Ati: "Ndi mu gihome kinini cyakuwe mu kirori. Hariho abantu benshi batandukanye, harimo nabandi bamenyereye. Ndimo kwimuka muri ibi birori kuva mucyumba ujya mucyumba: Ahantu ahana, hari ahantu havugana, ahantu hashobora kwerekeza, ahantu hose bakora imibonano mpuzabitsina. Muri ibi byumba ndahari, ariko sinu numva igice cyishimishije. Mu byumba bimwe, mfite ubwoba, ariko sinagenda, ntegereje umukunzi wanjye. Nibyiza kwibuka ibyiyumvo byo gutegereza. Nyuma naje gusebanya hamwe muriki kirori, itangira urumuri. Nyuma yigihe runaka, arazimira amaso, ndamushaka, noneho mbona bamwe muribo baziranye, abo amaherezo mbara neza kuriyi sano irangira. Nyuma, mugitondo, mbere yo kumanuka kuva ku ngazi nyamukuru, ndabona umukunzi wahoze akundwaga cyane, yicaye kuri parapeti. Yicaye, ahobera amaboko ye no kumumanura umutwe hasi. Ndumva ko ari mubi. Ndamusanga, gerageza kuyobora nanjye. Azababanza kundeba, aranga akavuga ko atazajya hafi yanjye. "
Byari inzozi nkiyi ko umukobwa umwe ukiri muto yambwiye. Mbega urugero rushimishije kandi ruboneye!
Gusinzira byerekana inzozi zacu, ibyo abona abantu: Gushakira, bitagerwaho cyangwa byabuze iteka.
Iyi gice cyo kurohama kivuga umusomyi wacu, niho umwanzuro utabishaka wakoze ku bantu rimwe.
Ahari kubera uburambe bwayo bwo gushyikirana nabantu bakomeye, ntabwo yahuye nuburambe bwo kwangwa cyangwa gutenguha. Birashoboka ko yagerageje gutsinda umuntu igihe kirekire, nkumugabo mu nzozi ze ntaboneka kuri we, adashobora gukomeza guhura na we: noneho igomba kubitegereza, hanyuma asinze.
Abagore bafite uburambe nk'ubwoya bwo gukusanya, kwangwa cyangwa gutenguha cyangwa gutenguha, umuntu ntabwo byoroshye gukora umubano wizewe kandi wizera.
Kubera ukwemera kutamenya ubwenge ko abagabo ari ibyo - bitagerwaho, imbeho, kunyerera, kunyerera, abagore ntibizewe, abagore ntibabona ko bakura gusa abantu nkabo. Abandi bafatanyabikorwa bo ubwabo bagaragaza ko bashimishijwe, kwitabwaho, ubwitonzi, bisa birarambiranye kandi birambiranye. Kimwe n'ijoro ryijoro riguruka kumucyo kandi usunitse, abagore nkabo ntibabona ko rimwe bihita bibaho nabagabo badahari, bakomeza imyifatire yabo ibabaza.
Ahari inzozi zibwira inzozi zacu kubyerekeye uko ibintu bimeze. Kuba yagombaga kurokoka iruhande rw'umugabo, n'uburyo ni abayo. Muri uru rubanza, mugihe ugerageza gukora umubano mushya, uburambe bwo gutenguha bwabanje, kwangwa no kutababara ntabwo ari ahantu hose. Yatwikiriye neza cyangwa mugihe gito yibagiwe, ariko kumahirwe yambere, igikomere gishaje kizongera kwerekana.
Igihe kirageze cyo gusuzuma imyifatire yawe ku bagabo, gukiza ibikomere bishaje muri koga ubwabyo bishobora kuba inzira itoroshye kandi itigeze ibaho.
Ariko, birashobora kuba ingenzi niba arose umubano wuzuye kandi wuje urukundo. Ni ngombwa kwikuramo ibya kera, byegeranijwe gutegura umwanya ukiri muto, utaziguye kandi wuzuye numugabo utagomba kuneshwa, kugenzurwa cyangwa kugenzura cyangwa kugenzura kugirango uhangane mubucuti. Urashobora kwishimira gusa ubucuti nibyishimo.
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Maria Zebeskova, umuganga wa psychologue, Umuvuzi wumuryango, Amahugurwa Yambere Yimiryango Yiterambere Yumuntu Marka Khazina