Ukuvukela ubuchule yinto yakudala njengoko iZiko loMtshato ngokwalo, kodwa oku akrakra kakhulu kwabo baye bavumelana nokuziphatha okuthandwayo. Kukho amaqabane angazange aguqukele, kodwa angabi ngaphantsi kwemitshato ephindaphindiweyo, apho kwenzekayo ukuxoxa, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ikhokelela ekutshatyalalisweni kweentsapho. Yintoni eyenza amadoda nabafazi baguquke nakwiintsapho ezichumileyo?
Isondo esiphezulu kunye ne-phecaring yeyantlukwano
Uninzi lwabantu olunesondo oluphezulu alonelisekanga liqabane elinye. Bafuna ukufumana ukonwaba ngokwesondo kangangoko kunokwenzeka kwaye bayayiphikisa, bangene ekunxibelelaneni nawo onke amaqabane amatsha namaqabane amatsha. Abantu abanjalo banokuthanda ngokunyaniseka kwaye bawuthanda ngokunyaniseka inkosikazi yakhe okanye umyeni wakhe, ukuba bangahlangani nje ukuba batshabalalise usapho okanye baye komnye umntu, kodwa unxano lwabangcatshayo. Kwaye iyonyuka ngamanye amaxesha, ukuba iqabane lesibini okanye iqabane "libuthathaka" Imemoti yokwabelana ngesondo - azinalo uvavanyo olukhawulezileyo, azikuthandi ekuvavanyeni. Ke iqabane elinjalo liya ngasekhohlo.
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"Indima enye" yomfazi - isizathu sokuvukela umbuso
Isizathu esibalulekileyo sendoda - Ukuphulukana nomdla kumfazi. Kwaye inqaku alikho kumtsalane ngokwesondo, kodwa inyani yokuba umfazi ugxile kuyo nayiphi na indima ephelayo ukuba abe ngumyeni onomdla. Ukuba inkosikazi ishiya intloko yakhe kumsebenzi okanye kwisayensi, kwimidlalo yentlalo, okanye ijolise ngokupheleleyo kukhathalelo lwabantwana, ihamba kude nomyeni wakhe. Kwaye kungekudala le mgama iguqulwe yabahlukanisa kwaye ikhokelela kwingxamo.
Tshintsha xa "konke kulungile"
Sibona ukuba amadoda aphumelelayo ngamadoda amahle ngootata kunye nootata-tshintsha ii-halves zabo, hayi xa kukho izityholo eziqhubekayo kunye nokucacisa ubudlelwane, kwaye xa kusekhaya yintuthuzelo enokuthenjwa. Ke indoda, iqularhuze intsapho yayo, ithunyelwa ukuba yoyise "iindawo eziphakamileyo", zoyisa iintliziyo zomfazi omtsha.
Ukhathalelo lwendalo
Rhoqo, isizathu sokubheja ebantwini kukunyamalala 'kwendalo' ngokubonakala komfazi. Ukuba indoda itshatele umfazi opheleleyo, ukuqhubeka komnqweno wakhe oqhubekayo wokunciphisa umzimba, ukutshintsha, kwimeko yokuphunyezwa, kukhokelela kwinto yokuba umntu ayeke ukumbona umfazi, apho wathandana khona.
Ukuthozama
Ngokufanelekileyo ngokwaneleyo, kodwa ukuthozama akusoloko, kwangaphambi kokujonga umntu, "uhombise" umfazi. Kwaye xa indoda iqala ukukhula kwisicwangciso sobuchule, ifumana kakhulu, idala ishishini lakhe, ufuna ukubona umfazi oqaqambileyo ecaleni kwakhe, ofuna ukuphila kwaye akhangele kwaye ajongeke kakuhle. Kodwa ayingabo bonke abo basetyhini, ngelishwa, banokutshintsha ngokukhawuleza ngokungqinelana notshintsho kwinqanaba lokumohlwaya umyeni wakhe. Ukuthozama okugqithisileyo kwenkosikazi yakhe, kwabakho i-feeve, ijika ibe yinto ecaphukisayo iyinto kwaye ityhalela ngendlela yokufumana umfazi oqaqambileyo neliqine "ecaleni".
Ngayiphi na imeko, ukungcatshanisa kuhlala kushiya imiphumo engathandekiyo. Kwaye intshabalalo yobudlelwane obuqhelekileyo kusapho okanye usapho ngokwalo ayisiyonto imbi kakhulu, ekwazi ukuzisa inguqu. Yonke imihla emhlabeni kukho izenzo zomona ezivela kumona, zibandakanya ukubulala okukhohlakeleyo, amaxhoba awo onke amaqabane atshintshiwe okanye amaqabane, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha abantwana, kunye nabazali bapheleleyo.