Owona msebenzi ophambili kubantu abaninzi - "Yenza usapho kwaye uya kuba nolonwabo" - uhlala eqhekeza iLizwe leYONO, engakwazi ukuxoxa ngezinto ezibalulekileyo, ezinomdla, phambi komnwe.
Usapho ayisisebenzi nzima, apho uhlala khona tshintshela kwizisa kwimizamo. Eli ligalelo elilinganayo lababini, bubudlelane (kungekuphela ixesha lokubhaka - i-capile, apho indoda ithathe ingqalelo kumfazi, kwaye isimo sengqondo sobudlelwane).
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Ngexesha lezindlu, yayilungile, epholileyo, izola.
Ukuze bavuye bobabini.
Ukucwangciswa ukuba kwenzeke kwiimeko apho "iinkunzi zeegusha ezimbini encotsheni yentaba".
Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba lonke ubudlelwane obugqithisileyo ludlula kumanqanaba anzima kunye nobunzima. Owona mahluko kuphela yindlela esi sibini sisabela ngayo kubunzima - umntu othile ubaleka iingxaki zokuqala, umntu ufuna iindlela zesisombululo esinobuhlobo esisingqongileyo, kodwa ongenakulawula ngayo ukuba isiqalo sekuqale ntoni.
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Elona xesha linzima kubudlelwane bosapho ngunyaka wokuqala, owesithathu, wesixhenxe nelishumi elinesihlanu . Kula maxesha anobunzima, kwaye umnqweno wokucombulula ngokukhawuleza wonke uqhawulo mtshato lukhulu.
Kunyaka wokuqala wobomi bosapho Isibini sihlala sixabana, njengoko inqanaba lokuphehlelelwa lenzeka.
Iingxaki zivela ngenxa:
- Ubomi. Kuyavela ukuba akazithandi ipipi, ejikeleze indlu, ithambeka layo, iisokisi ezimdaka phantsi kwebhedi. Umyeni ususa isiqalo, ukhetha amazinyo akhe ngemfoloko kwaye udle izandla kwipani yokucoca. Kwaye, eyona nto imbi kakhulu, ithatha ifolokhwe kule pan yokucoca.
Ukusuka ngaphandle kuyabonakala ukuba zonke ezi zinto zinjalo ezinjalo, kodwa abantu abaqhele ukuhlala ngendlela ethile (ukulahla i-phantom kwangoko, kudlule i-pintor ngokukhawuleza, kudlule kakhulu.
Ukuba le yingxaki yakho, hlula umsebenzi wasekhaya, cwangcisa iintsuku zokungena (xa zombini zinemfumba kwimida yembono yakho, kwaye ke nani nisebenza kunye),
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-Ulindelo olwenziweyo . Xa le ntokazi yayilinde inkosana, kwaye i-impayeli ibambe, kwaye yagqiba 'ukuba kutheni, ke baya kuva ubunzima ngenxa yenkosana. Kuba eyona nto inzima kukuphuma kwizenzo zakho zenu kwaye nizenzele uxolo kwaye ujonge imeko, ebomini bakho, kwiqabane lakho.
Ukuba le ngxaki ikuchukumisile, jonga indoda yakho ngokugqibeleleyo uze uzibuze imibuzo embalwa. "Ukuba ndiza kudibana nesigidi somgca wesonka, ndiza kuphazamisa umyeni wam?", Ziziphi izinto ezazinazo iqabane lakho? "," Yintoni endingenakuyinyamezela? ";
-Ngayomvakalelo . Xa "I-Skiki Tifali" kwaye "Zonke iintombi sele zitshatile, kwaye ndim?" Emtshatweni, izinto ezimbi ziqala ukubakho. Ngenxa yokuba ipipi kunye nenyani yokuba umyeni akasosigidi, ungaba ngcono, fumana indawo yokuphuma kwaye wamkele kuphela imeko xa uthanda umntu.
Kwaye xa uCalier wavela, owayetshatile kwaye engazange aphumile, emva koko kwathi akafezekanga .... Yonke into, ubomi buya kuba sisihogo.
Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba awuyithandi iqabane kwaye, ngaphezu koko, awunazo iimvakalelo ezifudumeleyo, imbeko, uvelwano, ukuba uziva kakubi, emva koko kugqitywe oko, kuya kugqitywa obu budlelwane bufutshane, emva koko kugqitywe oku kufuphi, emva koko kugqitywe oko, kuya kugqitywa obu budlelwane bufutshane, emva koko kugqitywe oku kufuphi.
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Inqanaba elilandelayo lentlekele sisikhumbuzo sesithathu sosapho. Rhoqo ubudlelwane ngeli xesha buzinzile, ukuzola, iipipi Akukho mntu uphosayo. Ubudlelwane buphuhliswa kwaye, kwangelo xesha linye Izizathu ezitsha zeengxabano:
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- Ngokwesiqhelo ngeli xesha, isibini siza nezandla kunye nomntwana. Umfazi unika onke amandla omntwana, ukuba adinwe, alwele umzuzu omkhulu kwaye uzama ukuhlala nendoda yakhe intanda kwaye inqwenelwa ngumfazi wakhe.
