Intombazana kunye nebhinqa nganye ifuna ukuthandwa. Ulonwabo olukhulu-ukuba nomyeni onothando okanye isoka. Kodwa akukho nto ingakho ngonaphakade kweli lizwe, kwaye kungekudala, nokuba esona sikhephe sinamandla sobudlelwane obudibeneyo sinokunika isiqu. Njengomthetho, uqhawulo-mtshato kunye nokuhlulela kwindawo engenanto akwenzeki. Ubudlelwane buba mandundu kancinci kwaye ngamanye amaxesha bufikelela kwinqanaba elinzima kuphela, emva koko kufikelela esiphelweni.
Akululanga ukuqonda ukuba umyeni uthe cwaka. Abafazi abaninzi benza ukuphela kothando ngokucaphuka okwethutyana, ukukhathala, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo: Ayiyi kuba nakho ukukholwa. Kwaye iphosakele.
Esona sibonakaliso sibonakalayo senyani yokuba umyeni okanye indoda ayisathandi, kukungabikho komdla kumntu wakho.
Kunzima ukukholelwa kuyo, kodwa awusenomdla kumntu oneminyaka edlulileyo kuphela kwaye ucinge. Akukho nzala ibonakaliswa kwinto yokuba phantse ungabi namntu. Uya kukhetha ukuchitha ixesha nabahlobo kwibar, dlala imidlalo yekhompyuter, ubukele umabonwakude, ukuba ungayisebenzisi nawe. Unesithukuthezi kunye nawe. Kwaye hayi ngenxa yokuba ungumntu onjalo endingenanto yokuthetha, kodwa umile nje ukuba uzibuze indlela abantu besini esahlukileyo.
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Uqala ukumcaphukisa indoda, kwaye utsala intembeko yakho kubuthathaka bakho, iimpazamo, iimpazamo, iingxaki ezigwenxa. Xa umntu othanda ngokunyanisekileyo, akabuboni ubuthathaka bomfazi wakhe, okanye uvale amehlo akhe kubo. Kodwa xa uthando ludlula, nkqu namaxesha amancinci aqala ukudumba kwihlabathi jikelele. Nantsi indoda sele icinga ukuba wena kwaye ukhulile, kwaye sinxibe kakubi, kwaye sipheke kakubi, kwaye sithethe nawe malunga nento. Kodwa emva kwayo yonke loo nto, awuzange uguqukele kwiminyaka embalwa, uthando lwayo nje ngawe lugqithile, kwaye kuya kufuneka ukuba le nto.
Obunye ubungqina bokuba umyeni wathandana-imbonakalo ye-playtys, umnqweno wokufihla ubomi bakhe. Kwaye umba awufumanekanga kobutyebi. Nokuba umyeni akakutshintshi, kodwa uthobekile, uza kuzama ukwakha umqobo phakathi kwakho, kutheni ukuze umntu ongamaziyo, ithuba lokuya ebomini bakhe. Ngoku uzama ukudibana nabahlobo ngaphandle kwakho, uphuma kwinethiwekhi yoluntu, ushiya ikhompyuter, akabelanini kwiindaba zobomi bakho nawe.
Hayi kwiimeko zonke, umntu otyhutywe uya kugculelwa kwinto ethile, ngakumbi, alungiselele ukohlwaya, kodwa akuyi kungenakwenzeka ukuba wakhe imida engabonakaliyo phakathi kwakho nobomi bakhe.
Abo babenomntu ophilayo bafuna ukunciphisa kwaye banxibelelane nabafowunelwa
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Okokugqibela, umntu otshona efuna ukunciphisa kwaye abe nonxibelelwano. Ndiyeke nje ukuba ndithandeke ukuba ndichukumise, isuswa ngokuzenzekelayo kuwe xa ufuna ukuyifumana, uxokise ngokulandelayo. Ewe kunjalo, yena uyalahli inyathelo elinjalo ngendlela yakho.
Ngokwemvelo, kule meko, umyeni okanye indoda iya kuzama ukuphepha abafowunelwa ngokwesini kunye nawe, okanye baya kujika babe kwindawo elula "yokufumana uxinzelelo", nto leyo engenakuqaphela. Kwaye ukuba umntu akaziphathi ngenye imini, kwaye ixesha elide, kufuneka ucinge ngezizathu zokuziphatha.
Nangona kunjalo, ukutyhubela iminyaka uninzi lweentsapho, uthando luguqulwa ukuba lunamathiselwe kunye nentlonipho. Indoda nomfazi bayiba yimiphefumlo, iihafu ezimbini. Kodwa ukuba awunalo naluphi na ulwalamano, okanye intlonipho, ngaba ufuna ubudlelwane obunjalo kwimigaqo?