Luhlobo luni lobudlelwane olunokuthi lubizwe luyityhefu? Okokuqala, bakwenza ukuba ungonwabi, ityhefu phakathi. Akukho mvisiswano kubudlelwane obutywala, kodwa, ngokuchaseneyo, khokelela kwiingxaki zengqondo, uqhekezeke kakhulu, kunye nezifo zomzimba. Ukususa iimanyano zabasebenzi, ikhefu kangangeminyaka emininzi, kodwa ixesha elingakumbi linokuya kwityhefu kunye nokuqonda: ubudlelwane bakho ngendlela yenu.
Ngelishwa, ifudumele kwaye ithenda kube kanye, kunye nexesha, ubudlelwane bunokunika isikhafu. Zininzi izizathu zoku. Ezi zintsonkothileyo, uloyiko lwangaphakathi okanye zipholile iimvakalelo phakathi kwabantu ababini. Namhlanje, mna, Yulia Lansk, umqeqeshi-qeqeshi Nombolo 1 ehlabathini ukuze aqonde amabhaso amabhaso e-American American, ndiza kukunceda ubone iimpawu eziphambili zobudlelwane obuthile.
Ukuthuka
I-hisoid, amagama angachanekanga kwidilesi yakho, nokuba babizwa ngokuba zihlanjeni, ayiyonto eqhelekileyo, kodwa i-pathologies. Isibakala sokuba le ndoda iyakwazi ukuthuka kubudlelwane kunokuchazwa kwangaphambi kokuba baqale. Jonga ukuba umntu owukhethileyo owukhethekileyo unxibelelana njani nabantu abangqongileyo njengasehlabathini. Ukuba umntu akathobeki yonke into ejikeleze, ekuhambeni kwexesha uya kuzifumana kwindawo nawe. Uthuli kwifestile yefestile, iintyatyambo ezingezizo ezopolitiko, indebe yokumka, kwaye kungenjalo, yonke le nto ingaba sisizathu sokothuka ngedilesi.
Incwadana yemigaqo
Ngelishwa, kubudlelwane obunetyhefu, inkalo yemikhwa yomlomo inokusoyiswa ngokukhawuleza. Emva koko, ubundlobongela obuphathekayo buza kuthatha amabinzana eshabi. Ukuba indoda iyavumela ukuba ityhalele umfazi, yiphose kuyo okanye "kancinci" ukukhaba, ukusuka kulwalamano olunje kubalulekile ukuba luphume ngokukhawuleza. Nokuba, ekugqibeleni, iqabane liya kucela uxolelo, likhale kwaye liya kusandul 'ukubuyela, lazi - sele liwele ubuso bobuntu, kwaye akukho nto iya kumthintela ukuba aphumele.
Kwiimeko zongquzulwano, akukuko kuqala ukuphakamisa isandla sakho emntwini. Ngaphandle koko, akanakuthintela kwaye akwazi ukuphendula. Kuzo zombini ezi meko, nokuba ngubani oqalisa ukungqubana, ebuyisela i-ivisini eluntwini kuya kuba nzima kakhulu. Ngayo nayiphi na ingxabano elandelayo, okomzuzwana kuya kukhunjulwa ngalo mzuzu wokulungiswa kwencwadi, eziya kuthi ekugqibeleni zitshabalalise ngokupheleleyo umanyano lwakho.
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Ukugxekwa kakhulu
Izityholo ezisisigxina, ukukhulisa ukungathobeli kunye nokugxekwa kakhulu kweqabane- ezintathu "iminenga" ezakhiweyo ubudlelwane betyhefu. Rhoqo, kuvela iingxaki ezinjalo ezivela kwizinto zabantwana.
... Ebuntwaneni, uAndreyi wasinda uqhawulo-mtshato lwabazali. Kwenzeka ukuba inkwenkwe ihleli kuyise-umama wabashiya besiya kolunye usapho. Namhlanje uAndrei-indoda eyenzekile, kodwa ayizange ixolelwe ngokungcatsha-ngale ndlela indlela ayiva ngayo imeko. Ngokuka-Andrei, bonke abantu basetyhini - i-thespalogicals kunye nabaqeqeshi ...
Ewe kunjalo, kufanelekile ukwahlula phakathi kokugxekwa okunempilo kubudlelwane (xa indoda ikuthethayo ngekhaya elingasebenziyo, izitya ezingapheliyo okanye ukunqongophala kwesidlo sangokuhlwa) kunye nokutshabalalisa izityholo zangaphakathi okhethwe. Izityholo ezingaqhelekanga zobuncwane nokugxeka ngalo naliphi na ixesha- sibonisa ukuphuculwa kwengozi yobudlelwane.
Ukususa ukugxekwa kakhulu kunye nokuhamba okungenangqondo kwezityholo ezivela kwiqabane kwidilesi yayo, kulula ukugqiba ubudlelwane bobuchwephesha kude kufikelele ngokupheleleyo. Ngaphandle koko, "uthando lwe-tango", ezazimele ukuba lube lulwalamano lwakho, ekugqibeleni ziya kujika zibe yintshatsheli yombhoxo, kunye nomdlalo we-Coarden onesifo sakhe kunye nobukrwada.
