Biragoye kwiyumvisha igikoresho gikomeye cyo kumenya umugabo kuruta ikibazo gikwiye. Ashobora kumurika ibyiringiro kandi aganisha ku gusobanukirwa gushya numuntu ufunze. Kandi irashobora gusenya impression kandi ikagukomeza mubitekerezo bitari byo.
Ntitukirukane, tuzasesengura "amagufwa" uburyo bworoshye bwo kwinjira mubitekerezo byumugabo no gukora aka gace kayo - ubuhanga bwikibazo gikwiye.
Urukundo "Niki? He? Ryari? "
Ni ukubera iki ari ngombwa cyane ibibazo byiza cyane ubaza umugabo? Ubwato - Ibi bizaganisha kumibanire myiza. Ibi bigerwaho nuburyo bubiri bworoshye:
Ibibazo byiza bizafasha kumenya neza umuntu ushyikirana. Ibi na byo, bizakubwira uburyo bwo kubaka umubano na we, kandi ni rusange. Nyuma ya byose, niba bigaragaye ko wowe n'umugabo atari kuruhande rumwe rwa bariyeri ukurikije indangagaciro cyangwa icyo ushaka mubuzima nurukundo, ntabwo byumvikana kumarana umwanya munini.
Uburyo ubaza n'icyo ishobora kwishima no gushyigikira inyungu z'umugabo kuri wewe. Kandi ibi nabyo, bizashimangira isano iri hagati yawe. Nigitekerezo ko abagabo birinda abagore bafite amatsiko. Ariko niba wize ubuhanga bwa "ikibazo", azakomeza kugusaba kumubaza ikibazo. Yagenzuwe!
Julia Lansk
Shira amatwi hejuru hanyuma uhure ningingo zitsindiye kubibazo. Ibibazo bizarimbisha ikiganiro icyo ari cyo cyose kandi bizakuraho inyungu nyinshi kandi binezerwe muri yo:
Ibibazo bishimangira amarangamutima meza, ibyiyumvo nibisabwa. Baza umuntu ko akunda ko akunda ko amwishimira - bizamera neza ko ibitekerezo bye kubyerekeye ibyiza. Kandi birashobora kubareba ibintu byose byubuzima: ibyo akunda, firime, gast ya mastrorie, siporo, imyidagaduro, nibindi.
Ibibazo bitari byiza cyane mwimbitse mubwimbitse bwubugingo. Umuntu wese afite inzego eshatu: extlificial, hagati no hagati. Gerageza ubanza kuvugana nibibazo byawe ntabwo ari ugutobora urukuta murwego rwimbitse. Kubera iki? Birashobora gutuma umugabo atabibuka neza - niba umuntu ashaka, azabwira byose wenyine. Kureremba mumazi maremare. N'ubundi kandi, iyo ugerageje kugambanira mu madirishya y'ubugingo bwe, ntutangazwe aramutse afunze impumyi. Iteka ryose.
Ibibazo bizamura umubano wawe . Menya neza uburyo umugabo yibakira mugihe kizaza, aho yashakaga kuri hose mubuzima bwe, ubuzima bwihariye, icyo gahunda ye yari afite. Nkibisobanuro, ibi nibibazo bifunguye bitera inkunga umugabo guhishura, gutekereza kandi usibye turazamuka mumaso ye nkumugore ukomeye ureba uko ubibona.
Ibibazo bikwegera. Abifashijwemo babo, urashobora kubona ingingo zawe hamwe numugabo, rusange bwibitekerezo nibitekerezo, ibyo ukunda, kwishimisha, ibyifuzo n'impamvu. Hura Ibisubizo bye ninyungu, nubwo bidahuye cyane nibyo witeze: inzira imwe cyangwa ubundi, ushobora kumva ibyo umuntu, urashobora kumva icyo kuvugana nawe, ahubwo nicyo ugomba kwirinda.
IBIBAZO. Bazaba ingirakamaro mugihe kubabaza ubwayo birababaje cyane, bikansize nibibazo, rimwe na rimwe, kandi urumva ko ari byiza kujya kurwego rutabogamye. Ntabwo igomba kuba ikomeye hano: "kuririmba" gusa kubyo ushobora kubona, no guceceka humura umuntu mubwimbitse.
