Manipuline ya psychologiya nuburyo bukunze gushyikirana. Mu miryango aho bananiwe kubaka umubano mu itumanaho ritaziguye (sinshaka - gukora, kugira ngo baganire, bitera kumvikana, manipilations. Ubwoko busa bwitumanaho akenshi bukurikiranwa mubucuti nabana bakuze n'ababyeyi. Kandi, birumvikana ko itera ibibazo.
Akenshi tubona uburyo bwo gushyikirana ababyeyi hamwe nabana babo bakuze, nka Blackmail. "Niba utabikora, ntuzagaruka ku gihe, ntuzatandukana n'uyu mukobwa - Nzagira ikibazo cy'umutima, igitutu kizasimbuka." Kandi gusimbuka gusa, kandi ibitero bibaho. Cyangwa wite ku gutukwa: "Ntawe ubyumva, nk'uko mbyumva nabi, nibaza byinshi, kandi wowe ufite irungu, kandi wowe ..."
Kumva icyaha nuburyo bwizewe bwo gukora umwana ukuze ibikenewe nababyeyi be. "Naguhaye, ukiri imana ziremereye, wari urwaye kenshi, kubera ko utagiye ku kazi, sinashyingiwe kubera wowe, ndabishyira mu buzima bwanjye ... - nawe! .." Hanyuma urutonde, ibyo udakorera nyoko cyangwa papa. Icyaha kiranyerera, gicecetse kandi rimwe na rimwe kikureba hamwe no gusubirwamo ibiragi. Cyangwa ntabwo reba kuruhande rwawe rwose, nayo ibonwa nabana, kabone niyo yaba abakuze.
Umwarimu RGgu, Umuganga wa Psychologue Maria Andreeva
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Guhora unenga ko abana bumva muri aderesi yabo, kandi icyifuzo cyo gushaka urukundo rwababyeyi mbere gukora byose cyangwa byinshi mubyo ashaka kukuru. Kwemeza "Ntabwo abana beza bihagije" barashobora kumvikana mu miryango. Ibyo ukora byose, bizahora ari bibi, ariko umuntu ni mwiza: umuturanyi we, murumuna we, kwa mwishywa.
Umuntu wese yumva uburyo Manipulation Akazi, ariko umutungo wimbere nubunyangamugayo urabuze nabo kugirango wange byibuze kimwe cya kabiri cyabyo. Abana bakuze ababyeyi basaba bababajwe cyane n '"abasaza." Bibuka igihe bashora imari yabantu gukura, tanga uburere, ahantu runaka batamba inyungu zabo. Akenshi, uku kumenya igihe abana babo bavutse, niko biteguye kugwa mumyitwarire ya manipilative yababyeyi babo bageze mu zabukuru. Bibaho ko abana bakuze basa nkaho ababyeyi babo batunganye, bakora byose kugirango we, umwana, yarishimye, niyo mpamvu adafite uburenganzira ku buzima bwe.
Abana bakoresha ababyeyi mubisanzwe bafite amarangamutima, yunvikana, nta mutekano bafite, biterwa nibitekerezo byababyeyi, cyane cyane kwemezwa n'ababyeyi, cyane cyane kwemezwa na gato, birinda amakimbirane, kwirinda guhangana, guhangana. Akenshi batabishaka bafite uruhare rw "abahohotewe".
Bumwe mu buryo bwo gukemura amakimbirane ni ukubaka umubano wawe no gukoresha ababyeyi. Iyi niyo nzira ikuze cyane, ariko icyarimwe iragoye cyane. Abantu benshi ntibemera ko umubano barimo kuva mu bwana butangaje guhinduka.
Nigute wakemura ikibazo cyo gukoresha ababyeyi nabana?
Hamwe na manipulate urashobora guhangana
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1. Icya mbere, ni ngombwa kubyumva no kumenya ko Maniputer y'ababyeyi atari ikibi. Bakomoka ku nshingano zidasanzwe, kuva mu mutekano muke mu mbaraga zabo, uhereye ku cyifuzo cyo gukora ibintu byose kuri wewe. Amaherezo, kubera ko mama, wenda, mu bwana, na we yakoresheje ababyeyi be.
2. Kumenya ko Mama nawe na we, asobanura umuntu. Uzi iki ku bwana bwe n'urubyiruko, umubano n'ababyeyi, impamvu yahisemo umwuga we. Ibisobanuro byose ni ngombwa. Tekereza ukusanya ibikoresho byo ku mibereho yayo. Wumve ko mukuru w'ababyeyi babo. Nukuri mubintu ufite uburambe, usibye, ushushanya igisubizo gikuze kugirango uhagarike kuba ikintu cya manipulas. Gerageza gufata umubyeyi wawe-to-Manininter nkuko muganga ari uwumurwayi: Ineza, ushikamye, wihangane. Ntabwo ukeneye kugerwaho, kwerekana, kumenya umubano. Mbere yuko uri umusaraba hagati yumurwayi numwana. Ntugabanye "Kugabanya" Kugerageza kubabyeyi Kugerageza kugukurura mu gisito kandi ntukite ku isuzuma ryababyeyi bose binjira kuri aderesi yawe.
3. Nibyiza, nyuma yibyo, ugomba gutangira kwiyubaka umubano wawe nababyeyi bawe. Ku ruhande rumwe, biyongera buhoro buhoro intera iri hagati yabo nubuzima bwihariye. Ntukemere ababyeyi umwanya wawe, ntugahe amahirwe yo kugutera ubwoba. Nibyiza kwiyita - kandi ntabwo ukurikije gahunda, ariko mu buryo butunguranye.
4. Ku rundi ruhande, ababyeyi ntibagomba kugira igitekerezo cy'uko uyisunika nkana mu buzima bwawe: Erekana ubwitonzi, utange impano nto, niba ufite amahirwe - Sohoka hamwe. Amaherezo, ninde mukuru cyane hano - uri ababyeyi? Tera ababyeyi Isomo ryamasomo: Gutakaza ibiro, usure ikidendezi, umva amajwi, inyungu buri gihe, uko inzira ikomeza, rimwe na rimwe ushobora gucukura ibikoma.