Zintoni oontanga bakhe kumntwana okwishumi elivisayo?
Abalingane bomntu okwishumi elivisayo sisipili apho kubonakaliswa kuwo na kwaye umahluko uyabonakala; i-benchmark, apho ahlawulayo amaxabiso ayo; NgoLwesithathu, okhoyo ukubaluleka kwakhe, apho afuna ukwamkelwa, apho kufanelekileyo amaphupha okuqondwa kwaye oyoyika ukugatywa.
Iingcali zezengqondo zaseMelika zibamba ulingo. Baye bagqiba kwelokuba basebenzise ixesha elingakanani abantwana abakwishumi elivisayo nabazali babo. Umthathi-nxaxheba ngamnye wanikwa ubuhedeni apho imibuzo evela kubaphandi yeza ngexesha lasemini. Kumyalezo ngamnye, ulutsha lwakufuneka luphendule ngokukhawuleza, apho kwaye ngubani na. Iphelile into yokuba uninzi lwexesha (50%), abantwana besikolo baqhutywa kunye nabahlobo kunye nabo ufunda nabo kunye ne-30% yexesha elilungiselelwe.
Kwihambo ngoLwesithathu, umntu okwishumi elivisayo utsala amandla okujamelana notshintsho kuyo, kwaye ujonge imigangatho entsha yokuziphatha. Uhlala egubungela izenzo zakhe ngenyaniso yokuba abanye bemlindile, bezama ukuzisa umbono wakhe, iimvakalelo, iintshukumo ezihambelana nemilinganiselo yabahlobo. Ngomnye umntu okwishumi elivisayo, akazifumani nje, uyaqhubeka. Ngobodwa, ukufundisa, ubudlelwane nootitshala nabazali baya ngasemva. Ke ngoko, ingqumbo yomthetho kakhulu kunye nokuqhawuka komthetho kuyambangela umama notata, ophendula abanye babahlobo.
Namhlanje, kunzima nanamhlanje, kunzima ukukhumbula inkampani ebaluleke kakhulu kubo nokuba zeziphi izinto ezixabisekileyo esizithengileyo. Umzekelo, kwingqondo yengqondo kukho ingcinga enjalo - "intlekele yendlela oxanduva", xa umntu eqonda ilungelo lomnye kwinkampani ukuba inyanzelise uxanduva kwimpumelelo okanye ukusilela kweshishini elidibeneyo. Ungayenza njani ngaphandle kobu buchule kulo naliphi na iqela labantu abadala kwixesha elizayo? Umzekelo, ukuba iqela alizange libambe kakhulu, ukusilela kubaluleke kumntu wedwa, kwaye ukuba kukho uqhagamshelo olusondeleyo kuwo, ke umntu othatha inxaxheba ukuba ubandakanyekile ekungathobeni okanye kwimpumelelo yonke into ephumezileyo.
Ngobuhlobo bobuhlobo noontanga, abazali banokuyiqonda kakuhle into efunyanwa nguMntwana ngonxibelelwano kwaye ayifuni uncedo lwabantu abadala. Kutheni le nto ulutsha lucinga ngabo banokubangela ukuvunywa ngabadala? Kutheni le nto inomdla kuye kwaye yintoni enokubuyekeza umnqweno onjalo?
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Singabahlobo njani?
Ubuhlobo phakathi koontanga buvela okungenani izizathu ezine.
Ukuba umntwana okwishumi elivisayo uyawuxabisa amandla, unyamezelo, dexterity, ngokuqinisekileyo iya kuqala ukudibanisa nabafana abanazo ezi mpawu. Olu hlobo lobuhlobo luyi "ezantsi-phezulu" - ngokusekwe kwinkonzo yokubonisa kunye nokungenisa ngokuyinxalenye. Umntwana okwishumi elivisayo ufuna ukufana nabanye, uzama ukuxelisa amandla omeleleyo-kwiingubo, indlela yokubamba, thetha. Ukudibanisa olunjalo - umntwana uya ngokuzingisikela ngokwamacala elinye njengeentandokazi.
Uhlobo lwesibini lolwalamano olunobuhlobo lumanyano kunye nabo bawuxabisa umgangatho onayo. Umntwana ofikisayo uziva, ebaluleke kakhulu umntu wokwenene, ngenxa yokuba kwinkampani ixabisekile ngolwazi nezakhono (umzekelo, into yokuyila ibhola ekhatywayo, idlala ibhola ekhatywayo). Olo lwalamano luhlaziya ubuchule bokulawula kunye nomyalelo, kwaye ufundise nokuziva ukuzithemba. Olu hlobo lobuhlobo 'lulwandiso oluvela phezulu kuye ezantsi "- lubandakanya ukulawula umntu, ochaza imigaqo ngelixa abanye bemele bathobele.
