"Nasinziriye ibitekerezo ko dukora icyo gukora. Umubano waje muri kiriya cyiciro, ikintu cyo kurema umuryango cyangwa igice. Byongeye kandi, nta kwitegura mbere cyangwa murubanza rwa kabiri. Narose nijoro ko nari mu misozi, kandi mpagaze hejuru y'umuntu, kandi mbona undi mugozi 2 imbere yanjye ku mpande zombi, hari ibisebe biteye ubwoba hagati y'imisozi, hepfo ntabwo bigaragara. Hagati y'impinga y'imisozi yihuta kabine, nko ku modoka za kabili. Byongeye kandi, hamwe n'imisozi yanjye muruhande rumwe 2, izindi misozi ntabwo zifitanye isano nikintu icyo aricyo cyose. Hafi yo kutavuga, ubwiza bwo mu gasozi. Mpagaze ku gahinda kanjye, kazu gahora tujya mu bindi misozi ibiri, ariko ndahagarara ku mwanya: noneho kazuru uhuze, hanyuma umurongo runaka, hanyuma uhuze, ntukifuze. Njya kuryama hejuru yumusozi wanjye, ariko sinshobora no kugenda bukeye. Kuzenguruka ubwiza bumwe, guceceka. Mbyuka ntekereza ko nkomeje guhagarara mu mwanya. "
Gusinzira neza nurugero rwibikorera subconsciend biyobora. Kubijyanye no gusinzira - birasobanutse neza: Guhitamo bimwe bisobanura guhagarika ubundi buryo. Muyandi magambo, kubijyanye ninzozi zacu, kubana nuyu mukobwa - bisobanura kuba mwiza, kwinjiza no gukora gahunda, kubaka gahunda rusange, gushora imari mubuzima bwubuzima. Cyangwa, mu buryo bunyuranyije na bwo, kandi mubyukuri ubwanjye no gufatanya ko ibyiringiro nkibi bidatera imbaraga nigice, kuko ntamuntu uzagaruka iminsi yabamo "mubyiza" numugore we. Birashoboka ko mugihe atekereza, "Birakwiye kuba hamwe", iruhande rwe ntahantu ho kumukundana rwose mubuzima.
Ariko, ibintu nkibi biramenyerewe kuri benshi: gutegereza umufatanyabikorwa ubereye ntabwo ari wenyine, ariko iruhande rwumuntu. ITANGAZO nk'iryo mugihe "ibintu byose binshimiye." Benshi bibizwa mubucuti ubwo aribwo bwose kugirango badakorana ubwigunge bwabo, kwiheba kubyerekeye inzozi zidashoboka zo kurengera nurukundo. Ubanza genda ubwumvikane nawe, uzi ko uyu mufatanyabikorwa mubyukuri adakwiriye. Nubwo bimeze bityo, umugereka, ubushyuhe, kumva icyaha noneho ntukemere ko ubusabane ihagarara ku gihe. Kubwibyo, birambuye nko guhekenya amenyo.
Biroroshye cyane, soma izi nzozi, ngwino usoze ko inzozi zacu zidafata icyemezo, zibeshya umutwe kumukobwa wumukene. Ariko, mubisanzwe mubihe nkibi iyi ni amasezerano ahuje. Gufunga kwacu, nubwo batumva, noneho rwose wumve uko ibintu bimeze koko. No gushakisha uburyo "bwiza", nkitegeko, bibaho kumpande zombi.
Niba umwanya wa umwe mubafatanyabikorwa udashidikanywaho, ntukeneye gushakisha amahitamo yo gusimburwa. Inzozi zacu rero zitegereje ibiganiro byukuri na mugenzi wawe niba yiteguye, birumvikana.
Ni ngombwa kuvuga mubyukuri ibyiyumvo, no kubyerekeye imigambi, kandi ko bidakwiriye kugirango tugire amahirwe kumubano wabo.
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Maria Zebeskova, umuganga wa psychologue, Umuvuzi wumuryango, Amahugurwa Yambere Yimiryango Yiterambere Yumuntu Marka Khazina