"Gusinzira byari bigufi cyane. Nakomamye mu rugi rwanjye, narakinguye - umusore ukiri muto ahagarara ku muryango. Nabonye ko azinjiza ikintu kibi. Ncecetse, nagerageje gukubita urugi, ariko akomeza urugi n'intoki n'amagambo ati: "Watekereje ko ufite umwanya wo gufunga umuryango?". Nyuma y'ibyo, yinjira mu nzu. Nabyutse ubwoba. Iyi nzozi yari iyihe? "
Izi nzozi zanyoherereje iminsi mike ishize. Inzozi Zitoza rero twibuka. Birakomeye, bikomeye, bimurika, turacyaye bisigaye murwibutso, mugihe izindi nzozi tutibuka.
Imiziririzo ivuga ko inzozi mbi mu gitondo, inzozi z'ibinyabuzima ntizisohora. Ariko, niba bidahuye nimiziririzo, noneho urashobora kureba inzozi zijoro ziturutse kurundi ruhande.
Ubwa mbere, Inzozi zidufasha kurokoka cyane kuburyo mubuzima kubwimpamvu runaka idahangayitse. Kurugero, bikekwa ko abantu bakuru batagomba gutinya ibintu bimwe, nkibiganiro na shobuja. Kandi benshi bafite ubwoba. Noneho ubwo bwoba bugomba kubahisha, kugirango babone. Ntabwo duyobora inzozi zacu bwite, kuko ubwoba, bwitabirikuzimu bwimibare, birashishikaye kandi byuzuye mu nzozi.
Kubwibyo, ikintu cya mbere dushobora kuvuga inzozi zacu ninzozi zation zijoro zitumye yikunda kubera ubwoba bukusanyije butabonye imvugo mubuzima bwe.
Noneho kubyerekeye ibisinzira. N'ubundi kandi, buri nzozi zacu, harimo n'inzozi mbi cyane, ni ukugaragaza zimwe mu mashyaka yacu, imirimo, icumbi, amacumbi y'ibyabaye.
Amashusho mu nzozi nimpande zose zinyuranye natwe ubwacu hamwe nabandi bantu.
Kimwe, kurugero, umuntu iterabwoba riza ryinjira munzu ye. Izo nzitizi nuburyo bwo kurinda yabonaga ko bizewe ntibihagije.
Gusinzira byerekana ko inzozi zacu ari ngombwa kubona uburyo itsemba neza imipaka yacyo. Sinzira avuga ko ahiga vuba. Inzu ye ituruka.
Mugitekerezo cyo gutera, sinshaka kuvuga igitero kimubiri ukomokaho, nko mu nzozi ze, ni bangahe bibazwa buri munsi aderesi yacu: kunegura, kunegura, gushinja umuntu utatugirira ubutoni, Kwirukana, kubyirengagiza ibyifuzo, tubategereje guhura, kutisohoza amasezerano, iterabwoba, kugwa, kwikuramo amafaranga nibindi.
Tumenyereye kutamenya, kurigarika cyangwa kurenga ku mbibi z'undi muntu mu gusubiza. Muri icyo gihe, turashobora kandi kwitondera imbaraga nke dusabwa gukira muri douche.
Kuri njye mbona inzozi zubutwari bwacu nkintege nke zuburyo bwo kongerera, nkuko imbibi zayo zibazwa cyane kubitero bikabije kandi byibanda cyane.
Birashoboka impamvu nziza yo kwiga ubushobozi bwawe bwo kwihagararaho, nibyo?
Kandi ni izihe nzorora?
Maria Zebeskova, umuganga wa psychologue, Umuvuzi wumuryango, Amahugurwa Yambere Yimiryango Yiterambere Yumuntu Marka Khazina