Kwilizwe lanamhlanje, ibhinqa alikho lula. Ukuba ngaphambilana kunokwenzeka ukugcina uqoqosho kwaye lukhulise abantwana, ngoku kuya kufuneka uziqiniseke ngokukhuselekileyo, ukuba uqhubeke njengengcali. Ukuba abazali bangaphambili basicombuluka umntu oza kutshata, ngoku okukhethiweyo kufuneka kwenziwe! Ke ngoko, ngaphandle kokwanela, umfazi wale mihla akanakwenza. Kutheni le nto ukwanelisa? Iphosakele ngokunxulumene nokuxhomekeka, kwezemali okanye ngokwengqondo, umfazi uya kuba sengozini, iba lixhoba leemeko kwaye liqhobile. Akajongelwa phantsi. Emsebenzini, umfazi oxhomekekileyo esebenza njengehashe kwisebe liphela. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuthandana neemeko, ngamanye amaxesha ukulungisa ukunyaniseka nokukhuthala. Kodwa enyanisweni le nto iqhekezwe. Kwaye kufuneka itshintshwe! Abafazi abaninzi bazibuza: Ungaziva njani la mandla ukuze ukwazi ukuzimela kwaye wenze izigqibo kwimvakalelo, kodwa ujonge kwikamva? Ukwaneliseka sisiseko seentsika ezi-4.
Akumangalisi ukuba intanda-bulumko yatsho ukuba igqiba ingqiqweni. Intsika yokuqala yesiseko sokwanela ngokwakho yimali. Kunzima ukuqiqa ngenkululeko, ukuba nangona kutya kunye nezinto ezinesidima, uDejolozhek ungenasiphelo. Onke amabhinqa asisiseko kufuneka azikhusele. Njani? Inokufunyanwa ngumsebenzi oceliweyo yimarike, ukudalwa kwezixhobo zengeniso edlulayo (ukuthengwa kwepropathi yokuqeshisa, njl njl), utyalomali, njl njl.
Ungaze uphose ithuba. Ndifuna ukuqaphela, oko akuthethi ingcinga yokuba indoda kufuneka inike usapho. Kukho ibhalansi kuyo yonke into. Funda ngombulelo kunye noyolo ukuthatha imali njengesipho kwaye unakekele kumgangatho oqinileyo! Le nkxaso mayibe yinto emnandi kuwe, kodwa ayisiyiyo kuphela ithuba! Intsika yesibini yokwanela ngokwakho kukuzithemba. Ngokwayo. Uvavanyo. Into ocinga ukuba uyiyo kwaye uyazi ngawe kunye neempawu zakho. Abafazi abaninzi, kwakamsinya nje ukuba eli binzana live eli binzana, liqalise ngokukhawuleza ukuba banokwenza okuncinci, bagxeke, ukhalaza. Nantsi indawo yokumisa! Le yimeko ye-100% yexhoba. Intombazana engenakuncediswa kwasebuntwaneni, ehlekisayo. Rhoqo ngenxa yokuba ubafundise iintsuku zaya, kwaye oomama yindoda yabo. Kodwa amaxesha ayatshintsha. Kwaye kufuneka uzisindise.
Ufuna ukuzihlaziya - funda ukuqaphela iimpawu zakho ezintle, zinike ixabiso ngakumbi kuneziphoso. Zibhenele njengoko ungathanda ukuncoma abazali bakho. Sukubawa! Yibanike, kodwa ungazithobekisi. Qiniseka ukuba uza kuzibandakanya ngomsebenzi owenziweyo kwaye unjalo. Oku kuya kukunceda unganyibiliki emtshatweni okanye emsebenzini, ungaphulukani ukwazisa njengomntu ohlukileyo. Yintoni enye enokunceda ekuphuculeni ukuzivandlakanya?
Intsika yesithathu iphuhliswa ngokusisigxina. Nokuba emva kwemfumba yemisebenzi yasekhaya, lixesha lokuba ufunde, ubuchule, ezemidlalo, ukunxibelelana nabantu. Khawube nomfanekiso-ngqondweni wakho ngowakholelwa ntoni? Ngubani ojongane neyokutshisa. Egcinwe kakuhle kwaye iphunyezwe. Izikhungo zakho ngaphakathi nangaphandle kuphela kwesiqinisekiso sokugcina umdla kuwe ukusuka kubantu besini esahlukileyo, ngakumbi ukuba sele uphumile "ubudala. Ibhinqa elibandakanyekayo kwinto engaphandle kwendlu kunye nomsebenzi liya kuhlala linomdla kwindoda yakhe kunye namanye amadoda. Qiniseka ukuba uqhubeke nokukhulisa izinto ozithandayo eziphindwe kathathu owenzayo ngexesha lakho elikhululekileyo, kodwa luphembe ubuchule bakho ngokungathi wenza umsebenzi. Akukho plate emdaka kufuneka ikuthintele ekukhokeleni ubomi obunomdla! Kodwa inokuba sisigqubuthelo ngokulula ukunqanda ukungakhathali. Kunzima ukubamba? Tyala imali kwisitya sokuhlambela kwaye ufumane ixesha!
Kwaye intsika yokugqibela yokuzihlaziya ngokwakho kukuzithemba kunye nokukwazi ukwakha imida yakho. Le yeyona nto ibalulekileyo kwibhinqa elizimeleyo nelinamandla ekufuneka lifundile nangaliphi na icala. Ukuba unika isilayidi ukuba uvumela umntu ukuba aphule imida yakho, emva koko iya kwenzeke ngakumbi. Kunzima ukuzikholelwa xa uluvo lomnye umntu luba lubaluleke ngakumbi kunawe.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuthobela umyeni wakho okanye umphathi wakho. Kwaye akukho ndawo ayibhalwanga ukuba umbono wabo ubaluleke ngakumbi kuneyakho. Khumbula oku. Nabani na ekufuneka uyazi: Kukho umkhwa onokuthi ungashukumi, kwaye lo mkhwa kufuneka ukhuseleke njengoko uMgangatho weNqanaba lukhusela imida yelizwe lakhe. Cwaka, kodwa ngeziphumo zesandla.
Ngokukhuseleka kwemida yakho, amandla okusabela ekungaziphathi kakuhle kunye nengqumbo evela kwindoda. Akunakwenzeka ukubonisa ukuba nayiphi na impazamo iya kuxolelwa ukuba ukulungele ukuvala amehlo akho nakweyiphi na into yokubamba. Imigaqo kufuneka yakhiwe njengoko unokunxibelelana nawe, kwaye yintoni engenakuze ibekho. Kubalulekile ukuba uxelele ngemithetho yakho kwaye ufumanise ukuba yeyiphi imigaqo. Uburharha, uburharha okanye ukuphathwa gadalala ngokwasemzimbeni kuya kumbamba kakhulu kwaye kuya kufuneka akulibale ubudlelwane nawe. Kodwa uthando, ingqalelo, inkxaso kunye nenkathalo uya kubulela uncumo, iimvakalelo ezintle kunye nononophelo.
Umfazi ozimeleyo ozikhathalelayo uhlala emkelekile kwaye enomdla. Kuncinci ohlanganisana kweyona nto imbi, amandla amakhulu kunye namathuba kuwe. Phila ubudlelwane obulungileyo kunye nawe.