Ababyeyi b'abana bakuze bakunze kunntukira: Nigute wakwitwara niba abana babo bamaze gukura, babaho bayo, bameze neza. Bashaka kubafasha - kandi abarakanze banze gufasha no kureka kuvugana na gato.
Mama yarababaje, papa ararakara, ababyeyi bashaka kugira uruhare mubuzima bwabana nka mbere - kandi ntibyemewe. Sinkunda? Ntibikenewe? Niki?
Kandi mubyukuri - icyo gukora? Twahambiriye cyane ku Imbonerahamwe y'abana hamwe n'incuke, ishuri, ibiruhuko, uruziga, akazu, ku buzima bwacu nkaho dufashe ubugingo bwose, no gufata ubugingo.
Bisa naho byishimo byo kwishimira: Icyuma cyigenga, gihingwa, gishobora gukorwa nabo ubwabo - ntabwo ari ngombwa kujya aho bibaye ngombwa, n'aho nshaka gusoma ibyo nshaka gutsinda muri rusange. Kandi sinshaka kujya ahantu hose, kandi ntabwo isomwe, kandi ntabwo ikora kugirango idakora. Ubuzima, ibintu nkibi bimenyerewe, biramenyerewe, biranyanyagiye mo ibice, kandi bisa nkaho bidashoboka kubaha agaciro.
Kandi ntibisobanutse neza uburyo umubano numugabo we uzubakwa ... noneho birasobanutse - Mama \ papa, none gute? Nibyiza, birasobanutse: inzu, abavandimwe, umutungo, ni \ we we, bene wabo ... hanyuma iki? Yabayeho nkaho ari kubw'abana, none kuri nde? Kandi abantu bose batangira gushakisha inyungu zabo - kandi akenshi ntabwo bari mumuryango.
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Kandi cyane cyane: Ntabwo bisobanutse neza uko twibwira ko turi beza? Mbere, byashobokaga kwica ku mwana - ubuzima bwe, amanota, amwitaho. Hari nibura ibipimo bimwe na bimwe: "Umubyeyi mwiza", "papa mwiza". Gusa ubu iyi sisitemu yo gusuzuma ihagarika gukora - "ingingo yerekana" irabuze.
Bigenda bite kuri wewe byitwa "syndrome yicyari ubusa". Mbere ya byose, birumvikana ko bigira ingaruka ku bagore - nyuma ya byose, uwabanyamahanga afatwa nkinshingano zumugore, tutitaye kuba mama bakora cyangwa basezeranye ninzu gusa. Ariko abapadiri nabo barashobora kugorana muri iki gihe - cyane cyane niba bashyizwe mu buzima bwumuryango kandi bitabiriye uburere.
Iki gihe kitoroshye mubuzima bwumuryango gishobora kunyura mubisanzwe - hashingiwe kuri Ibyifuzo byoroshye.
Noneho, uwambere. Shakisha inzira yawe, ibuka inzozi zawe, ibyifuzo, imigambi, imigambi - hanyuma utangire ushushanya mubuzima! Andika urutonde rwibyifuzo byawe. Noneho ufite umwanya wo kuganira n'inshuti, ibuka ibyo wakundaga gukora, ariko nta mwanya uhagije. Cyangwa birashoboka ko uzahitamo kugarura uburezi? Hanyuma utangire ibikorwa bishya byumwuga?
Kabiri . Niba wowe (nkuko ubitekereza) abana bonyine banze, noneho igihe kirageze cyo kongera guhura! Wihe umwanya wo kwigana - kandi iki gihe urashobora kuba ushimishije cyane mwembi. Kandi umubano wawe cyangwa uzakira "guhumeka kwa kabiri", cyangwa wowe, nk'abashakanye, tuzagabana, kuko babaye abanyamahanga. Nibyiza, kandi bibaho, ariko urabona amahirwe yo kubikora mumahoro kandi ushimishijwe no kubahana no gushimira mugihe kibana.
Abana banyu barakuze, bo ubwabo barashobora kuba ababyeyi - kandi ibi nibisanzwe
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Icya gatatu Kandi birashoboka ko ari ikintu kitoroshye - wige gutega amatwi. Gusa utege amatwi umukunzi wawe cyangwa umwana wawe ukuze kukubwira - kandi ukore ibintu ukurikije. NK'IBI? Ntugaharanire guhumuriza, gufasha cyangwa gutanga inama niba umufatanyabikorwa cyangwa abana bahuje gusa. Ubwuzu, baza niba ari ngombwa gufasha - kandi niba bidakenewe (ni ukuvuga, ubufasha ntabwo abajijwe), ntutabare.
Kane . Niba ubyifatamye cyane kubintu byubuzima kandi ugakoresha kugirango ugerageze kwitondera byinshi, bihinduka neza. Tekereza niba ukeneye kwitondera inzira nkiyi?
Gatanu . Yaba umwana cyangwa umufatanyabikorwa cyangwa ntibagomba) kuba bashinzwe amarangamutima yawe. Hamwe nibi - ku nzobere. Gusa ushize ikindi cyiciro cyingenzi mubuzima: Utandukanijwe numwana, kandi akomoka kuri wewe.
Umva umubabaro numubabaro mugihe gutandukana ari ibisanzwe. Kugirango winjire rwose, urashobora gukenera kimwe nigice cyangwa ibiri. Reka koga, fata izi mpinduka - hanyuma ugaruke mubuzima busanzwe.