Abahagarariye amashuri atandukanye yo mumitekerereze no kwegera guhuza cyane, ariko rwose ibyo: Ibice bitatu bibaye muri Amerika, ibice byimiterere yacu. Turimo kuvuga ku mwana, umubyeyi n'uwakuze. Bavuga ko umuntu uhuza, wishimye niwe uri muri Lada hamwe nibice bitatu byose, birenze ibisigaye mumwanya mukuru. Ariko, nkuko imyitozo irerekana, ndetse no gutuza hanze kandi havoma abantu muriki myumvire ntibyoroshye. Nigute ushobora gukangurira muri wewe "umunyabwenge"? Uzafasha inzira yo gutangiriraho.
Gutangirwa ni ijambo rimwe bifite "gahunda" bizwi "bishingiye ku bishushanyo byombi - Ikilatini inimium, ni ukuvuga" intangiriro ". Ni hafi yintangiriro - ibyiciro bishya byubuzima - kandi bizaganirwaho mubikoresho byuyu munsi. "Ni iki gishobora kuba amayobera cyangwa ikibazo hano?" - urabaza. Nibyo, kubera ko twese tuzi izo tsinda: Yavutse, yashakanye, arubatse, umwana we yabyaye, ashaje. Umuntu wese afite inzibacyuho kuva murwego rumwe mubindi, Guhangana nabi kandi bikomeza ...
Yoo, ariko ntabwo buri gihe aribyo. Bamwe muritwe dushimishwa mubana igihe kirekire, ntitwigeze twiga gufata inshingano. Bamwe bagwa mubindi bikabije kandi mubabyeyi bagerageza kugenzura buri kimwe bwite (kandi cyingenzi - hamwe nundi muntu!) Ibibazo bitera ubwoba (ntibigifite impungenge, kuko kumenya neza ko uzi Ntabwo ari Imana, kandi ukomeze byose mubugenzuzi bitasohoka). Ntabwo dukura muburyo nyabwo, inzira yacu yose isigaye "umukobwa", "nyina", "papa" cyangwa "Mwana". Kugirango rimwe na rimwe hamwe nibi bigo, nta kibi kiri. Gusa wibuke icyo kubaho byimazeyo nukubera iherezo ryawe, fata amahitamo, ikosa, menya ibi kandi ukomeze kugirango "umuntu mukuru" wawe ". Utiriwe ushakisha, uba ufite amahirwe menshi kandi wirengagize ubushobozi bwawe bukomeye. Ariko kuvuga ngo: "Abaterankunga!" - Biroroshye, ariko kugirango mubyukuri bitoroshye. Hano infashanyo kandi haza ibitabarwa cyane, ni ukuvuga inzira yo kwimurwa k'umuntu kurwego rushya rwiterambere.
Hagarara imbere yanjye ...
Ibyo twibwira ko uyu munsi bisa nkaho bwa mbere, sogokuruza hamwe na basogokuru bashinze icyi kwita, amata ya nyina. Yatangije, hanyuma babatangije. Uwa mbere kandi cyane umuhango nk'uwo wari umubatizo (kandi mbere yaho - ITANGAZO RY'INGENZI RYANDA, N'ABANYAMWANA GUSA MU GIHE CY'UMWANYA UKWEMEJWE, Inzibacyuho Yatangajwe .
Abantu bamwe ni ubuzima bwabo bwose kandi bagume mu ruhare rw'abana
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Dufite amakuru menshi yerekeye ubutamini bw'abana mu rungi rwingimbi, hanyuma abantu bakuru. Ibi bisa nkaho bikubye imigani yose nyamara tuzi. Gusa wibuke: "Marozko", "hamwe n'indwara zitonyanga", "ubwiza bwose bw'ibibanza bya kerne, intwari zungizwa, intwari zikiri nto ziranyura mu gika, Rimwe na rimwe, ibizamini bikabije, basezera ku bwana bwabo busabwa ku rundi ruhande - umuntu ukuze ufite ibihembo byose kubera ubukwe bwiza). Iyi mbuto ziraza kuri bo, ntabwo ari ukubera ko haje igihe kandi intwari zujuje imyaka iboneye. Bibaho kandi ko bimwe mu bitangirira bidashira, kandi, ishyano, ntibashobora kubaho kure (iyi ni "inkumi ya shelegi").
