Ufuna ukuthanda njani kwaye uthandwe! Ngamanye amaxesha kangangokuba sikulungele ukuqhekeza ngokoqobo isiqingatha sethu sesibini. Thatha lonke ixesha lakho lesimahla, yenza konke ukuze ufumane ingqalelo ngakumbi. Ukongeza, abantu badla ngokuqiniseka ukuba ukuba bayamthanda ngokungagungqiyo ukuba bakulungele ukuncama yonke iminqweno yabo kunye nezinto abanomdla kuzo, banelungelo lokufumana ukuphindaphindwa.
Kuyavela ukuba uthando luba luhlobo luxanduva. Yiyo loo nto ikhwele, eliqala ukuhlala njengengqolowa. Umona kubo bonke: Ukuziqhelanisa nezinye, iintanda, izilwanyana ... Kuyinto enganyamezeliyo ukugcina indlela umdla ngayo umdla nomntu othetha ngayo. Kukho umnqweno wokufumana ububele bakho ngokupheleleyo kwaye ngokupheleleyo: Yazi into ayenzayo, into acinga ukuba ihamba phi. Iimfuno ziya besinda ngakumbi nangakumbi, kwaye ukhathalelo linelungelo. Ngenxa yoko, zombini ezi meko kolu thando. Zombini zihlupheka: enye-evela kwingqwalaselo engeyomfuneko, i-ARC-kwiimvakalelo ezingafanelekanga.
Ngendlela, abo bathanda kakhulu bahlala bebongoza kwi-psychologist. Yintoni omele uyenze kule meko? Ungayifumana njani ibhalansi, yokufumana i-ivisin, yeka ukuba nenkathalo kwaye ifune? Ukuba uyazi "uthando" lwakho-sele luphela. Cinga ukuba inyathelo lokuqala lokuphiliswa kwintsalela yothando lwenziwe. Oku kulandelayo kuya kuzama ukuzifumana kwaye ufunde ukuphila ngesivumelwano kunye nawe, mamela iminqweno yakho. Iya kuba luncedo ukuzama ukuqulunqa iinjongo zakho zobomi. Yeyakho - ezo ngabo bangahambelani neqabane. Inokuba ngumsebenzi, ukukhula komntu, okuzonwabisa. Uvuyo oluncinci lwemihla ngemihla aluyi kuba luluncedo olungagungqiyo, kodwa luluncedo kakhulu (umzekelo, luzigangqile kwikomityi eyongezelelweyo ikofu, ukuhamba, kwilineni entsha). Eyona nto iphambili kukuzama ukulandela le ndlela. Xa iqala ukufumana, uya kuziva unesifo sokukhululeka ngokweemvakalelo, ukuvisisana kakhulu, kwaye iimfuno zesiqingatha sakho sesibini ziya kuba sithambeka kwaye sibe buthathaka. Zombini ziya kukhululeka ngakumbi. Kukho enye ingcinga yale akhawunti, enokuba sisibonelelo: Nika iqabane lakho ithuba lokuba nguwe. Ngenxa yoku, ubudlelwane buza kuncipha. Wonke umntu uya kuba namathuba amaninzi okuzikhusela. Uya kuba lula kwaye unomdla ngakumbi ukunxibelelana.