- Olga Nikolaevna, ni ibihe bibazo biza kuri wewe?
- Iki cyiciro cyabantu bazahamagara "igisekuru cyimyaka igihumbi", mugihe batsinze gari ya molenium, kuba bakiri bato. Noneho ubu ni abantu bafite imyaka 20 kugeza 35.
Muri rusange, kugongana kwabo kugorana kwabo birashobora kugabanuka kugeza mubihe bitatu, icyambere ni umubano nabagore, icya kabiri nishusho yonyine nkabagabo no kubishyira mubikorwa byabo, naya gatatu - ibimenyetso bitangaje ya neurose ikomeye cyane. Igisubizo - Basize isura murukuta kandi ntibajye ahantu hose.
- Byinshi?
- Nahisemo ingingo z'ingenzi. Nubura ibisobanuro byubuzima, gutakaza icyifuzo, gutakaza ubushake, kimwe na fobiya nibitekerezo bibi. Dore ibipimo ngenderwaho babaho muri iki gihe.
Ariko iki ntabwo aricyo kibazo nyamukuru. Ibisubizo byabonetse mu bushakashatsi bavuga ko uyu munsi ari igisekuru cy'abantu, kigira ingaruka ku mico ya grarcissistic.
Hit! Indwara ya Narcissical ko psychoanastalsts nyinshi zivuga, mubuto bwa none, inshuro eshatu kurenza ibisekuru byabasaza. Imibare irerekana ko abanyeshuri bakoze ubushakashatsi muri 2009 bakaba baravuga ko barenga 50% ugereranije nabanyeshuri 1982. Ibindi bibazo byose bya psychologiya nashyize hejuru ni ishingiro ryibisekuru byo kwiyongera mubihe bigezweho bya Narcissism yumuntu.
- Umugabo mwiza, yishimye - ni bibi?
- bisa nkaho iyi ari isuzuma ridafite ingaruka. Alusnialys ahangayikishijwe n'icyubahiro, kandi ibi biganisha ku kuba badashaka gukora na gato, bidashoboka. Benshi muribo baramenyesheje ibyiciro byabo, biteguye no kuba umufasha wumuntu uzwi, gusa kugirango umenye. Ntibashidikanya kubijyanye n'akamaro, bizeye rwose muri pereef. Bakunze kurenga ibipimo byabo, intsinzi yabo, kandi ibi biterwa nuko, kuba abana, bahawe umubare munini wo kuzamurwa, gusoma, ibihembo. Ababyeyi nishuri ntabwo bakoze ibintu uko ibintu bimeze, batsinze ingorane zikenewe nka moteri itera imbaraga kumugabo. Alunnialys ni umunebwe cyane kandi pasiporo, kubera ko imbaraga zagezweho ziri kurwego rwo hasi.
Ibi bitandukanye nuko benshi kuva bakurwa ubwa kabiri bashimira ababyeyi basanzwe ari byose. Niki ugomba guharanira?
Banyarunjanaly bafunzwe gusa no ku gisekuru cyabo, ni amateka, kandi bivuze ko bafite umubano udakomeye n'umuco wabo ndetse n'igihugu cyabo. Ariko birasa cyane hagati yabo, batuye mu bihugu bitandukanye. Usibye ku rutonde, twakagombye kumenya ko abahagarariye ibihumbi by'imyaka igihumbi bashobora kuba bafite inshingano kandi bakirinda byoroshye kandi batitaye. Ntabwo ari etudite, bafite icyifuzo cyateye imbere cyane kumigambi yo kurangiza, amabwiriza, ibyifuzo. Banyabukorikori ntibakunda gufata ibyemezo, ariko muri rusange bafite imico myinshi kandi nziza.
- Nyuma yavuzwe haruguru, bafite kandi imico myiza?
- Banyagihumbi bitwa ibisekuruza byambere bishyigikira ubucuti bukomeye nababyeyi, aho badashaka gutandukana. Akenshi kubera gusa ko biterwa na papa na ba nyina. Ntabwo ari abanyamahane, bitonda cyane, ibirometero, bamwenyura, ntakibazo bafite, barangwa nurwego rwo hejuru rwo guhumurizwa nubuzima bwiza numutekano.
- Ikibazo kimwe gusa gisigaye. Ese umukobwa ukiri muto ugezweho ahanganye numuntu ufite imico nkiyi yo kurema umuryango?