Inguqulelo yesithathu yolutsha lobuhlobo anele, ihlala ibalulekile kangangeminyaka emininzi. Umzekelo, iigradi zesixhenxe ezinomdla malunga neMathematics zinokusonjululwa ngokulinganayo, imisebenzi izama ukufezekisa imisebenzi inzima. Kwangelo xesha banomdla wokunxibelelana ngaphandle kweklasi nangaphandle kwezifundo. Olo lwalamano luthatha indlela yomdlalo okanye umzabalazo, oba yinjongo yangaphakathi, ngaphandle kwento yokuba ubudlelwane lwakhiwe ngokulinganayo kwamaqela.
Kukho uhlobo lwesine xa ulutsha lunxibelelana, lulawula okanye lungaphantsi kwenye, enye. Ukungazinzi kwangaphakathi kubantwana abanjalo kwenza ukungazinzi kunye nobuhlobo babo. Olu hlobo lolwalamano luza kunika lo mboleko kwaye lubangele ukungaboni ngasonye, kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba kungekudala, kamva, umntwana okwishumi elivisayo uya kuthobela bomelele kwiqela. I-ALO, uhlobo olunjalo lobuhlobo luyeyona nto iphosakeleyo, ithwala intlawulo ye-hooligan, i-asicaricial, inkohlakalo.
Ukuba umntwana akatyhaleli ubudlelwane kwaye akukho zihlobo, uyafuneka ngoncedo lwabazali kunye noochwephesha bafuna ukuba luhlobo luni lwengxaki enxulumene nolu phawu olungathandekiyo. Ukongeza, ukuba, ukongeza kwiMicimbi yeSikolo neMicimbi yezeKhaya, umntwana akazi ukuba angazenza phi kwaye enze ntoni, ukuba uziva engamkelekanga esikolweni, unokufumana inkampani engathandekiyo.
Ndikhumbula ibali elaphathwayo ngokwesibini kwiminyaka eyadlulayo. Isixhenxe esiqinileyo nesomda esisixhenxe se-nace natasha, eyakhula ngembonakalo echumileyo ngokupheleleyo, yayingenamantombazana kwaphela. Ufunde ngendlela engalingani, wamoyika ingqalelo kuye. Isimemo sikatitshala sokuphendula ebhodini simenze uloyiko. Le ntombazana yayidla ngokuva amazwi ebukhali kwidilesi yakhe kwidilesi yakhe evela kumfundisi wesiNgesi, ngenxa yoko akayithandi le nto, njengabanye ababenzima ukukwenza. Intsapho yayingakhathali ngokukodwa malunga nengubo yentombi kunye neenyembezi zayo. Ngayiphi na imeko, abazali bahlala bengakhathali. Kanye, ummelwane onobuhlobo wamema uNashasha oza kundwendwela, apho inkampani yabakwishumi elivisayo ihlanganisene khona. Babethetha ngobomi, malunga nothando, malunga nobudlelwane. Yayinomdla, kwaye indwendwe entsha yasabela ingqalelo. Ngapha koko, wamenywa ukuba ahlangane kwakhona. Ke kaloku uNatasha waba ngokwesiqhelo le nkampani. Sele kwiinyanga ezimbini, iinguqu zazicacile: Zolile kwaye bezithemba, wada waqalisa ukufunda iincwadi ngesiNgesi. Uzifumene ezi ncwadi kubantu obaqheleneyo. Phakathi kwabo, wadibana nomntu, uthando lwakhe. Yonke into ilungile ukuba ibingeyiyo into yokuba inkampani entsha yehlelo laseMunitov. Kungekudala uNatatha washiya indlu, wazinza kwi-commation kwaye waqhekeza nabazali bakhe abaye bathatha izinto zexabiso kunye nokonga. Njengokulandelelana okuthembisayo, kwaqala ukuyithumela ngentshumayelo yeemfundiso zenyanga kumazwe ahlukeneyo. Uxele ulwalamano lwayo nabazali bakhe kwaye wayeka ukubaxhasa nabo.
Kuluncedo ukufundisa umntwana ofikisayo ukuba enze izinto ngobudlelwane nabantu acinga, emkhumbuza ngomzekeliso waseRussia "kasixhenxe ukufa, enye ingeniso. Okokuqala, cinga, jonga kumacala ahlukeneyo, ubunzima, khetha indlela kwaye wenze kuphela. Ukuxhomekeka kwiimvavanyo, iimbono kunye neenkolelo ezamkelwe kwinkampani, ngamanye amaxesha zikhokelela kwishumi elivisayo ukuba zilungele iimfuno zazo, hayi ukuzikhusela iinkolelo kunye neenqobo ezizezini.