Ibyo dusoma mubitabo byakozwe nabasekuruza bacu mubyukuri, kandi mumiryango gakondo ubungubu nubu. Mugihe umuco ugezweho utanga abenegihugu bakuru bakuze kandi ubaha imbaraga zo gutora, imiryango yo muri AMERIKA N'Amerika itangira abana babo ubufasha budasanzwe kandi burigihe burigihe. Bikekwa ko, gutsinda ubwoba nububabare, umwana yimuka rwose intambwe ikurikira, "kwica" ubwayo mu bwana butagira gitabara no gutanga intangiriro yubuzima bushya, busanzwe mubuzima bushya, busanzwe.
Ariko, ntabwo ari imihango yose kumurongo kuva kumiterere kugeza kumiterere ntiyashimishije kandi irababaza. Twese rero, tuzi imihango yubuhelati yo mu gicucu (inzibacyuho z'abakobwa kugeza ku mukobwa) na Kalita (ubutaruzi bw'abahungu mu basore): Abangavu bateraniye hamwe, bibaza, bapima, bapima, bapima, rwihishwa, rwihishwa, basangiwe neza.
Ati: "Sinzi impamvu, ariko nyuma y'abeho hamwe nanyu ndumva umugore nyawe!" - Nuburyo bwavuze ko sosiyete yacu Marusha. Yabuze mama, yakuze na se wuje urukundo, ariko byari byiza cyane ku nama zimwe z'umugore na caress bityo rero yahoraga yisubiza umuhamagaro wo guterana. Amateraniro yacu ntiyatandukaniye nabakobwa basanzwe nabakobwa bakobwa: amazimwe, vino ntoya, umuntu yasinziriye, arasinziriye cyangwa asinzira. Mu ijambo, nta kintu kidasanzwe - ariko kuri "Marus" idacogora ", wambuwe amahirwe yo kumarana na nyina n'inshuti ze, bachelides yakoze nk'inama ya psychotherapiste. Ibi birumvikana, kuko mubyukuri ntabwo "byahinduwe ngo" bidahwitse kumukobwa, nubwo Masi yakuze cyane bakuze abahungu babiri, aho bo kandi umugabo we atitaye ku mutima. Amateraniro n'abakobwa bakobwa byamufashaga buhoro buhoro "kwemeza" ku mutwe "nyina" n '"umugore."
Abahanga mu by'imitekerereze bafite icyizere: uyu munsi, kwinjira mubuzima bwimibonano mpuzabitsina ndetse no kuvuka kw'abana ntabwo buri gihe "bihindura" umuntu kurwego rushya. Byasa naho: ntukiri umuhungu, ahubwo ni umugabo wanjye (kandi akenshi wa se), kuko ufite umugore n'umwana, ariko iki ni ikintu kimwe, ahubwo urabizi, fata - bitandukanye rwose. Sosiyete yacu, yorokora cyane kuva "ibisigisigi byahise" hamwe n'imigenzo yayo kandi irahagarara, irashaka cyane imihango n'imigenzo. Nyuma ya byose, usibye ibisobanuro byubumaji kandi byera, ibyo abantu bose bafite uburenganzira bwo kwihangana cyangwa ntibahandikire imihango, ifite akandi mahirwe ... Witegure gusa impinduka nini.
Birasa neza kandi nikintu nyamukuru mubihe nkibi byingenzi. "Urabizi, ntabwo niteguye kuba data na gato!" - Oleg yitoteje hari ukuntu. Bashakaga ku mugore we, bashakaga umwana igihe kirekire cyane, baburanishwa, biruka mu baganga, basome ibitabo byinshi. Ariko Oleg atabaye muriyi nkuru muriyi nkuru. Nyuma yaje kuvuga kuri ibi ati: "Ntabwo nzi rwose abo bana. Sinigeze nkomeza umwana ku biganza. Ntuzigere ufasha umuntu kubana. Ndetse n'ibibwana n'ibikona ntabwo byabyitayeho! Igihe umubyeyi amaze kubona, nibajije muri Terra Incognita mu maso afunze, kandi ni nubwo bisa nkaho ari agatsiko ka byose. " Oleg, Kubwamahirwe, ntishobora kubiganiraho na nyina na papa we, kuko imfubyi zambere.
