Umugore wese arimo gushaka inkunga mubucuti kandi ni gake uzavuga ko kubaha muri bombi ariho. Ariko, akenshi mubagore bamwe kuva mugihe kugeza rimwe mubijyanye numugabo udashyira mugenzi wabo mubintu byose. Umugore atangira asa nkaho abantu bose bitwara muburyo busa kandi hari amahitamo abiri hano - yaba umugore ufite isoni, cyangwa yatengushye rwose. Mubyukuri, abagore nkabo ntibabishakira abagabo nkabo bakora gahunda runaka. Kuki ibi bibaho, twahisemo kumenya.
Byiza = intege nke
Imwe mumpamvu zizwi cyane zituma abagore badakunze kwitondera umuntu ushobora gusobanurwa mumagambo - mwiza. Ariko nubwoko nkubwo bufata neza mubuzima bwumugore wawe kandi bizahora tuza gutabara, urashobora kuvuga, inkunga nziza. Mubyukuri, abagore benshi bahura numugabo biteguye kwihutira gutabara, ariko icyarimwe batangaza ko imyifatire, ibona imyitwarire nkintege nke-zifite agaciro. Kubera iyo mpamvu, umugore abuze umuntu ukwiye rwose, ahitamo kubaka umubano nubwibone bwubwibone na mugenzi we utitaye, amaherezo buzana imwe mumibabaro.
Afite igikundiro
Ntakintu gitangaje kititayeho ndetse nabagome umufasha mubi azi ubudakesha, nkabagore hypnotimes kwigirira ikizere, kiva kubagabo nkabo. Mu buryo bumwe, umugore ahuza umugabo nkuyu hamwe numugome wo muri firime cyangwa ibitabo, bikaba byiza gukundana numuntu ukomeye mubyukuri. Ni ngombwa gutandukanya ukuri kuva umugani kandi wumve ko kubura gusobanukirwa mumaso yumukunzi nyawe kivuga ko umubano nk'uwo uzatsindwa, kuko bidashoboka guhindura abantu bakuru, cyane cyane niba adashaka impinduka.
Kubaha - ishingiro mubucuti
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Manipulator nziza
Nkuko twabivuze, umuntu utambuwe ibitekerezo byabagore areka kwitondera kandi bivuga abafatanyabikorwa bayo nkuko bikwiye, bizera ko umugore agomba kumushimira ngo ashishikarize kubana na we. Kuva hano, abakoresha badashimishije cyane baheruka, umugore akenshi aba afite kandi ntagerageza gusubiza ikintu icyo ari cyo cyose, gikubita umuntu kurushaho, gihindura umubano nuyu muriro. Abaminisitiri buri gihe, uko atekereza, gusa afite uburenganzira bwo kuvuga no gufata ibyemezo, umugore agomba kumvikana gusa. Ubwa mbere, umubano nk'uwo hagati ya mugenzi wawe ufatwa numugore nko kwigaragaza kwumugabo nicyizere, ariko igihe kigeze, imiterere ye aragenda ahagarikwa, ntabwo yemerera kuba abitabiriye umubano wuzuye.
Kwiyubaha gake bikurura "abagabo" babi "
Akenshi abagabo b'abagome bahinduka abashakanye ku mugore utazi neza ko ashobora kubona umuntu mwiza. Nkuko ubyumva, impamvu y'urubanza muri uru rubanza itera kwisuzumisha cyane umugore. Icyitegererezo nk'iki gishyirwaho mu bwana, iyo umukobwa afite umubyeyi ukomeye ufata ibisubizo byose no gufunga isi. Akenshi, umugore mubuzima agumanye no gusobanukirwa ko hagomba kubaho umuntu uzakemura ibibazo, niyo yaba abiboneye gute.