Rhoqo abazali abaqondi ukuba yintoni eqokelele umntwana ukuba aphulukane nelahleko. Ngapha koko, kubonakala ngathi ukuba eyona nto iphambili kobu bomi kukuba ube ngumntu olungileyo. Kwaye inyani ithi ngokuchaseneyo, inkqonkqoze ebantwini kwaye iphile eyona inamandla. Kwaye akunyanzelekanga ukuba umntu owomeleleyo azenzekalisa izinja, eze nenkosikazi yakhe ukuba aphule kwaye akhwaze abaphantsi- le, nje, uninzi lwabantu buthathaka. Yimfesane yokuba uloyiko ayisiyiyo kuphela into edluliselwe kubazali. I-5 ephezulu eyamkelwe kwiimpawu eziphezulu, eziya kuthintela umntwana ukuba azinze ebomini.
"Ukuhlala ngokuthe cwaka kwaye ungakhokeli"
Ukususela ebuntwaneni, safundiswa ukuba siphakamise isandla sakho, sihlunguze imizuzu embalwa, ngelixa utitshala ukhetha impendulo, kwaye emva koko avakalise uluvo. Ukusuka kwiminyaka encinci, umntwana udla ngokuthatha inyathelo lokuqala kwisalathiso somntu. Ngelixa engayakhayo imizuzu eli-10 ukuya kweli-15 ukuba ithathe inxaxheba kwindawo yokuyila okanye unganikezeli izincomo ezivela entlokweni uye kwimilenze, akazokuthatha isigqibo sokubhengeza umsebenzi wakhe kwinkundla eqhelekileyo. Ukuba ngumntu omdala, uqhubeka nomgca ukusuka ebuntwaneni - igama elide aliyi kuxelela umphathi, aluyi kunika iprojekthi entsha ethembisayo kwaye ungaze uxelele abazali endaweni yendawo enkulu nge igitar Rock. Khumbula: Ungaze ugxeke umntwana ngenxa yoluvo olubonakalisiweyo, makazivelele yonke into ngeenxa zonke. Akusoloko kuhleli nje abantu abadala kulungile - Rhoqo abantwana balumkile kunathi, baqhuba kwiSakhelo sezentlalo. Yiba yinkxaso ephambili kunye nenkxaso ye-babe, nokuba kwenzeka ntoni.
kufuneka wenze into oyifunayo
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"Unethamsanqa, Unabazali abazicebileyo ..."
Intlupheko kukufakelwa kwengqondo ngokuqinisekileyo. Ukuba usakholelwa ukuba abantwana abavela kwiintsapho ezityebileyo bathathwe ziimviwo, kwiiyunivesithi eziphezulu kunye neenkampani eziqinisekileyo zithatha kuphela ilaphu kunye "umntu oqhelekileyo" avule i-Intanethi. Uya kumangalisa ukuba zingaphi izigidi zeedolophu. ICharisma, ukusebenza nzima, ingqondo eguqukayo kunye nokulungela umngcipheko-yile nto eyahlula aba bantu. Kwaye umntwana wakho akabi kakhulu kunabo: mxhase ngomnqweno wokufunda, ukubonelela ngemeko entle kwindlu.
"Ewe, umjonga!"
Ukugxeka abantu kwihlabathi lanamhlanje - i-histona. Indawo esempilweni ngakumbi kukwamkela ukuba abanye bahluke kuwe kwaye abanyanzelekanga ukuba baphile ngokwemigaqo yakho yokuziphatha. Ingxoxo ngomnye umntu, indlela yokuziphatha esidlangalaleni, indlela yokulawula ishishini kunye nobomi bobuqu - bonke aba bantu babandakanyeka ngqo. Kwiintsapho, apho yamkelwe ukusebenza kakhulu kwaye uqonde ukuba zithini iindlela, kwaye iingcinga aziyi kuvuka ekunqumle umntu ophumelele into.
"Amaxesha asixhenxe anqunywe kanye"
Kukangaphi ukhe waxelela umntwana, yintoni ekufuneka uyilumkele - ngaphezulu kwewaka? Umntwana wakho unobuqhetseba kwaye ubunyani bokuzikhusela awunikwe yena ngokwemvelo. Uloyiko, nokuba akakwazanga ukuba nakwa-I-Abrasion okanye akazange angcolise, ubeka ilahleko ekulahlekileyo kuyo. Akukho projekthi iphumelelayo iqale ukusuka kwinzame yokuqala-indlela yawo nawuphi na umntu obalaseleyo ufana nelayini eyaphukileyo, kwaye inganyuki ngokukhawuleza phezulu. Kuya kufuneka abeke umngcipheko kwaye aphosakele ukugcwalisa iicones zakhe aze afunde kwiimpazamo zakhe - musa ukuthatha la mava ebalulekileyo.
ulungile wonke umntu - ayipholanga
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"Ngoku uyinkwenkwe elungileyo!"
Susa igama elithi "Kulungile" ngokuchasene nomntwana ovela kwiLexicon. Akunakwenzeka ukuba ube ulungile kumntu wonke: kwixesha elizayo ayisayi kukhangelwa ngabantu. Intombazana iya kucaphukisa ngenxa yokuba uya kuthatha isigqibo sokuba uza kuthatha isigqibo sokuba, abangenzi-zicelo-zicelo babe nomsindo abaya kuba nomsindo ukuba bayinyule, kodwa hayi yabo - le mizekelo yenani elingenasiphelo. Kwaye ucinga ukuba kuba umntwana wakho uya kuba ngumntu olungileyo? Akunjalongo noko. Ke kutheni ibeka imodeli yokuziphatha ukusuka kwinkohliso kwangoko, apho ubomi bakhe buya kwakhiwa khona ngenjongo yokungakhubekisi abanye. Myeke acinge indlela afuna ngayo ukuphila ngayo, ezinjani zona iimvakalelo anazo ngalo lonke ixesha kwaye ziyahambelana nenyaniso yokuba eneneni angathanda ukuziva. Ukuzinyamekela akuyonto, kodwa imeko eyimfuneko yobomi.
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