Ndetse hari ishyingiranwa n'abana ntibihamya ko. ko "dorosli" ku ruhare rw'ababyeyi
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Akenshi bibaho hamwe nababyeyi bazima. Kubera ingorane zo gushyikirana n'ibisekuru bya "ba se" kandi nta mihango idasanzwe itangirira, abasore ejo n'abakobwa bahitanye mu gukora gukoraho, kutamenya ko babaho impinduka zubuzima. Kubwamahirwe, zimwe muri iyi nshingano zafashe societe muri rusange: Turasezera ku ishuri tujya ku ishuri, tujya ku ishuri, tumaze kugwiza, tumaze kwinjiza muri kaminuza, nyuma yo gukora. Ariko rimwe na rimwe inzira yo guhinga ntishobora kugereranywa n'imikorere yo gusabana, hanyuma umunyeshuri wa Ejo akajya kumwanya wa "Umunyeshuri w'iteka" kandi atavuze umwanya wukuri. Reka tumenye icyo aricyo nuburyo bwo gufasha kujya kumwanya mushya.
Umuntu ukomeye kandi munini
Mukuru - ninde kuri wewe? Ndahita dutekereza ishusho ikomeye cyane, ituze kandi rikomeye cyane, ryiza, rikomeye kandi rihamye cyane. Emera, nibyiza iyo umuntu akingiwe kandi yitwara. Kandi mbega ukuntu biteye ubwoba gutakaza umujyanama nkuyu! Ariko ugomba kubyemera: Bitinde bitebuke abantu benshi benshi kandi bafite ubwenge (ababyeyi akenshi bari muri uru ruhare) bareka kwitwara. Hanyuma havutse igihe cyacu cyo gufata iyi nshingano. Ni yo nyirabayazana w'ubuzima bwabo kandi agizwe no gukura. Umwana wacu w'imbere ntabitekereza na gato, uruhare rwe ni ugugaragaza ibyifuzo byacu n'inzozi, kwishima no gutungurwa. Ariko igice cyababyeyi mubuzima bwacu ntabwo ari kubisubizo kuri we; Arashaka kuyobora, kuyobora no gukunda abandi. Gusa imiterere ikura rwose irashobora gutegura idafite ikinamico no guhangayika kandi wemere ingaruka zibikorwa byabo.
Sinabonaga cyane ku buryo nari "nini"! Mfite imirimo myinshi, imirimo myinshi ya buri munsi. Kandi vuba aha, nasanze "ibikorwa byanjye" byose "byose ari ibibazo bya bene wabo nabakunda bakeneye ubufasha bwanjye. Iyi ni inkuru isanzwe: akenshi ushinzwe kuba inshingano kandi bakusanyije ni beza "ababyeyi." Barinda no kurema, kurengera no kuyobora abantu bose, usibye bo ubwabo. Ibizavamo iyi nkuru nimwe: Bitinde bitebuke ufite imbaraga, kandi ubuzima bwawe buzaba ubusa nta guhangayikishwa nabaturanyi. Aho mubihe nkibidafite ikinamico no guhangayika!
Hariho izindi ngero. Inshuti yanjye Christina nurugero rugaragara rwumwana mumubiri wumugore ukuze (nubwo abana be batatu). Dukurikije Christina, abantu bose bagomba kumufasha, kuko ari umubyeyi umwe, ndetse na batatu! Niba ubufasha butazimye, noneho ibidukikije byose bidashobora kubarwa, bikaba uhamwe n'icyaha cyo kunanirwa kwe. Umuntu wese ategekwa kwinjira mumwanya we, yumve, ubabarire, ureke.
I na Christina - abahagarariye babiri ntabwo ari umuryango ukuze, ukeneye cyane kujya muburyo bwa "mukuru". Ifite kandi kumyaka, no ku mico yo hanze (abana, injangwe, abagabo nubundi buzima). Nkatwe ibihumbi. Nigute?
Mbere ya byose, menya imiterere yawe nibibazo byukuri. Urashobora kuba sengeri manini utigeze aba umugabo, umugore uri munsi yimyaka mirongo itanu agerageza kugenzura iherezo ryabandi bantu, umusore ukiri muto cyane, mbere yisi nshya. Ikintu kimwe ni ngombwa: Urabyumva kubwimpamvu runaka utavuga "umusoro" mubuzima bwawe.
