I-Anna i-Penev ayizange yoyike ukungcungcutheka kwinqanaba, nangona ifumana uphononongo oluninzi olugwenxa malunga neentetho zakhe: ababukeli abaninzi badidekile ngokuntshabalalo. U-Ana ngokwakhe wabiza abangabamelwane ukuba babonakale nzulu kwaye bangagwebi izinto ezibonwa ngabantu kwinqanaba, ekugqibeleni, ngumfanekiso nje nje.
Imvumi yabelana ngamehlo abelana ngesondo xa iyonke. Umculi uxelele ukuba ebutsheni bakhe yayiyi-maxist kwaye yacebisa bonke abahlobo bakhe ukuba bangabi naluxolweni, kodwa ngoku intombazana iqinisekile ukuba yonke into ixhomekeke kwimeko ethile, kwaye "ukutshisa iibhulorho" akulunganga.
Sigqibe kwelokuba sifumane indlela yokunyanga ukuvukela umbuso, nokuba kufanelekile oko.
Mhlawumbi eyona nto inzima kukuxolela. Nokuba umfazi uthatha isigqibo senyathelo kwaye uya kuqhubeka ephila nendoda eyenze kube kanye, iya kuhlala iphazamisa amathandabuzo, kwaye nokuba iya kuphinda yenzeke. Buyisela ukuzithemba kunzima ngakumbi kunokuxolelwa.
Xa kufuneka unike umntu ithuba lesibini?
Ukuba usagqiba kwelokuba uxolele umntu, ukhona umngcipheko wokuthembela kwakhe: Uya kubonakala ngathi uyamxolela nantoni na. Ke ngoko, ngaphambi kokuba uqhubeke nolwalamano kunye nale ndoda, cinga ukuba zingakanani iziseko zakho.
Izizathu ezibalulekileyo zinokuthathwa njengobukho babantwana kunye nakuphi na ukuxhomekeka kwiqabane. Ukuba umntu obhinqileyo uwela phantsi kwenye yezi zinto, kwaye usazi isigqibo sokugcina usapho, kufanelekile ukuba uxoxe ngamaxesha athile, umzekelo, unokwenza ukuba enze into enye, emva koko ubenayo Ukuhlala phantsi kwaye uxoxe ngendlela yokwenza oko ukuze ngamnye kuni wayekhululekile ukuba aphile kunye emva kokuba kwenzeke oko kwenzeke, kwaye indlela iqabane lakho elibona ngayo ukuphuculwa kolunye ulwalamano.
Xa kufanelekile ukuba ithethe ngokuqinileyo "Hayi"
Kubalulekile ukuba uqonde ukuba iklasi elifutshane enamhla elifutshane alinakulindeleka ukuba litshintshe, ngoko alikufaneli ukondla i-inkcula i-akhawunti yakhe - kufuneka ukhulule bonke abafowunelwa.
Indoda ayiziva inetyala phambi kwakho. Ukuba iqabane lakho aliliboni ityala lakhe kwaye lityhola, qiniseka ukuba kuya kufuneka uze nobuxoki kolu lwalamano.