Commes
Ubudlelwane ekuloo nto ifakwe kuyo sele ithathelwe ingqalelo. Nokuba yeyiphi na imeko kwaye yintoni eya kubhalelwa yiyo, ukungonakalisi izalisa ngamaqabane "kwiikona" ezahlukeneyo. Kwaye nokuba indoda nomfazi basaphumle, abayi kuba nakho ukuba kunye ngokuvakala ngokupheleleyo kweLizwi.
Ukuvuthwa kwentanda yakho - njenge-chmochin, apho ixesha elingaphezulu kwexesha kuya kuphinda libe ngakumbi nangakumbi. Kwimeko enjalo, wonke umntu ugqiba kwelokuba uyakugqiba ubudlelwane okanye uzame ukubasindisa. Nangona kunjalo, khumbula - i-vase "ye-bid" ayinakuze ifana - ukungcatshwa kwentanda yakhe akuyi kulibala. Ubudlelwane bamadoda nabafazi emva kokuqalisa kwephepha elinamava kwaye, kunokuba njalo, abayi kuphinda bafudumele njengangaphambili. Khumbula: ukuxolela inkuthalo kwaye uzame ukuqala kube kanye. Ukuba ukungcatsha kuthatha ifom ye-pathoical, kufuneka kugqitywe.
Ukungakhathali
Ukungakhathalelwa komntu wakhe amthandayo kuyaqina ngakumbi kunesikhumba esibukhali. Oku kuziphatha kwenza ukuba kwenzeke ukuba baqonde-akanamvakalelo, akaziva nto kuwe. Ukungakhathali kungalandelwa kungekuphela kwingqondo yehlabathi, kodwa nakwiinffini. Akazazifezekisi izithembiso, akakuva, akasigcini isandla sakhe ebantwini, engakhubeki xa edibana ... ngenxa yoko, "isiqingatha sesibini" - asiyiboni nje.
Ukunyanzela ukungakhathali ngokupheleleyo kwentanda, thatha amandla kwaye uvume, akukho nto isele kuluhlobo, kwaye ukukhula igadi yokuqhuma kumhlaba ongenakuphumelela akunakulindeleka ukuba uphumelele. Uninzi lwenzeka kuya kufuneka lwenze umzamo omkhulu wokutshintsha ngokwakho kunye nesimo sengqondo seqabane ngokwakho. Ukuba uziva ngathi ubudlelwane bangena kwisiphelo esifileyo, musani ukoyika ukubashiya, kuba abanye bakulinde - ukuba bakulindele kwaye baphilile, abo uzifanelekele.
Ubudlelwane obunobungozi, ekumgangatho ophezulu - abo bangakukubanga ntlungu
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Izinto ezifumanekayo eziphazamisana nolwalamano oluhle
Rhoqo, ulwalamano olunobutywe luphuhliswa kwisiseko sezinto ezifumanekayo ezifunyenwe ebuntwaneni okanye zifunyenwe ngexesha lokulima kunye nokuqulunqa umntu.
- Uloyiko lokuphulukana neqabane . Imibutho yabasebenzi apho omnye wamaqabane esoyika ukuphulukana nomnye, uhlala ethandabuza ngesiseko sekhwele sezulu. Ixesha elingaphezulu, "ulawulo olungalawulekiyo" luqala ukuba lucaphukise, kwaye ekugqibeleni, alunakunyamezelwa. Kwiintlonelo ezinjalo, "ikhwele" lifanele liwenze uthuli lwakho ukuba usafuna ukugcina ulwalamano.
-Ayinangqondo . Xa elinye lamaqabane alizange liphumelele ekufumaneni ebomini, uhlala eqalisa ukuzichaza ngenkcitho yomntu othandekayo, enikezela kwaye ethoba isidima sakhe. Kule meko, ubugwenxa buvuleka ngokoqobo kwaye, kaninzi, buyawabalisa kakhulu. Xa wayejamelene nemeko efanayo, zama ukuqonda ukuba kutheni umntu esimthandayo engasebenzi, amncede abe yindlela elungileyo, exhasa imithamo yakhe. Ukuba ukwala kwakho i-ego yakho yi-ego yeqabane lakho, ubudlelwane bungcono ukugqiba.
-Ukwahluka . Ubomi ngeqabane "elinetyhefu" lihlala libangelwa kukwaneliseka. "Kulungile, ngubani ondifunayo?" "Ndiyadinisa, ndingathandabuzi, ndinetyala kakhulu ..." "Andinakuphela ngaphandle kwakhe ..." isimo sengqondo esifanayo nobomi "kuphela kwiqabane" elinetyhefu. Ngokusekwe kwimisonto yakho yangaphakathi, iya kuqhubeka ibakhulisa, ibukele indlela ohlala kufutshane, ngokuthe ngcembe waphela. Le yimodeli yobutshaba, 'isangqa esikhohlakeleyo ", apho kufuneka ukubalekela kuyo nayiphi na into.
Khumbula: Ubudlelwane obufanelekileyo-abo ungakukhathaziyo. Nokuba imeko yentlungu oyifumanayo - ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokwengqondo, isimilo okanye: ungubudlelwane obuthile, obalusebulqwanqwa, kungcono ukugqiba. Ukuba uchonge iimpawu "zokomoya" kwinqanaba lokuqala lokuphuhliswa kobudlelwane, zama ukukrazula ukuphuculwa kwemeko engathandekiyo.