Muri iki gihe, ingengabitekerezo n'ubutegetsi bwa "babyreyfrey" biragenda birushaho gukundwa (Icyongereza. Kubyara - nta bana - nta bana). Kuki aba bantu babishaka badashaka kuba ababyeyi?
Byasa nkaho, wenda, ariko ntushake - uburenganzira bwabo, kandi ingingo yubushakashatsi ntabwo ari hano. Ariko yonyine tuzareka gusa abadafite intego kuri buri ntambwe yo kuganira kuri iki cyemezo no guhagarikaga cyane kumwanya wabo.
Igitangaje gihagije, abana, mubihe byinshi, ntabwo ari ubuntu. ABANA - Stimpuli, umaze gutura burundu mumitwe yabo. Akenshi bahura ni ngombwa kuganira kera (= umwana) ninsanganyamatsiko na none, nkaho kurengera uburenganzira bwabo bwo kutabyara. Hari umuntu ubambura neza? Mubyukuri, nibyifuzo byawe byo kurera umwana kugirango isibe isi kwisi yose. Kubera ko bidashoboka kubishyira mubikorwa ibi, ingingo yuburakari ntiyigeze yiyongera.
None se kuki abana bakubabaje? Ibintu byose bijyanye nubwana akenshi bitera uburambe bworoshye cyangwa butazi ubwenge mumwana. Ni ukuvuga, ikintu cyingenzi kandi kibabaza imyaka yawe yoroheje ntabwo ari wenyine, ariko acomerwa mumasanduku maremare. Birumvikana ko igitekerezo cyo gukorana na ballast cyamarangamutima kiza kuri byose. Ahubwo, umwana wumukobwa agerageza gukuramo abarakaye mumurima, utangiza kwibuka cyangwa ibitekerezo bidashimishije. Birashobora no kumenya ko benshi muribo batazunguza abana bakomoka ku bumuntu kugirango babuze uburambe ku muntu kavukire waherekeje mu bwana bwabo.
Kandi, nukuvuga, kubyerekeye abavandimwe. Impamvu rusange yo kwanga kuba umubyeyi cyangwa se ntabwo ari ugushaka kuba "nkumubyeyi" cyangwa "nka Data", ni ukuvuga kumenya ababyeyi babo cyangwa abantu babo basimbuye. Guhishura iyi ngingo, birashimishije cyane kumenya abana bafite ubwoko bwa karcissistique. Abantu nkabo barangwa nibitekerezo byerekeranye no gutungana kwabo, amategeko yabo yose kandi bihamije, uburemere bwayo buterwa nubufatanye bwa psychopathology. Iterambere ryabarenganye ryumwana riboneka mukirere cyisuzuma rihoraho, umuntu muto utabishaka ahinduka kubikoresho byo kwiyemeza ababyeyi. Igiciro kibabaje cyane cyicyerekezo cya Narcissistic nubushobozi budatera imbere gukunda. Ariko muburyo bwo kwiheba no gukwirakwiza nta kubura. Kurugero, umugore wa griscissistic Virtuoso ashimangira ko adashaka kugira icyifuzo cyabanga cyo kwiteza imbere (nkaho umuntu akuyemo undi) nuburyo bwe bwonyine. Ni ukuvuga, izaba imutakaza kandi ikemeza nyina, itagikoreshwa, usibye kumubyara.
Ntabwo bishoboka kandi gushaka kumenyana nababyeyi ataringanijwe, guhiga cyangwa kutita kubantu. Ntabwo bitangaje kuba hamwe nabakurambere nkabo, abana ntibumva icyo gukora nabakomokaho.
Kandi hano hari ubundi buryo. Abana bamwe ni abana bakuru bo mumuryango, bahiganwa na mushiki wabo bavandimwe mugihe ababyeyi babo bacukuye imibereho cyangwa bahugiye mubindi. Aba bantu barambiwe cyane no kwitiranya abana, basaba gusa ikiruhuko gikwiye.
Cyangwa rero. Niba se yashakaga umuhungu, kandi umuhungu avuye mu mukobwa we ... noneho umukobwa ukunda arashobora kwanga kubyara kutamenya igitsina.
Motifs ishimishije iraranga kubaho muri oedip. Hano iterambere ryibintu rishobora kuba rikurikira: Kurwego ntikishaka guha se (aho kujya - ariko iki cyifuzo cyahuye nubusambanyi, kimwe na kubera gutinya nyina. Hanyuma arahitamo, yongera, atabishaka, byaba ari byiza kuruta abana na gato.
Bibaho kandi ko abana bangana bameze nkabandi bana. Umuntu agwa mu bwana, undi "akubiyemo" umubyeyi. Kandi barashobora guhindura izo nshingano. Rero, umufatanyabikorwa umwe agerageza kwishyura ikindi kintu kitari impanuka akiri muto. Mbwira, Kuki ari abana? Mugihe umurimo wabo ugomba kwiyongera.
Tandukanya icyiciro gito cyabasomyi ba Chayldfrey - abantu bashyira mu gaciro ubumuga bwabo. Kubabaza cyane bivuga kwemerwa no kwanga ibitekerezo kubyara kuruta kumenya ko bidakora neza. Nibyo, nongeye kuri Narcissism.
N'amagambo make mu gusoza. Niba wibwira ko uri umuco wa dweadfrey, ntukagire icyo uhindura mu mwuka kandi ntukamushaka ko umuntu afite abana arashaka, atitaye kubikuzaga muri ubu buryo, nyamuneka wishime!