Intambwe ikurikira ni ugusobanukirwa udafite ibikorwa bimwe na bimwe ntibizabaho kubifunzwe cyane. Ntibitangaje kubona Gutangiza gakondo bifitanye isano nububabare bwumubiri. Noneho ababyeyi barinda abana babo kubabara ibyumwuka, ubategure mubuzima nkubwo. Wibuke ibisanzwe bidutera imbaraga? Kuba hafi kutwitwa. Ntabwo nsaba byihutirwa mumihango yamaraso, ariko nitondera: Kugira ngo mbe umuntu mukuru, birakenewe ko usezera mu bwana, kandi rimwe na rimwe, ariko rimwe na rimwe, ahubwo birakomeretsa.
Mbere ya byose, birakenewe kureka gushinja abandi bantu muburyo bwabo. Nibyo, bibaho ko ibidukikije bigira ingaruka mubyukuri. Ariko rwose ntabwo uzi neza ko bakora amateka yawe! Witoze gufata ibyemezo buri munsi. Reka bibe bito rwose, ntacyo bivuze (kurebwa mbere) Ibikorwa: Guhitamo imyenda, inzira uzajya kukazi, umuhanda uzajya kukazi, umuhanda, witegura, igihe cyo guta no gusinzira. Wige kudahitamo gusa, ariko kandi wemere ingaruka zacyo, gusobanukirwa ingaruka zishoboka.
Gerageza gukora ubwigenge bwamafaranga. Iki nikintu cyingenzi cyane cyo gukura. Igenamigambi, Ubuzima, nta shingironywa n'inguzanyo udashobora gufunga - ikimenyetso cy'umuntu ukuze.
Wige kubara wenyine, nubwo utagutinya gusaba ubufasha. Muri icyo gihe, duhita tuva mu ishusho ya superchel: byiza ko uzi neza icyo ushobora guhangana n'ibibazo byose, ariko ubyumva igihe ubishoboye kandi ukeneye kwita kubagenzi n'abakunzi, kandi ntutindiganye kubikora .
Hanyuma, shyira inyungu zawe mu gice. Kuri ubu hariho ingingo ebyiri zingenzi zigomba kumvikana. Ubwa mbere, inyungu zawe zigomba kugukorera wenyine. Niba "ubwato" nababyeyi cyangwa abo bashakanye, "abana" bawe bafite agaciro. Icya kabiri, ni ngombwa kumva icyo gukora nkuko ushaka, cyane (!) Biragoye. Biramubuza kumva inshingano no kumva ko ariho icyaha, kudukurikira inkweto kandi tuzirikana abantu bari muri "Parabyeyi". Kugira ngo wige, ugomba kwitoza. Hariho amahirwe yo gukora nkuko ushaka? Ntutekereze!
Imwe mumikorere ikomeye yo gutangiza ifatwa ... umusatsi!
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Mbere yo gusimbuka
Kandi ubutaba ni iki? Afite iki hano? Itumanaho ritaziguye: Gutangiza ninkuru yerekeye amahugurwa, kubyerekeye kwirundarungano no kubona imbaraga, kubyerekeye kubona imbaraga hejuru ye n'ubuzima bwe. Biragaragara, umaze kugira imbaraga, n'imbaraga, ube abantu bakuru - ikibazo cyigihe.
Birumvikana ko imvugo idakomeza ibijyanye n'imihango y'ubumaji n'imigenzo, bisa naho abakurambere, byari bikwiye cyane guhindura umuhungu mu mugabo, ariko umukobwa w'umukobwa. Ariko rwose utabishoboye ntushobora gukora. Ni ngombwa guhitamo icyo uzagukorera. Imwe mumikorere ikomeye yo gutangiza ifatwa ... umusatsi! Yego, yego, urugendo rusanzwe rwo kwogosha. Ntabwo wigeze ubona ko imisatsi mishya iguha ibyiyumvo bishya rwose, bitanga amahirwe mashya n'ibyifuzo? Uburyo bwimirimo yiyi "migeya" buroroshye: Urababariwe ibyahise, ukata kera, wafashwe kandi udakenewe mubikorwa bitari biteguye mbere, - none usanzwe utegereje iherezo ryawe. Niyo mpamvu ari ngombwa cyane kumva ibyifuzo byabana ningimbi gushaka kugerageza isura: kugirango hataba izindi nzira gakondo zo kugeza kumiterere mishya yo guhindura amashusho - verisiyo ikora.