Siqikelela njani umgangatho wobuhlobo bomntwana? Kuyavela, ilula kakhulu. Iluncedo ngokwenene inokubizwa kuphela ngabo bafana abakhululeka kuzo; Baziva benentembelo, musa ukuwela imida yomngcipheko ofanelekileyo, hlonipha imigaqo eyamkelweyo eluntwini, gcina ubuhlobo kunye nokuqonda kunye nabazali, musa ukuba ngumrhumo wesaphuli-mthetho. Umqolo oqinileyo osuka kwisimilo kufuneka ubangele ixhala.
I-pecalicaltional yolutsha lobuhlobo aqukanga nje ngabasemagunyeni kuphela. Kubudlelwane phakathi kolutsha kukho indawo yokufihla, ukuthula, imvume, unyamezelo noxolo lwengqondo - "bonke bakwicala elikhulu." Ke ngoko, rhoqo abazali beva: "Ndiyakwazi ukuthetha ngokulula ngayo yonke into," ndihlala ndimthemba umhlobo. Ndiyazi ukuba ucinga ntoni, nokuba uthe cwaka. Okukhona ubuhlobo ngokusondeleyo nowomeleleyo, izihloko ezininzi ezithetha ngazo kunye, azinamdla kumava kunye nezimvo zabazali.
Iingcali zengqondo zigqibe kwelokuba ngama-20% kuphela abakwishumi elivisayo bakhetha isizungu. Yinto eqhelekileyo ukuba umntwana unomdla ngomsebenzi: ukuzoba, umculo, ukubhala, - oko kukuthi, imisebenzi efuna ukugxininiswa. Isizungu sijika sibe yingxaki kwaye sizise amava omeleleyo xa sinyanzeliswa ukuba umntwana okwishumi elivisayo akayamkeli inkampani awayeyinyule (bona iSahluko "siselula onguMfihlakalo"). Uninzi lwabantu abakwishumi elivisayo - i-80% -funa ukufumana umntu onengqondo, ii-buddies ezininzi (nqakraza) okanye nkqu nezinye ezininzi (inkampani). Ngokwesiqhelo batsaleleka kwabo basondeleyo kubo ngemvelaphi, umdla, unegama elifanayo okanye amanqaku. Umntu omdala ufikela umfinane, obanzi kuya kubakho isangqa sabahlobo bakhe, kwaye abafana besini esahlukileyo baya kubandakanywa.
Inkwenkwe + Intombazana
Inzala kumgangatho ophambeneyo ivela ebantwaneni ngaphambi kokufikisa. Sibona umnqweno wokukhathalela umtsalane wakho sele uphakathi kwabafundi abancinci; Kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, ulutsha unomdla kubantu abathanda kwaye kutheni, kwaye i-rappichement iqala. Ukuphawula utshintsho kwaqala kwabanye oontanga, umfinane wabazizabalalisa ngokwabo. Ubuhlobo phakathi kokufikisa ngokwesondo ezahlukeneyo buba sisikolo sokufunda ngokudibeneyo. Kwaye nantsi ukuba uxele loluphi uhlobo lolwazi oluyalela ulutsha ngexesha lemihla: Bafunda ukufunda umntu osondeleyo kubantu besini esahlukileyo, nxibelelana naye, ukuzama ukuqonda iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuqonda ukuba zeziphi ezona ziluncedo, kwaye zikhokela ukuvela kweengxaki ezingeyomfuneko; Ukuvavanywa kwemeko yabo ("bandibona kwinkampani nomfundi obalaseleyo okanye umntu onxungupheleyo"); funda ukunyaniseka kwaye yinyani; Ukuzama ukuqhubela phambili umzobo womyeni okanye umfazi ozayo. Mhlawumbi ngoku kuyakufanelekela ukuthetha nolutsha malunga nokuba imigangatho yokuziphatha kwamakhwenkwe namantombazana itshintshile namhlanje. Ukuba ngaphambili amantombazana alungisiwe yindima yokutshintsha, izidalwa ezithambileyo, ngoku zibizelwe umsebenzi, ukuzimela kunye nokuzikhubekisa, kwaye amakhwenkwe anikwa indima ehlonitshwayo yesicwangciso sesibini. Kwakukho imeko namhlanje, xa isiqalo solwalamano olusondeleyo sabangela amantombazana agxininisiweyo agxininiswa ngokwesilwanyana kwiminyaka emibini ngaphambili kunabafana. Ngendlela, njengoko izifundo zibonakalisile, abantwana abakwiingqongqo - abakwiithambeka zokungena kubudlelwane obusondeleyo - ubuncinci kuba zininzi iziphumo zabo.