Ingero Nziza Zibibazo bibi
Wibuke ko abagabo basunika amatsiko menshi? Iki gitekerezo rero, birashoboka cyane, cyavutse nyuma yuko umugabo "yarashwe" nibibazo uhereye kurutonde rukurikira. None, ni ibihe bibazo nibyiza kwirinda:
Hypothetical ibibazo bya massamatique. Mubisanzwe batangira gutya: "Wakora iki uramutse utanze miliyoni 5 z'amadolari? Ninde wafata ikirwa kidatuwe? Wakora iki niba ubu byari kuri Mars? " - nibindi Amaherezo, ari ku munsi cyangwa mu birori kuri psychologue? Biracyasigaye gushyira uburiri nshyira umurwayi ku musego. Niba ushaka kubaza indi miti, noneho nibyiza kubikora kurwego rwibitumanaho rwimbitse, kugirango utamutera reaction idasobanutse nibitekerezo kuri wewe.
Ibibazo bisekeje kubyerekeye ibyahise. "Nigute mama yaguhamagaye mu bwana?", "Wagize abagore bangahe?", "Kuki, mubona umubano wawe wahozese?". Birumvikana ko bishimishije kumenya uko umuntu yabayeho. Ariko birasa no gucukura muri douche, twabiganiriyeho hejuru. Fata amatsiko yawe ya Barbarum: Niba urudodo rwabagabo rwashize ruganisha ku buvumo bwijimye, ntugagire ibyago kandi usunike ibyo ubibona hano n'ubu.
Ibibazo bijyanye nubusabane bwubu hamwe nabo ubwabo. "Urankunda?", "Tuvuge iki hagati yacu?" Turongore? "Urashaka abana?" - Imbarutso ya kera yo kurasa umugabo kuruhande rwawe. Gutangira hasi. Uburangare.
Ibibazo, nko mubazwa cyangwa bivugwa. Urashobora kubona ibibazo nkibi kurutonde cyangwa ikibazo mugihe ufashe akazi cyangwa mubiro mu iperereza. Nibyiza, bazashyira umugabo sputor, murubanza rwiza, bazagusunika nabi.
Benshi basubiza abagabo ntibakunda, ariko birasanzwe
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Isosi y'ibanga igomba kuguma ibanga
Birumvikana ko ikiganiro icyo aricyo cyose kirimo ibiganiro, kubyina aho byombi bitabira, bimukira. Kubwibyo, nshuti yanjye nziza, nubwo byaba byiza twabikwiriye kandi wubwenge bwawe nikibazo cyawe, ntugomba kubashakisha mu mahembe y'ubwinshi, ntukabasabe bidashidikanywaho cyangwa ngo biboneke, cyane nko ku kizamini.
Ako kanya ndashaka kuvuga ko ibisubizo byinshi byumugabo bidakunda. Ariko ibi nibisanzwe, twese turatandukanye, kandi ubuzima bwacu ntabwo ari uruganda rwo kurangiza ibyifuzo. Ariko ni byiza kumenya ukuri mbere yuko umubano wawe uzagera cyane.
Reka ibibazo byawe bibe byiza kandi ubihanganye nibiganiro, uba isosi yibanga, kandi ntabwo ari urutonde rwerekana amakuru yawe, ninde muntu watsinze wumva nta kibazo. Kandi ntibishoboka ko dukina ukuboko kwawe.
Yego nibyo! Nari naribagiwe. Niba umuntu akwitayeho abikuye ku mutima kandi yifuza guteza imbere umubano kurwego rwo hejuru, bizaza mu nama n'ibibazo byayo. Umva kandi umanike kuri Amerika: na none urashobora gusesengura icyo ashaka kumenya kuri wewe, kibafitiye akamaro kuri we.
Ndashaka kurangiza ikiganiro cyacu n'imirongo yavuye mu gitabo na Allan Percy, wavuze ibidukikije bikomeye: "Niba mfite isaha imwe kugira ngo nkemure ikibazo, kandi ubuzima bwanjye bwari gushingira ku ruhushya, nakoresha 55 yambere iminota yo gutegura ikibazo; Kuberako niba ubajije ikibazo gikwiye, ikibazo gishobora gukemurwa muminota itarenze 5. Mubyukuri - ikibazo nyacyo cyo gukangurira imbaraga kugirango ubone igisubizo. "