- Ubuzima bwumusore ugezweho butemba mu cyifuzo cyo kubona ibinezeza. Nibitabo byukuri, nkimikino itandukanye kandi ihitamo kuyikina. Igitangaje, ariko, nko mu bwana, imikino nibanga ibibategurira, bitanga ibijyanye n'imikorere y'ubucuruzi yose kuri bo.
Imibonano mpuzabitsina nayo ihinduka imikino itandukanye, ni mwiza prank nziza nta nkurikizi, imiti igezweho yita kuri. Bavugisha ukuri bavuga ko bashaka kugira umuryango, abana, ariko ntibafata intambwe imwe iganisha kuri iyi nzozi. Inteko ya Millenialov: "Kuki uyu munsi ushobora gukora umunsi ukurikira ejo!"
- Niba biharanije cyane kwinezeza, bakora gute noneho? Niki ukunda gukora?
- Igikorwa icyo ari cyo cyose kigomba kurengana no kubakiza. Bakunda mu mbuga nkoranyambaga: "Ntuye kuri Jamayike, njya kuri t-shirt itukura. Kuruhuka no kwiyuhagira izuba - akazi kanjye! " Abagabo ba bigezweho bagenda byinshi, bishakisha ubwabo, bishimiye kumenyesha isi kubifashijwemo nimbuga zitandukanye zabaturage kandi zumwuka. Ibi byose bakeneye gukomeza gushyikirana nabo no kubona igisubizo kiva hafi, cyane cyane igitabo cyishimiramo bakeneye ibyo bakeneye kubera amakosa yabo nibibazo byo gutekereza.
Kubwibyo, umusore yiruka mumucyo kuruhande rumwe yishakisha, ku yindi - kuri we.
Kandi igitekerezo cye bwite gisimburwa na Pr Umugabane wacyo kandi wanditse kuri enterineti.
Benshi muribo bashishikajwe no gushimishwa na buriwese hafi, akunzwe cyane, esoteric, kuko mubugingo basa nkubugingo butumvikana kandi bufite amayobera nkumwana muto ubwato.
Nyashnynny 'nisi mu bintu byose "byiza", "Nyashki", "Nyashki", "Nyashki". "
Muri rusange, bitera impuhwe zivuye ku mutima kandi basa nkaho batigeze bagira ibyago, ingorane, ibibazo. Muri ibi bihe byiza, barareba cyane.
- Iki ni ikibazo kuri societe kigezweho, hari inzira nyayo yo kuva mubihe byubu cyangwa ni iherezo?
- Kongera ibibazo byigihe gihari muburyo bwisi biragoye niba utavuze ko bidashoboka. Ndetse naba psychologue ubu baremerewe ku muhogo hamwe nabana nkabo bahabwa ababyeyi muguhitamo byibuze hari ukuntu bihindura ibintu mubyukuri bidashaka kwiga, ariko bashaka gusa gukubita inkumi mbonezamubano. Muri rusange, ntibakunze kugera ku bisubizo byiza, kuko Millennia irwanya imbaraga zo guhindura no gukora ubwabo. Aba bana ntibabona ibibazo byabo, ni byiza kandi, nibintu byiza bishobora gukorwa nukubisiga wenyine.
Inzira nyayo yo kuva kuri iyi ndwara ni ukwita ku muco wo kurera abana, aho abantu bakuru batagomba kuba abanyamboshye bagerageza guha abana babo babiri - bigaragara ko uyu muntu mukuru azwi cyane bagomba kuba mu bwana. Urukundo ruto ni rubi, ariko runini ntabwo ari rwiza. Mu rukundo rw'ababyeyi, ibintu bigomba kuba bihari, bigamije gutsimbataza ubwigenge, ubwigenge n'ubwigenge bw'umwana muto. Ntagomba gufatwa nk'urugo, ababyeyi bazi byinshi kuruta uyu mwana ubwe. Ibi byambuye umwana ibyiyumvo byumuntu bidasanzwe ya. Kandi muriki gihe, bizaba ingirakamaro cyane mugihe cyo gutandukanya abana kwigenga mubuzima bwigenga. Iyo bahuye nibibazo mubuzima bwabo, nta yandi mahitamo bazagira, uburyo bwo kwishora mu rugamba rwo kubaho. Ibi ni ingero zihatirwa, ariko ubu ni inzira nyayo yo kuva mubihe.