Kukho amaxesha xa ndingawuthandi umsebenzi wam. Inye into kukucebisa abafaki-zicelo xa babeyazi ngokucacileyo into abayifunayo. Kwaye oku kuyonwaba: kunomdla ukufumana inkqubo engeyiyo; Ukufikelela ekufumaneni ukuqeshwa kwiyunivesithi yolondolozo, apho iposi ihlolwa iveki yonke; Ukukhupha iphepha eliyimfuneko kwiyunivesithi yendalo ("Owu! Ulibale kwakhona, i-goarda ibuza ..."). Thelekisa iinkqubo zoqeqesho apha naphaya, qonda ukuba zeziphi amagama afanelekileyo kumagama abothekileyo. Ngokubanzi, ndinomsebenzi onomdla kakhulu. Enye yokuphuma.
Xa ndifika kum ndinendoda eneminyaka eli-17 ubudala, ihleli kubazali bayo kwaye ndithethe ngaye kumntu wesithathu. (Yena), khawufane ucinge, akaqondi ukuba uza kwenza phi. Yintoni enomdla kuyo? . Yintoni ethanda ukuyenza? Akucacanga. Yeyiphi indawo ongathanda ukuyizama? Andazi.
Ngokwesiqhelo, umfaki-sicelo wexesha elizayo uphendula ngokuthe cwaka kwinto abaxoxwa ngayo, ngokungathi ngamawakawaka eekhilomitha, kwaye angahlala apha nathi. Iinzame zam zokubhenela kuye kubazali kwaye ndothuka, ngamanye amaxesha ndothukile kunye ne-hysteria. Apha okungenani ikhale, de kube sewokugqibela.
Abazali bahlala bengazange baqaqambe kwaye bangene kwelinye icala: Yintoni ekhethekileyo? Zeziphi iiyunivesithi zikhetha ikakhulu? Andonwabanga xa sive malunga ne-orrevatory, i-gastronomy, iyunivesithi yeCsMetology, eyunivesithi ye-ecology. Ngoku, ukuba kukho iyunivesithi yelo xesha, enomdla kwaye ilungele nabani na. Naluphi na uhlobo lweenwele, njengoko zibhala kwezinye iishampu.
Ndihlala ndilahlekile. Kuyoyikisa kum ukuba umntu unengqondo, zeziphi iingcinga ezisemva kwe-bangs eqaqambileyo okanye ukunyibilika okuqaqambileyo. Into aphlisayo malunga nokulala. Ababefuna ukuba sebuntwaneni. Into ethandwa kakhulu kakhulu ekufuneka yenziwe kwiminyaka emi-5. Kwaye ndiyayiqonda le meko le meko le mibuzo ingalunganga. Baxhoma ukunqumama kakhulu.
"Akafuni kwenza nantoni na ekhethekileyo." "Akazi into ayithandayo." "Sinezinto ezinjalo ... Ukungahambelani, sukuma ngendawo yendawo." Kwaye phakathi kwazo zonke ezi zinto zikhwaza imiphefumlo yentombazana: "Ndingathanda ukufunda njani ???
I-Intelligia yaseRussia ngokwesiko iyathandabuza ukubuza imibuzo "Ngubani omele atyholwe?" Kwaye "wenzeni?". Ngombuzo wokuqala okanye kancinci. Akukho ndoda iphilile impilo eya kuthi iphumelele nantoni na kwiminyaka emi-2 ukuya kwengama-4. Ochitha ixesha elininzi, ejonge kwifowuni. Andizukubuza iminyaka emi-5-6 kwiwaka lemibuzo ngemini. Unxibelelwano kunye nehlabathi langaphandle luyenza ibe yiminyaka eli-17 ubudala ngaphandle kobuchule obukhethekileyo kunye nezinto onomdla kuzo. Isikolo esizithandayo kwaye ... usapho. Sizibulala ngokwethu somntwana wakho yonke imihla.
Umbuzo "Ufanele Wenze Yintoni?" Ibaluleke ngakumbi kwabo bangacwangcisanga ukuzama imikhosi kwezi zinto zilandelayo zemfundo. Kwaye wenze into eyimfuneko, kuba siphulukana nepesenti yenyathelo lokuqala, elisebenzayo, elinezakudala. Kwaye ukuba asinakwenza nto rhoqo nesikolo, ngoko kusapho lwakho ukuba banxibe isahluko kwikona yomdla omnye komnye kumandla ethu. Hayi emntwaneni, ngokufuthi eyona nto, oko kukuthi. Zibuze kwaye uyathanda: "Ungathanda ntoni? Yintoni oyithandayo, unomdla wakho? " Ngokunyaniseka hlakulela umdla kwihlabathi kunye nabantu ekuyo. Umntwana angathanda nantoni na? Mhlawumbi ujongeka kwi-soudiyory kunye namaphupha ozuko uJamie Oliver. Ngaba ukhona ungquzulwano phakathi kokulindelwe kwabazali, amabhongo kunye namatye kunye nemizamo yeentloni zokucela ingqalelo yabo kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo? Ihleliwe, ixelele i-joke. Ukugxothwa. Vet? Ewe, kulungile, kuyahlekisa. I-cosmetology? I-acne ityhutywe? Onjani ukuba lihlathi, sicinga malunga ne-Accounting kunye noPhicotho-zincwadi, ukusukela ngoMvulo uMfundi kwiMathematics. Mhlawumbi kukho iimeko ezinzima, kodwa ngenkani qhubeka ndingakholelwa kuzo. Ihlala ikhona into apho: Nokuba ayikho kumphezulu, mayiphawuleke kakhulu njengomoya kwimeko yentlalo yomntwana inegalelo.
Akuzange kube kudala, ndifunde inqaku malunga neyona nto ibalulekileyo sinokuyenzela abantwana bethu kukubanceda ukuba bazifumane. Uqonde amandla abo kunye nobuthathaka babo, utyekelo kunye nobuchule (hayi kwinto enye!). Akukho Mqeqeshi, akakho umcebisi ngesikhokelo somsebenzi ababaziyo aba bantu bhetele kunabazali babo. Akukho mntu uya kucebisa ngokuchanekileyo, ngokusekelwe kwimidla kunye neempawu zomntwana. Yindawo nje yokufudukela kwiziko lale minqweno kunye neempawu ...
Kwaye emva koko ukhetho oluhlukileyo lunokwenzeka. Iingcamango ezamkelwe ngokubanzi malunga "nekamva elifanelekileyo" kunye "nendlela elungileyo" ingahlala kwindawo ethile kwicala lendlela ekhethiweyo. Kwaye abazali balinde ukuqhekeza. Ngamnye wethu ukulungele njani ukuthatha ixesha elinje? Umbuzo ongathandekiyo othatha abazali kwindawo yokuthuthuzela, kodwa kuyo ndibona uhlobo oluthile lwembono, ukubakho kokuvela kweyona ndawo ivaliweyo ebizwa ngokuba "bangenamdla."
I-Ekaterina Mikhalevich, uMemer -ur, iNtloko yemfundo yamazwe jikelele ye-Mfundi