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Omnye wemisebenzi ka-Elmira Nurislam yintlanganiso namantombazana-abakwishumi elivisayo kwiinkedama, apho banokubuza imibuzo eyahlukeneyo kunye neyendibaniselwano.
-U-Elmira Nurislamna, yeyiphi eyona mibuzo isondeleyo ebuza amantombazana ukuba?
Imibuzo yahluke kakhulu, kodwa inye, ivakala rhoqo: "Uye waphulukana neliphi iminyaka yobuntombi bakho?". Kubonakala ngathi lo mbuzo uhlekisa, kwaye ngenxa yabo lo ngumxholo yeyona nto ibalulekileyo. Ndithi kuyo yonke intombazana: "Le nto uza kuba mdala, kokukhona uya kubufudumeza ebomini, ngenxa yoko ungangxami. Funda ukuzithemba "hayi". Izenzo zakho ziya kuba nentsingiselo, amathuba amakhulu owonwabileyo. Ngoku, xa uncinane kwaye awuzinzanga, wena njengentombazana encinci inokusebenzisa nje. Masivumelane nawe, hayi "ngakumbi", lixabiso lakho. Xa uba seshumi elinesibhozo, iminyaka engamashumi amabini, uya kuma ngeenyawo, uya kucinga ngakumbi ebomini, kuya kuba lula ukwenza ukhetho.
Iyothusa kakhulu ukuba la mantombazana akakhohlisi, kuba ngoku bayakhohlisa, kwaye nabo ungenza nantoni na. Emva koko baphulukana nentembelo ebantwini, babe ngamaxhoba, baqalise ukuziva belahliwe, bengafuneki, qala ukusela. Ngoku kuyimfuneko ukutyala imali kwiintloko zabo ukuze utyale umxholo wexabiso labo elikhethekileyo ukuze bangangxami kubo bonke abalandeli bafundwayo ukuba "hayi" kwaye bacinga ngobudlelwane obuguqulweyo bube lusapho oluguqulweyo lube lusapho.
-Ufundisa amantombazana ukuba athi "hayi", kwaye ulinde "umtshato ovuthuzayo", kwaye namhlanje kukho itheko elithi "Umtshato oliqitsha", kwaye uninzi lwengqondo lucebisa ngokutsha, ngaphandle kokutshata nokuqonda umntu wakho. Ucinga ukuba ilungile ntoni?
Ngelishwa, yinyani kwaye ayifani nethiyori yelizwe lethu. Kwilizwe lethu elithile, ngaphandle kwezizwe ezahlukeneyo nezithethe, zihlala zininzi zinomfanekiso phakathi kwendoda nebhinqa, yayiyinto yokuqala emtshatweni nangomtshato. "Ngaba yinkqantosi" njengoko usitsho umtshato, ufundisa umonde, kwaye umtshato wokulingwa akafundisi.
Sithetha namantombazana ukuba sele utshatile kwaye umyeni wakho kwaye ukuba ufumene umntu endigqibe kwelokuba ndibuvele ebomini, kufuneka nithobele imithetho ekhoyo kangangeenkulungwane. Kuyimfuneko ukuba yonke intombazana ikwinqanaba lokomoya elindele isiko lomtshato.
Ndiyakholelwa ukuba i-tite ye-rite ye-wasing yeemfuno kufuneka, kuba luxanduva, kunye nenqanaba le-rhulumente kwaye ukuba ufuna isigqibo ezulwini. Ukuba umtshato usabhalisiwe, ivumela umntu ukuba aphathe usapho, kubomi bomtshato, ngesazela. Kwaye xa umtshato wokuvavanywa, kuyathetha, "namhlanje siza kudlala kwibhokisi enye, kwaye ngomso sihamba kwaye siye kudlala enye isanti." Ayilunganga.
Njengengcali, ndiyaqonda ukuba abantu basenokungalungelanga i-biologing, kodwa ukuba kukho unxibelelwano oluphezulu luphakathi phakathi kwendoda nomfazi - le ngxaki inokusonjululwa. Kwaye ngoku kukho inqanaba eliphezulu kakhulu lamayeza kangangeengxaki zebhayoloji ukuba azinxulunyaniswa ne-pathology okanye inyikima.
Ukupheliswa komtshato kunokuba kwinqanaba lokungangqinelani ngokupheleleyo, kodwa zama ukugcwala kwamaxesha amaninzi kumfazi kuyayonakalisa, kuba ikhefu lakhe lengqondo. Xa iguqulela indoda enye, ukuya kwelinye, kweyesithathu, kongowesine, ilahlekelwe sisikhundla sentonga yasekunene. Umfazi ufanele anikelwe kwiqabane elinye, libekwe kwinkqubo yakhe yendalo.
-Ngaba iyavela ukuba luphawu nje oluvela ebantwini?
-Yiqinisekile. Olu luqhetseba ngamadoda nobuqhetseba ngeshishini, kuba umfazi obelana ngesondo unomdla kuye wonke umntu, iba ngumthengi wokuthintela i-homonial, kunye neenkonzo ezahlukeneyo zeefama. Intombazana ecocekileyo ayiyi kuqhutywa ngamaziko ahlukeneyo okuxilonga, into ekufuneka ichonge, ichaneke, ilungelelanise. Akukho nto inomdla, ke ishishini lilungiselelwe ukuba amantombazana asabelana ngesondo, kwaye kwangoko, ngcono. Nika ingqalelo, ngoku kumabonwakude ithengisa i-tampons zentombi. Ndiyakholelwa ukuba oku akusebenzi, akugutyungelwanga, ishishini leCysical. Kutheni le nto simele sibale? Ndinoluvo olucacileyo kungekuphela nje ngeengcali - i-gynecologists, kodwa ayinakwenziwa ngonqulo. Kwakhona, ibangela ukuba kubekho ngokwesini kubantwana.
