Yintoni ongayifuniyo ukuyenza emva kokuvutha komsindo wakho?

Kwintshukumo yam yengqondo yengqondo, ndihlala ndisiya kwingxaki yokungcatsha. Ewe, namhlanje, njengangaphambili, ukuvutha komsindo yinto eqhelekileyo. AKUKHO BUNGOZI BANGABANGELELO BABASEBENZISI, BABONELELA IIMPAWU, Bhala iincwadi ngesi sihloko. Izizathu zotshintsho zinokuba zezona zinto zahlukile kakhulu-umnqweno weyantlukwano, ukungoneliseki ngokubanzi komtshato, umnqweno wokuziphakamisa, ukuziphindezela kwinye indlela yokuzamkela ubudlelwane kunye njalo. Ke, xa abantu bajongana nale msitho ungathandekiyo, umbuzo awuboni kakuhle - wenze ntoni emva koko? Ungayenza njani? Isaphulelo okanye hayi? Ukuvutha kwentlungu kunokubangela iintlungu ezinganyamezeleki, kuba oku kukubetha kakhulu kubudlelwane, ngokuzithemba, ngokuziva okwakho. Le yingxaki, ukuze isinde kungekho lula kakhulu. Kwaye eyona nto yokuqala ekufuneka yenziwe kukuvuma ukuba ndikweli ntlekele kwaye ndiswele inkxaso kunye novelwano. Ewe, ewe, mna, hayi omnye umntu. Uncedo lunokuncokola nabathandekayo. Okanye, ngokuchasene noko, ngenxa yokufumana kwakhona, olona nyango lubalaseleyo lunokuba lilolo. Umntu oluncedo uya kuya kwindawo yemidlalo yeqonga okanye kwimovie yokuphelisa. Amathuba okuzixhasa kakhulu, kwaye bonke umntu. Eyona nto iphambili kukubona usizi lwakho kwaye uzisole ngokwakho ngendlela efanelekileyo.

Ke kubalulekile ukuzama ukujonga imeko, ukwahlula ngokwakho ngamava akho. Sukungafuneki ukuba ungazihoyi kwaye ucinezele iimvakalelo zakho, kodwa akufuneki ukuthobela ngokupheleleyo. Ukuthatha indawo yangaphandle malunga nale meko, kuya kuba lula ukuqonda ukuba ufuna ntoni kubudlelwane. Ungazama ukucinga ukuba ubudlelwane bugqithile, kwaye businde le ntlungu. Iluncedo iyakukhumbula ukuba zeziphi iinjongo onazo emtshatweni, ezizisa ulonwabo ngaphandle kweqabane, kwaye cinga ukuba ungaqhubeka nokuphila ngaphandle kolu lwalamano. Ukwazi ukuba awusasazeli, kunokuba yinkxaso eninzi yokubuyiselwa kwemanyano yakho. Ndifuna ukugxininisa ukuba asithethi malunga nendawo yokubonisa "hayi kakhulu uyandidinga," eneneni kuthi "uqonde."

Kwaye ekugqibeleni, eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu (ngaphambi kokuba ilungiselele) kukwenza i-dilesi evulekileyo neqabane layo. Xoxa malunga noko kwenzeka ngokubanzi ngaphakathi komtshato, otshintshileyo mva nje, oko kwenzekileyo kwiimvakalelo ngento eyenzekileyo, njengoko ubona iziphumo zemeko. Kwangelo xesha, zama ukuthetha ngokukhululekileyo, ukuphepha abagxeki nezityholo, baya kwenza iqabane ukuba bazikhusele kwaye abayi kunceda ekusombululeni ingxaki.

Ndisafuna Lumkisa ngento ongafanele uyenze:

-Khangela inkxaso kwiqabane. Akayi kuba nako ukukunika, kuba yena ngokwakhe unemvakalelo eziphikisayo;

-Ukusoloko umkhondo apho umyeni wakho / umfana wakho kwaye uthetha ntoni. Kwaye idla ngokubuza ukuba ucinga ntoni. Oku kunokukhokelela kwisiphumo esichaseneyo, njengoko ubudlelwane buya kuthathwa njengabangabizi mithetho;

-Xoxa nge-nuis yomtshato-apho, nini, nini, ezi nkcukacha ziya kukhunjulwa ixesha elide, kunzima kakhulu ukulibala, kwaye kangangeminyaka emininzi baya kukwenzakalisa.

Ewe, impendulo yendalo iphela kumbuzo othi: "Ukwenza ntoni ngoku?" ayikho. Kodwa, ekubeni enze umsebenzi okufanayo kuye, ukuba aphendule kuye kwaye enze isigqibo kuya kuba lula.

Izibini ezahlukeneyo zihambelana ngokwahlukileyo kwi-mobson. Umntu othile kulula ukusinda kuye, umntu unzima ngakumbi. Njengoko sele ndibhale kwelinye lamanqaku angaphambili, le ngxaki inokuwisa ubudlelwane, kwaye mhlawumbi ithuba lokuphuhlisa. Kule meko, okwesibini kuxhomekeka ekubeni amaqabane avulekileyo aya kuba nakho ukuxoxa ngokuba ubudlelwane, ubhekisa ngononophelo kwiimvakalelo zomntu ngamnye kwaye uzithembele kule meko.