Mbere yikiruhuko cyishuri - igihe abana bakunze kuguma badakuze. Nigute ushobora kurinda umwana mubigo bibi, ntukemere ko ari ibicucu? Impuguke ni gahunda yambere "yo kumenya ibintu bito", umwarimu w'amategeko agenga amategeko ya Mgimo Victoria Danulchenko.
Victoria Danulchenko
Iyo abana binjiye muri sosiyete mbi, ababyeyi, nkitegeko, bamenya batinze. Kandi akenshi ukore amakosa amwe - babuza ingimbi kuba inshuti kandi bavugana n'inshuti zatoranijwe na we. Birumvikana ko umwana atangira kwigaragambya, kuko asanzwe ari umuntu. Kandi ikibazo cy'iteka kivuka - kubura gusobanukirwa hagati yababyeyi nabana.
Kuki abana bacu bakurura mubigo bibi? Byemezwa ko ingimbi zitangira kuvugana n'abo bana, imiterere n'imyitwarire yabyo birwanya ubwabo. Urugero rero, umuhungu ufite ubwoba arambuye kugirango asuzume, ashize amanga. Rimwe na rimwe, impamvu yubucuti nk'ubwo ihinduka kandi icyifuzo cyo kumera nka byose. "Kuri sosiyete" abana benshi babanza kugerageza itabi, inzoga. Abangavu na bo bagiye mu bantu bazwi, ku bigomeke kubabyeyi babo, imibereho n'ishuri.
Niba wumva ingaruka mbi zisosiyete nshya, niba umwana wawe yimaze ibanga, akakwirinda, ibirego byabandi biragaragara, ugomba kwihangana no buhoro buhoro, utabanje gutangira ibiganiro, byizera. Ntibishoboka gushinja umwana, mugihe afunze cyane. Muri ibi bihe, birakenewe gushiraho mubwumvikane. Gerageza kubwira umwana inkuru yubusore bwanjye bwite muburyo wabonye munsi yingaruka mbi yumuntu nkuko witwaye muri uko mu bihe nuburyo byagize ingaruka mubuzima bwawe. Nubwo nta nkuru nk'izo mu mizigo yawe mu buzima - ngwino. Bizatanga amahirwe yo gusobanukirwa umwana ko uri kimwe no kurema umwuka wo kwizerana hagati yawe.
Ikintu nyamukuru ntabwo ari ugukora uburyo bwo gukora ibitekerezo byubusa - Abangavu ntibakunda. Nzi neza rwose: Niba ababyeyi babayeho nibibazo byabo gusa, ahubwo ni nanone ibibazo by'umwana, noneho ibiganiro bizagerwaho.
Kurangaza umwana, urashobora kugerageza gushaka kumusangira, ushoboye kubyitwaramo hamwe nibitekerezo bishimishije, kurugero, imisozi, ubukerarugendo, siporo. Ikintu nyamukuru ntigomba gutwarwa ninkoni, ntabwo kizaba imyumvire. Ntutware umwana mu mahame, kubera ko nabishoboye, ugomba! Ntabwo ikora, mubyukuri, irakora, ariko mugihe gito cyane. Nibyo, sosiyete yabana mbi nikizamini kigoye kubabyeyi. Birakenewe kumenya ko umwana mubihe nkibi akenewe gusa kugirango yishyure igihe kinini kugirango adashobora kubona umwanya wo kuvugana ningimbi zitoroshye.