Vuba aha, umukobwa umwe ukiri muto yansanze asinzira. Birahuze, ngomba kuvuga. Ndazana nkurugero uyumunsi:
"Data, hamwe n'umubano wa buri gihe mu mibanire isanzwe, ndahwema kumurwanya, mu nzozi zanjye naguze ingoma nini, nzanwa mu nzu. Aca avuga ko afite ibintu byinshi kandi hari ukuntu bizimira mu nzu, kandi nagumye jyenyine n'ingona mbi. Dufite urugamba na we, kubera ko narokoka, nishe iyi nrona. Ni iki? "
Gusinzira rero biragaragara kandi bisobanutse ko bitazaba bigoye kubiranuka.
Inzozi zacu birashoboka ko tubona ko se, nk'igikoko, akaga kandi kikangisha, gikenewe kugira ngo gutsinda. Birashobora gufatwa ko umubano wabo umeze nkintambara: Gutongana, guhungabana, ibirego, intera nini iri hagati yabo.
Muri icyo gihe, inzozi ubwazo ni ingingo: Data nyawe yavuye mu rugo mu nzozi, asiga ingona aho kwikunda. Muyandi magambo, intwari zacu ntirwarwana na se nyawe, ariko muburyo yagumye kubera uburambe bwegeranijwe. Birashoboka cyane, ararakara cyane cyangwa abajuriwe na se, kuko ahora yiteguye gutera cyangwa kwirwanaho.
Mu bihe nk'ibi, hari amahirwe yo kugera kuri papa nyawe, nta mahirwe yo kumuvugisha rwose no kwerekana amakuru mu myaka yashize.
Ntabwo ari igihe mu nzozi, kandi mubuzima busanzwe bundi guhura na so. Birashoboka kubimenya neza nkumuntu, kandi ntabwo ari ubutware, aho bimwe bisabwa.
Muyandi magambo, uburyo bwo guhindura imyumvire n "" ibisimba "kuri" umuntu-muntu "?
Igikorwa ntabwo cyoroshye, kuko umubare munini wabantu uba hamwe nigitekerezo cy'uko ibitekerezo byabo kubantu ababo ari ukuri kurugero rwanyuma. Niba imyizerere yubwoko "mama itazigera yumva" cyangwa "Papa asaba gusa" kubikomeza, ariko nta mahirwe yo kugirana ubucuti nyayo no gutera inkunga ababyeyi babo. Ariko kubwibyo birakenewe kugirango iganireho kugirango ayo mategeko areke gushimangirwa: igihe kirageze cyo gushora imari, ibyago, gerageza, tukamarane neza, tukavuga ibiganiro, utumire ibiganiro.
Birasa nkaho inzozi zacu zifite amahirwe aramutse asomye inzozi ze muri ubu buryo.
Ndabaza ibyo urota?
Maria Zebeskova, umuganga wa psychologue, Umuvuzi wumuryango, Amahugurwa Yambere Yimiryango Yiterambere Yumuntu Marka Khazina