Mperutse kuvuga inzozi, ikaba arirumwe kandi imenyesha, nyamuneka ntusome. Ariko, ibisobanuro bye, ngiye gutanga, ntabwo ari kure ubwoba bufite intego.
"Umugabo wanjye yambwiye ko tugomba kwica umwana wacu muto. Yazanye impaka, ariko sinabubuka. Umwana yahisemo gutanga uburozi. Kugira ngo tumenye neza ko umwana azapfa atababajwe, twishe umwana w'undi, shyira mu isanduku yoroshye turashyingurwa.
Natekerezaga ko mbona umwanya wo kwanga umugabo we cyangwa guhisha umwana, ariko mu buryo butunguranye mbona mu biganza bye ari isanduku nto kandi nziza cyane maze amenya ko yamaze kumwica. "
Hano hari uburyo butatu bwibisobanuro bishobora gutangwa inzozi zo guhitamo.
Iya mbere ni ukugaragara cyane. Turimo kuvuga amakimbirane yukuri, imishyikirano kubuzima nurupfu byumwana. Ahari tuvuga gukuramo inda. Kubyerekeye kubaho cyangwa kutaba inda. Ahari niba nta burambe nk'ubwo bwose mu buzima bw'ubunararibonye, noneho mu nzozi abona amakimbirane y'umuryango wagutse. Ahari ubu ni bwo bumenyi bwe bwimbitse bwubuzima bwe / ntabwo ubuzima bwe, aho ababyeyi be baganira. Cyangwa aya makimbirane yundi muntu mumuryango ayifiteho.
Verisiyo ya kabiri Bifitanye isano no kuba ababyeyi b'imbere bashaka gucisha umwana we. Dogma ye, yakubise mu mico, bidatinze. Aya makimbirane azwi na benshi banyuze mu burere bukabije na sisitemu igoye y'ibibujijwe, ibihano igihe bari abana, ingimbi, abasore.
Verisiyo ya gatatu Njye mbona, amayobera. Karl Jung yavuze ko mugikorwa cyo gukura ibice byacu byoroheje, byimirire yubugingo bigomba gupfa, cyangwa ahubwo kunguka. Kwiyoroshya kwacu, kurekura, ibiyobyabwenge, ubuzima bwo kwibeshya bwabana bugomba guha inzira aho gufata icyemezo, inshingano, ubushobozi bwo gukora ibikorwa no guhangana ningaruka zibi bikorwa.
Ahari nubwo biteye ubwoba mubirimo, inzozi zinzozi nuko ibice byoroshye byubugingo bwe bipfa, bitanga inzira yo gukura no mubantu bakuze. Ibi byose bibaho nkibisubizo byingenzi no kongera gutekereza munzira yubuzima. Siga inzozi zihitamo, ni ubuhe buryo bushoboka cyane.
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Maria Dyachkova, umuganga wa psychologue, umuvuzi wumuryango, amahugurwa yambere yibikorwa byimikurire yimyidagaduro Marika Khazin