Akusoloko kusebenza, ngakumbi ukuba umyeni unemfuneko egqithileyo kunye nentambo zero kwimisebenzi.
Isisombululo esingaphezulu: Indoda iqukwe kubomi bomntwana, ukusinyamekela, kwaye umfazi akadlali iqhawe eliza kuhlangabezana;
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-Iingxaki zobomi besini . Iba iyadingoza, i-Preseno, hayi ngaphambili. Ukukhutshwa kwayo yonke imibutho yokuqala kuya kunyamalala, iimfuno ezisisiseko, njengokulala.
Umzekelo, ukuba ibisoloko ingahoywa ngephupha nokuphumla kwakhe ngenxa yobusuku obushushu, ngoku sele kulala, kubonakala ngathi ayilosinga kakubi.
Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba ingxaki ilele kuyo, musa ukoyika ukonakalisa ubomi bakho bokwahluka kwaye unikele, thetha, wabelane ngezinto oziphethe ngayo;
-Ingxabano yezemali . Kuyimfuneko ukuchitha imali kwiimfuno zosapho, ukuzikhanyela kwinto ethile, ukuhlawula imali mboleko, echaphazela kakhulu ukuzinza kwengqondo komntu.
Ukuba ingxaki yentsapho yakho kukuthi, uya kuthi ke kufuneka ukhuphe ulwazi lokufunda nokubhala nezemali (i-piggy banks, iidipozithi, uluhlu, kwaye ungayithengi ngequbuliso "bendifuna").
Ukucinga ngokutshata, izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka kunye neenqobo zokuziphatha, i-Inner yobuntu - yonke le yinxalenye yeengxaki zosapho ezilandelayo ezenzekayo Unyaka ohlala kunye.
Uninzi, esinye isibini sijongene nengxaki enkulu-ayisiyongqondo into ekufuneka yenziwe ngokulandelayo. Umntwana uye esikolweni, owesibini andifuni okanye hayi ithuba, umsebenzi uzinzile, yonke imisebenzi iyazinza, zonke iimbambano zikhubeka, kwaye yonke into ikhutyekiswa, nayo yonke into ilandelwe.
Rhoqo, le ngxaki ibhekisa kwigama elilula elithi "yintoni elahlekileyo?".
Kwaye hayi iimvakalelo zaneleyo kunye nokuqonda ukuba wenze ntoni emva koko.
Akukho njongo kunye nenkuthazo.
Akukho ngqwalaselo yaneleyo kwiqabane kwaye ufuna ukuba nomdla kwaye unqweneleke kuye, kodwa nokungena 'kungene' kwiimvakalelo ezingekhoyo kwabanye.
Rhoqo kukho i-nostalgia yobomi bekhomputha kunye nemvakalelo yokuba yonke into icocekile kwaye imnandi apho, kwaye ngoku umntu obhinqileyo.
Kuyimfuneko ukusombulula le ngxaki ngokupheleleyo nangokuthe ngcembe kuwe, ukuze uzinikele kuwe kunye nobudlelwane, cwangcisa iqabane lesibini kwaye unike ingqalelo ngakumbi kwiqabane lakho, kuba le, hayi ngokwaneleyo kweli nqanaba lobudlelwane.
Unyaka weshumi elinesine wolwalamano losapho Ungatshata njengo "Ubuhlobo nenkosikazi yakhe / umyeni wakhe".
Abantwana bakhule, kodwa basafuna abazali ababeqalisiwe ukuba baphazamisekile kwiimbono zabo zokukhuliswa (abantwana - abakwishumi elivisayo, kunye nomntwana ngamnye bajonga ulwalamano nomntwana ngeli xesha linzima), uqeqesho olungaphezulu.
Ubomi obusondeleyo buye bafudukela kwimvelaphi kwaye konke okuthiweyo - ngokukodwa kumtshato womtshato kunokuba umnqweno kunye nemfuno.
Amaqabane aziva oochwephesha abaninzi kunye nabahlobo abalungileyo kunabambalwa kwaye ke ngokwahlula phakathi komlinganiso ngenxa yokungalingani ekuqondeni ubudlelwane.
Ngeli xesha unokuthandana neqabane lakho kwakhona: Ukuvula iminyaka edlulileyo, khumbula eyona nto ixabisekileyo nebaluleke kakhulu eyenzekileyo, enkosi ngamagxa okanye enkosi. Dubula kunye kuhambo, qalisa emva komsebenzi okanye ekuseni, kwaye vumela abantwana bonenze isigqibo sokuba baphile phi nendlela yokuphila.
Ukuhlaliswa kweengxaki zosapho akukho lula kwaye kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba umntu omnye akanako ukwenza yonke into ukuze lona tu usapho kukho uthando, uxolo nemvisiswano. Ngaphambi kokuqhekeza ubudlelwane, bobabini kufuneka bazame ukwenza onke amandla okusindisa kwaye bangathandabuzi bubomi obuseleyo ngesigqibo esingxamisekileyo.
Ukophula-musa ukwakha. Mhlawumbi ayikhawulezi?