Kumenyekanisha, abana byanze bikunze bahura nubuzima hamwe namategeko akaze. Kuba ababyeyi, tugerageza kubategurira ibi, kwigisha gutera imbere, kugirango tugere ku ntsinzi. Ntabwo ari ibanga ko igice cyingenzi cyubuzima bukuze ari amafaranga. Ibyo bagira uruhare, buburyo bwo kubibona, uburyo bwo kumara - kubintu byose bijyanye nabyo bizatugira kuri ababyeyi babo. Twigisha abana gukoresha amafaranga, kubakiza no kumara, kuba ibicucu cyangwa ubuntu. Guha amafaranga ku mafaranga yo mu mufuka, turashobora kwihesha agaciro, gushimangira imiterere cyangwa ibinyuranye, gusuzugura, kwerekana ko dufite byose, kandi ntacyo bafite. Muyandi magambo, amafaranga ni, kuruhande rumwe, igice cyingenzi mubuzima bukuze, buzwiho mumuryango, naho ku yindi - kimwe mubikoresho bikomeye kugirango bakurere neza Koresha.
Mugukora umwana impano, turamwigisha kandi isomo ryubuzima. Mbega ingaruka kuri twe. Hifashishijwe impano, urashobora gushimisha umwana, tanga amahirwe mashya yo gukura, kwiteza imbere, kandi birashoboka kugirira nabi, kora ingorane nyinshi mugihe kizaza. Umuryango w'Abanyamerika Psychotherapist Cl Madanes atanga ibitekerezo bishimishije kuri ibi. Bishingiye kuri bo, nzana inama nyinshi zifatika:
1. Ni ngombwa gusobanukirwa ibyo dukeneye turema mumwana, bimugira impano, nibyo bazasaba ingaruka. Akenshi dutanga ibintu nkibi, tubikesha abana bacu bagaragara nkibikenewe bishya. Kurugero, tumaze kubona igipupe, umukobwa azashaka imyenda kuriyi doll, amasahani, inzu ifite ibikoresho kandi nibindi. Cyangwa, Gutanga igare kumunsi wamavuko, turashira gukunda siporo, ubuzima bukomeye, buragushimisha rwose. Ariko icyarimwe, mugihe kizaza, hakenewe byibuze ibikoresho byiyi igare bizagaragara mugihe kizaza, kandi nkigihe ntarengwa muri gare nshya, nziza. Ni ngombwa gufata ibyo bikenewe mu buhimbano, kugirango wumve uburyo bafite akamaro, turabiteguye.
2. Ntugatange guhitamo. Akenshi ababyeyi baha umwana ikintu cyingenzi kandi cyagaciro kuri we, kurugero, igare rimwe cyangwa ni itungo, hanyuma, saba iyi mpano, fata iyi mpano. Cyangwa gutera ubwoba kuburyo byacitse, bityo bigakoresha imyitwarire yumwana. Niba ibi bibaye kenshi, hari uburakari bwinshi nubuhanga hagati yababyeyi n'umwana, bikaba bibi cyane umubano. Umwana agomba kumenya neza ibyawe ko - ababyeyi, nibihuriweho n'umuryango wose.
3. Gukora impano, irinde ibihano. Urashobora gutanga impano hanyuma uvuge amagambo meza, bityo ushobora kongeramo igice cyubugizi bwa nabi kandi kibi nimpano y'agaciro. Kurugero, mugihe Data ahamagaye umuhungu kuroba kubana n'inshuti ze - ibi rwose rwose ni amahirwe menshi kuri we, ariko niba amuhana kumugaragaro uburobyi - ibi bimaze gutuza. Impano igomba kwishima umugabo, ntabwo ifitanye isano nisoni nisoni.
4. Ntukoreshe amafaranga kugirango wigishe isomo. Hano ndashaka kuvuga ko atari imanza mugihe ibyagezweho bihembwe namafaranga. Byerekeranye no gushaka kwigisha binyuze mumafaranga. Tekereza uko ibintu bimeze: Mama asezeranya imyambaro y'umukobwa mu kurangiza amafaranga 30.000, niba ahuye n'ishuri nta kaburimbo. Umukobwa arimo kugerageza n'imbaraga ze zose kandi abona amanota meza. Nyuma yibyo, asanga umwambaro we winzozi, ariko agera kuri 35.000, aje kuri nyina amakuru ashimishije, maze aravuga ati: "Oya, nabajije, nabasezeranije 30,000 gusa, ntazongera kuguha." Umukobwa rwihishwa avuye kuri nyina azigama amafaranga kumafaranga yo mu mufuka, akorana n'inshuti hanyuma amaherezo agura imyambarire yifuzwa. Mama atekereza ko yerekanye isomo, yerekanye urugero rw'igihano cyiza, cyerekanaga ko ari ngombwa kubuza amasezerano, kandi mubyukuri yize kumusebya no kubeshya.
Mubihe byose byasobanuwe haruguru, - Iyo dukora ibikenewe bidakenewe, tanga, hanyuma duhitamo, cyangwa tugagerageza kwigisha isomo - byanze bikunze twita umwana ibyiyumvo byimbitse, aribyo noneho biragoye cyane gutsinda. Umwana wababaje ni umwana ushingiye, kubera ko yababajwe buri gihe agwa mubitekerezo byumuvugizi. Turashobora rero kubangamira umwana gukura.
Kumenya ibi bihe, ni ngombwa gukurikiraho, kutirinda iterambere ryigenga ryabana bacu, ubafashe gukura kandi tubitwite neza, twizeye kandi twigenga. Tuzakora ibyacu, kandi ubuzima bwabo burishimye;)