Kutheni le nto amanye amantombazana engenakufumana iqabane? Nditsho ndilungile, ndingenakuphumelela? Ugqirha we-psychotherapist, oqeqeshi ngenjongo ye-Ilya Baretsev kunye nonyango lwe-RTT-Port-Coach, i-propt yophuhliso lwe-Irina Shekunov kule ngxaki kwaye zahlulwe yimizekelo yazo.
Thenga lo mfazi! Thenga le ndoda!
Siphila kwixesha apho kuhlala sizama ukuthengisa into. Ichaphazela izinto zombini kunye nemifanekiso. Ngoluhlu oluthile, iimagazini, i-Instagram, iinethiwekhi zentlalo kwingqondo yethu zithulule iitoni zolwazi esingenalo ixesha lokuphinda lisebenze. Uye kwi-subconstance, jika abe ufakelo. "Indoda enemali yile uyifunayo," "Intombazana inyanzelekile." Wonke umntu uyayiqonda ingqondo umntu osisityebi yi-an dibanisa, intombazana yezemidlalo eyazala inzala esempilweni, yindawo engenakuphikiswa. Qaphela kude kungabikho ngxaki.
"Andiyi kwimifanekiso! Ndikhetha abantu endibathandayo! "
Ulungile. Ngothungelwano lwentlalo, musa ukuluphumelela uvuyo lokudibana nomntu endifuna ukusondelelana naye. Inkxaso, udumo, nceda, uvakaze iimpawu, uthando, ukuqonda-ubuncinci into ukusuka kolu luhlu kubalulekile kuye wonke umntu.
"Ngaba uyilibele ngayo?"
Ngokuqinisekileyo! Umfazi ufanele ukupheka ukutya, kwaye oyindoda kufuneka awe. Isidlo sangokuhlwa esisityebi kufuneka sithweswe isithsaba kunye nesondo esingablusiyo. Zombini kufuneka zidlale ezemidlalo, kwaye ngokubanzi, zilandele. Ewe, kwaye imvakalelo yokuhlekisa ayilibali!
"Ewe, hayi kakubi! Kwaye yintoni iqhinga? "
Ukubamba kukuba sikhetha iqabane ngokufuthi nokuba ngengqondo okanye iimvakalelo okanye umzimba. Kodwa ayinguye wonke umntu kunye. Ngapha koko, wonke umntu unendawo oyithandayo, ayikhethayo. Njengakwingoma yeLeningrad: "Uno-g. Kwaye, ngokubanzi, ndiyamthanda, "ukhetho lomzimba ophambili. Kwaye ndiyandixolela, ndiyambulela kwakhona, kwakhona, kwakhona. Owu, ndinawe ... "- Apha eyona nto iphambili ivakalelwa kukuba, ingqondo ithatha inxaxheba kwiakhawunti ngaphambi kwe-5. , "Oku kubalwa kakhulu intloko.
Ke, ingxaki yile
Ziingxaki xa iZiko esilikhethayo, "lazibandakanywa. "Yonke imihla iyanyamalala emsebenzini wethu, kwaye andichithi ixesha kunye nam," iimvakalelo zavula. "Siphilile eLadim, ukuqonda okupheleleyo, kodwa kukho into engalunganga ebhedini, kwaye ayilunganga kakhulu," umzimba wavulwa. Imizekelo ayinasiphelo.
Owona mibutho inamandla-xa wanelisekile iziko le-2. Kodwa ke kukho imvakalelo yokuba kukho into engekhoyo.
Phambi kokuba luphume?
Phuhlisa ukuqonda ngokwawo kunye neempembelelo zayo xa ukhetha iqabane. Zinike ixesha lokuqonda, ukuqalisa ubudlelwane obutsha. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, hlukana necebo lokukhetha iqabane eliqhelekileyo. Unokuqhubeka nokuzama ukuchitha ixesha de kube lelona khetho libonakalayo olifunayo ebomini. Kwabo badiniwe kukukhuphisana kwi-rake efanayo, okanye bafuna ukukhawulezisa inkqubo yokwazisa kwaye bonwabe, siye saqulunqa iqabane lemini "lentsuku ezimbini ebomini" - le yindlela yokuqaphela ngokwakho, Iimpembelelo zakho, iqabane elifanelekileyo, ukugqiba ubudlelwane obudlulileyo.