Birasa nkaho kuvuka k'umwana ari ibyabaye nyuma yo gushyingirwa. Ariko, umubare munini wamaso menshi yijimye rimwe na rimwe nibibazo mugihe cyo gusama cyangwa gufatana uruhinja. Rimwe na rimwe, kuba ababyeyi bishimye, abashakanye bajye mu myaka, ntamuntu wijeje ibisubizo byiza. Uyu munsi hariho uburyo bwinshi bwo kuba ababyeyi, kandi umwe mubantu azwi cyane afite ubuyobozi. Niba kandi intego zurukundo hamwe nabashakanye bagaragara neza, ntabwo buri gihe twumva ko abagore basunika abagore kwinjira nundi. Twakusanyije impamvu zizwi cyane ukurikije uburambe nyabwo bw'abagore bahisemo guha umunezero abakeneye.
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Inzira yo kunoza ikibazo cyamafaranga
Biragoye cyane kuba umubyeyi udasanzwe: Ugomba kwisuzumisha byimazeyo, ibizamini bya psychologiya kandi, amaherezo, ukunda ababyeyi bakiriya. Inzira ni ndende kandi ntabwo buri gihe ari umucyo, niyo mpamvu serivisi za Mama yoroshye zishyurwa cyane. Abagore bakunze kuvuga ko barimo gusunika ibibazo byamafaranga munzira yo gutanga ubwato, kandi Mama woroshye ubwayo arashobora kuba agizwe nubusabane busanzwe numugabo we. Nk'uko abagore bakiriye ubu bunararibonye, isosiyete ikorana n'abakiriya n'ababyeyi bonyine n'ababyeyi bo ubwabo bishyura icyumba cyose cy'ubuvuzi, bigatanga icyumba cyiza aho umubyeyi udasanzwe ashobora kubana n'abandi, kandi nyuma yo gusohoza inshingano zayo, Mama ashobora gutanga ibihe byiza, byadushimishije cyane abagore bacu babaga ubushakashatsi. Mu bidukikije - kuri ba nyina basudikanye cyane, biba ikigeragezo cyo gutandukana na bene wabo n'umugabo wawe, kuko bibujijwe kuvugana n'abakunzi mu gihe cyose cyo kubyara.
Icyifuzo kinini cyo gufasha
Birashoboka, umugore wenyine ni we ushobora kumva imibabaro yundi mugore udashobora kubyihanganira, ariko no gusama umwana kumuntu ukunda. Birumvikana ko tumaze kubwira ko uruhande rw'amafaranga yikibazo arimwe mu ngingo z'ingenzi kuri Malerogate kandi, abagore benshi bajya ku ihame kandi bemera ubufatanye n'abandi bakandida ku babyeyi bazemeza ko bazemera cyane Mama mubikenewe gufasha couple yihariye. Ku bijyanye na, ahubwo, ku ruhande rw'umuco wo gutanga ububyeyi, abagore benshi bemera ko mu bihe nk'ibi bikunze kwiyongera ku mwana - nyuma ya byose, ushora ingufu z'umubiri n'inzego mu gihe cyo guteza imbere umwana uri muri wowe. Muri ibi bihe, nyuma yo kubyara hamwe nababyeyi basubukuye, hysteries nyayo akenshi iba, neza cyane kunyura mubwitonzi. Nibyo, umubyeyi wa surrogate yakiriye amafaranga ye, ariko gutungurwa mu mwuka byaracyariho ubuzima, niyo mpamvu abagore 30-40% bonyine ari bo batera gutwita kwa kabiri.
Niki, gutwita?
Nibyo, bibaho kandi ibi - umugore ashishikaza inzira ubwayo, nubwo yamaze kuba mama "kuri we." Abagore nkabo bavuga inkuru zerekana uburyo bakunze kwemeranya nababyeyi bazaza hanze yikigo cyimyororokere kijyanye nanonwa yabandi, nkumugore akenshi ntabwo yumva atinya ko bashobora kubeshya ko bashobora kubeshya. Ariko, imanza nk'izo, ahubwo, usibye ku mategeko - amasezerano yasojwe hagati y'imva, abarirophetians n'ikigo cyo kubyara, ibintu bitateganijwe bidakunze kubaho. Abagore batwite nigihe cyiza cyane mubuzima bwemera kongera uburambe nabakiriya bashya byibuze inshuro nyinshi, mugihe ubuzima bubyemerera.