Kugira ngo uhishure ibitotsi ibitotsi muri iki gihe, nzakubwira bike ku kugore wamutumye. Kuri iki cyiciro, hamwe n'umugabo we, avuga kubyerekeye gutandukana. Byateje inzira yingenzi, yimbitse yo kwizirikana nubushakashatsi kugirango yemere ko umubano numugabo we ari ubwumvikane. Guhunga ubwawe, uhereye ku ishyaka, kuva mu bwiza. Amasezerano yabo acecetse mu myaka yashize yagombaga kurema hatuje ejo hazaza hamwe kandi ntangarugero kugirango utere akazu, kugirango utegure imyidagaduro n'ubuzima bwiza, kugirango dusangirena cyane kandi ibipimo byose a ubuzima bwiza hamwe. Ngiyo masezerano yasobanuraga ukuri kugiti cyawe: Kubera ibyago, uhereye kubona imishinga mishya rwose irashimishije kandi ikaze ko imishinga myinshi mu mwuga, ingendo, mu itumanaho. Noneho Inzozi zacu zizi ko idakwiye kwimukira mubyifuzo byabo nyabyo, ndetse biranda. Amasezerano yabo yo guceceka yashinzwe ku kwangwa igice cyifuzo cyarwo hamwe na buri munsi, ariko ubu arabyungukira kandi yiteguye kwigira byinshi, harimo kwigira, ishaka, irashakisha.
Akenshi kubashakanye barimo kugenzura ubumwe. Iyo, muri make, umuntu afata inshingano yo kwiteza imbere kugiti cye, uwa kabiri, nkitegeko, afite umwanya uteye ubwoba wo kubungabunga ibyakozwe bimaze gushyirwaho, bitera kurwanya impinduka zikaba zangiza ishyingiranwa.
Muri rusange, gushakisha umuntu umwe mubashakanye akenshi babonwa nabandi nkibangamira uburambe bwa kera. Kandi uku gutinya n'iterabwoba ni byiza kuruta imbaraga abashakanye bihishe ibyifuzo byabo, imigambi, ibyifuzo byabo n'ibyifuzo. Kuva aho, na diantasy ko gukura kugiti cyawe umuntu bizasenya umuntu, kubera ko bishoboka cyane ko abashakanye bazatangira kuvuga ikintu ko batabishaka kureba igihe kirekire kandi arinangira. By the way, ntabwo buri gihe iterabwoba ryo gutandukana no gutukwa. Gusiga umuntu ni ibintu bikomeye kandi bidashimishije. Mugihe cyo gutinya gutandukana, benshi baracyakomeza umubano wabo, bakomeza kunyura hejuru yibyo hamwe nibice bimenagura uburiganya.
Ariko, imyumvire no gukundana kugirango bashakishe umunezero nubusobanuro bwabo ni ikibazo, iri ni isomo aho abashakanye bashobora guhagarika gufata undi bagatangira kwifata, bakundwa cyane cyane bakeneye cyane cyane bakeneye imbere cyane cyane bakeneye cyane cyane gukenera iterambere, ubumenyi n'ubushakashatsi.. Noneho undi mufatanyabikorwa ntabwo ari umwanzi wibikorwa byose, ahubwo nukureba kandi umufatanyabikorwa. Cyangwa ntibihinduka, ariko ibyo ni byo yahisemo.
Ibyerekeye izi nzozi z'inzozi zacu:
"Wito ya moshi (undi) yazanye gari ya moshi. Ntashobora gukomeza kujya, nk'uko igihugu ngatwika munsi yaco (Ndibuka ikintu nka urufatiro ku amatafari cyangwa bariyeri munsi Ukarisitiya, kandi arunda, gutura no yaguye) na gusenyuka. Ndebye kuruhande kandi vuga gusa ko gari ya moshi idashobora kugenda, izashishikara igihe kitazwi. Mugihe kimwe, gari ya moshi iri ahantu hafi, kandi byose nibyiza hamwe na gari ya moshi
Mbere, nakundaga kurota ko natinze muri gari ya moshi, kwiruka, kwihuta, ibintu bimwe na bimwe bikusanya, nibagiwe, kandi simbonye mu ndege, ahubwo mfite mu ndege kenshi. Ubu sinigeze nkoresha igihe kirekire. "
Gusinzira birasobanutse. Nta cyaha, hariho itangazo ryukuri ko gari ya moshi yayo iri kumuhanda, mugihe gari ya moshi ye yagumye mugihe yaguye. Kandi ntakeneye kumukiza no kugarura, ntabwo ari inshingano ze. Umurimo we nukugira umwanya no kwicara muri gari ya moshi ukajya munzira zabo, ntawundi muntu kuri we azabikora.
Niba abantu barubatse, mubucuti, cyangwa bonyine, bari bazi kwifata, gukurikiza icyerekezo cyabo nimirimo yabo, nkuko umubare wa drame n'imibabaro irimo ubusa. Ariko, iyi niyo nzira buri wese akora mukibazo cyayo. Twifurije amahirwe ku nzozi zacu.
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Maria Dyachkova, umuganga wa psychologue, umuvuzi wumuryango, amahugurwa yambere yibikorwa byimikurire yimyidagaduro Marika Khazin