdan.
Okokuqala, oku kunjalo, kunjalo, nayiphi na imboniso yobuqhophololo kunye nolwaphulo-mthetho aziyonto yomzimba kuphela, kodwa ikwanomlomo, onesisongelo.
Okwesibini, akukho nto iphawulekayo, ngokungafaniyo nogonyamelo, oku kukusetyenziswa kwethoni yomzimba kunxibelelwano. Nasiphi na isicelo sobuhlobo bee-odolo okanye iiodolo, kwaye iqabane elinjalo lilindele ukuphunyezwa ngokungqongqo kunye nokungenisa ngokupheleleyo.
Okwesithathu, ukugxekwa rhoqo ngokudibeneyo nokugculelwa kunye nokuhla kwexabiso kwanabo ubungqina obunetyhefu bokuba siphazamisekile kwingxaki yokungabinakho ukuba yityhefu yasekhaya.
Okwesine, ikhwele elingumgubo lihlala liphawuleka labacinezeli basekhaya, kungekuko ngokuthanda iqabane, kwaye boyika ukuphulukana nedini elinokuya kumntu ofanelekileyo. Emanzini obunzulu bomphefumlo, uTinya wasekhaya aqonda ukuthobeka kunye nokungakwazi ukwenza usapho olusempilweni, kwaye lunomsindo ngakumbi.
Isihlanu, ingcinezelo yasekhaya idla ngokuseka ulawulo olupheleleyo kwixhoba labo. Baza kuzama ukufaka iqabane kunye nezalamane zakhe, banxibelelane neentombi ezindala kunye nabahlobo, ezothutho besiya kwenye idolophu, ziya kufunda ngononophelo ulawulo lwexhoba.
Kufanelekile ukuqonda ukuba akukho nto ingcwele yomfazi wasekhaya. Ibhekisa kuhlobo lwabantu abahlekisa ababuthathaka kwaye abanayo inceba encinci. Khumbula ukuba kwintsapho eqhelekileyo ayikho indawo yobundlobongela basekhaya, kwaye nje ukuba "iminxeba yawo" yawo "ivele" ivele "kuqala, azizilandeli umonde, okanye ungaqeqesheni umonde, okanye uchithe i umtshato kwaye ushiye iqabane elinjalo.
Ukuba sele uphantsi kwempembelelo yogonyamelo lwasekhaya ixesha elide kwaye ungazenzi izenzo ezibonakalayo ngenxa yokoyika ukuba ungakhathali "zenze i-horrow" kunye noqhakamshelwano kumaziko e-cuts ukunceda abasetyhini.