Undi kwibaza "amarozi", kandi mubyukuri inzira nyayo kandi yumvikana ni "kweza". Wibuke ukuntu abakurambere bacu banyujije ubwogero. Hano yatekerejwe abana kandi yibaruka, bategura ibintu byose byingenzi, yaba ubukwe cyangwa gushyingura bene wabo. Umaze igihe kingana iki mu bwogero, muri Sauna, yego, uhagaze mu bwiherero, ariko rero ko ntamuntu ukurangaza? Tegura umunsi nk'uwo.
Inama zingenzi hamwe nabantu bahuje ibitekerezo. Bimaze kuvugwa bachelide ufite ingaruka zukuri. Uri mubidukikije byiza, kuruhande rwiteguye gufasha no kumva, "ujya" kugenda "ukumva ubwiza bwigihe - na burimunsi, bisa nkaho bitanga imbaraga nicyifuzo cyo kubaho.
Hanyuma, kubashaka kongera gukora ibishoboka byose, ninzira nziza kandi ikabije (birumvikana ko yibuka umutekano!). Umukunzi wanjye wumucyo hari ukuntu yagerageje Bunji-gusimbuka. Ibi ni ugusimbuka uva muburebure burebure kumugozi muremure wa rubber, mubyukuri gusimbuka mubusa. Svetlana yavuze ko aricyo gikorwa cyihebye cyane kandi cyiza cyane mubuzima bwe. Iyo apima ingaruka zose, asigara wenyine afite ubwoba, yashoboye gutangiza umuntu mukuru, asiga ubwana butagira impungenge.
Mubyukuri, ntabwo ari ngombwa cyane ko umuhango wawe wo gutangizwa. Ibihe byateganijwe kandi bireba abantu bose, none dushobora guhitamo icyadukwiriye. Ibirori byabanjirije ubukwe? Amasomo ya ba se bato? Ibiruhuko mumudugudu udafite terefone na mudasobwa zigendanwa? Urugendo kuri Tibet? Indahiro zo guceceka cyangwa gusana n'amaboko yawe? Ikintu nyamukuru nuko inzira uhisemo wakuyoboye wenyine - umutuzo, utuje kandi ushoboye gucunga ubuzima bwawe.
Fasha - Nigute?
Reka turebe icyo gice cyawe gikeneye kwitaho nurukundo. Iyo twiyemereye ubwacu ko dufite umuntu urinde, umuntu mukuru arakomera.
Komeza ukurikirane imvugo ivuga ... hamwe nabo ubwabo. Ibuka icyo nuburyo uvuga mugihe habaye gutsindwa. Umunani kuri icumi muri twe uvuga ubwabo, nta mbabazi watutse kandi unenga. Ntukemere ko imyifatire nk'iyo kuri wewe (no kuri wewe!). Gutuza kandi byoroshye.
Nyuma yo guhagarara, reka kubikora hamwe nabandi. Gushakisha icyaha - ikimenyetso cyumuntu udakuze, ugerageza guhindura igice cyinshingano ze. Ikigaragara ni uko: Nubwo wasanga "umugome", ntibizagufasha guhangana ninshingano.
1. Umwana . Mu mashuri atandukanye no kwegera, muburyo butandukanye, iki nikibazo cyawe gishinzwe ubushobozi bwo kurota, kwifuza, kwishima no gutekereza. Igice cyabana kiyobowe ninshinga "Ndashaka." Buri gihe guhaza "umwirondoro" wumwana w'imbere.
2. Umubyeyi. Ubwoko bw'ababyeyi muri twe buratandukanye - haba bugari, kunegura, kugarura bikabije abana bacu bivuye ku mutima, kandi bafite ubwenge, bakira, bashyigikira. Inshinga y'ababyeyi ni "ikenewe."
3. mukuru. Hanyuma, uwuringaniza cyane umubano w'abana bacu b'imbere n'ababyeyi bacu arema kandi agenga, asuzuma imbaraga n'isesengura - abantu bakuru. Inshinga ye ni "Ndabishoboye": Nkabantu bakuru, tuzi neza ibyo bashoboye, kandi uko ari byiza kwanga.