-Iingcama ziyavela ukuba le nkqubo iphuhliswe ngokucacileyo?
-Kaly. Jonga ukuba yintoni, umzekelo, utsho uAsakhev, uthi kuyimfuneko ukuvalwa kwenkqubo imfundo yezesondo ezikolweni, kunye nokwazisa into eyayiphambi kobomi bentsapho. "
Kwaye ngoku ukuya kuthi ga kubuncinci ezikolweni ezikolweni Fundisa intombazana ukuba ikhuselwe njani ekukhulelweni okungafunekiyo. EYurophu naseMelika, kudala bala iinkqubo ezinjalo, kuba kuyangqina ukuba okukhona sithetha ngemfundo yezesondo, kokukhona okhokelela ekuthatheni isondo labantwana kunye nolutsha.
Ndikholelwe, esi sisihloko esibonisa imibuzo ngokukhawuleza nje ukuba umntu aqwalaselwe, ii-larlers ezahlukeneyo zivuke, kuyimfuneko ukuvuka ngaphambi kwexesha. Kwaye ndingathanda ukuba ndiyivile, umnxeba wawungelele ukukrakra, lo mntu uyayazi into ayithethayo.
Ukuba asiphili ngoku, sinemeko yedesika ngokuthe ngcembe, kodwa ngokuthe chu ukwehla, kwaye sikwimeko engathandekiyo. Ndiyayithanda i-atakhov, ngokuchasene nemfundo yezesondo ezikolweni. Uninzi lwamantombazana kwiminyaka eli-15 ukuya kweli-16 ubudala bathobekile kakhulu. Abacingi konke konke malunga nobomi bezesondo.
Ekuqaleni, ngexesha lencoko ngesi sihloko, babuthathaka, kodwa bacinga: "Kutheni le nto ndingekho kule mihla, ndisemva, mhlawumbi kukho into engalunganga kum?". Kwaye apha ungayiphuphuma yintombazana njengoko uthanda kwaye inyanzelise nantoni na.
-Ukhuka amantombazana asonjululwa njani kwimibuzo yobuqu konke konke?
Xa ndisebenza neqela, andizami ukuba ndichaphazele izihloko zakho, ndinika amantombazana abafowunelwa bam kwaye ke sinokuxubusha ngaphandle kwamaNgqina, ndingabi nazintloni. Ihlala icela uncedo. Ndinika izindululo ezisebenzayo, ukuqala nge-filology. Kwaye kwiiklasi ngokubanzi, ndixela loluphi uhlobo lomhlaza webele, luhlobo luni lokuthintela. Umzekelo, amantombazana ngeli xesha andazi ukuba isifuba kufuneka sikhuselwe ekumonakaleni, akunakwenzeka ukuba sibe sengozini yelanga. Bafumana ulwazi ngokuqinisekileyo lunikwe umama wemveli. Kule meko, imodeli eyaziwayo ye-Oksana Fedorov iluncedo kakhulu, kumzekelo wakhe webhinqa eliphumeleleyo kunye nomama owonwabileyo, iba lilungele ukuba ulutsha oluninzi. Amantombazana enkosi kwiziganeko ezinjalo xa eselukhuni eqonda ukuba ubuhle kunye nempilo yeyona nto ixabisekileyo ukuba kukho umfazi.
-Ucebisa ukuba isiphelo kukuba ezintlanganisweni uphakamisa ukuzithemba kwamantombazana kwiinkedama? Ngaba uphakamileyo?
-Ngayo into ephantsi, ayijongwa. Ngokwasemzimbeni nakukwazi, boyika ukubuza izinto ezininzi. Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka iphinde iphindaphinda izihlandlo ezininzi, andifuni kuthi, kodwa badinga ukhathalelo olungaphezulu, kodwa bacinga ngakumbi, nabo kufuneka bathethe nzulu ityala, kwaye ngokucwangcisiweyo.
- La mantombazana aphosa oomama ebuntwaneni, ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukeneyo zokuwashiya esibhedlele. Kwaye inamantombazana, amathuba okukhula, kwaye angaphindi isiphelo sikanyoko?
- Uyazi, ngelishwa, amanani athi abafazi ababhinqileyo abadlulisele indlu yabantwana abasoloko beziqonda ngokupheleleyo ubomi. Le ayisiyimfihlo kwaye ndiya kuba yi-hange, ukuba nditsho ukuba bonke bakwixesha elinempumelelo lamakhosikazi. Kodwa ngoku umsebenzi wethu, kwezi ntlanganiso, nyusela kule mpumelelo, ubanike ukufakelwa okufanelekileyo. Impumelelo ayisiyonto ingumzekelo onesithsaba entloko kwaye uyancoma onke amadoda. Ukonwaba kwabasetyhini kwesinye xa unosapho oluqhelekileyo, oluzinzileyo, umyeni olungileyo, umntwana osenokwenzeka.
Kuyimfuneko ukuthi ukonwaba komfazi ngumcimbi omncinci kwaye ubuthathaka kakhulu. Kuyimfuneko ukutsho ukuba ngenxa yamaphupha akhe kuya kufuneka asebenze nzima, omileyo wendlela yokuziphatha. Yenza umfanekiso wentsapho owonwabileyo, kwabonakala amazwi elula, kwaye umsebenzi omninzi osemva kwayo.