Uburezi bwumwana nubuhanzi, iyi ni siyanse, yuzuye cyangwa ituzuye umubyeyi uwo ari we wese. Buri muryango ufite amategeko yabo bwite yuburezi no gushyikirana nabana, ariko icyarimwe ntuzibagirwe ko buri mwana ari umuntu kandi asaba uburyo runaka ubwabwo.
Kumwana, umuryango ni urwego cyane cyane aho ibintu bigize umubiri, wo mumutwe, amarangamutima nubwenge biteza imbere. Kwisuzuma no kwiyumvisha isi muri rusange byakozwe mubana, kandi kugerageza kutagira iherezo kugirango duhindure abana munsi yishusho runaka tutigeze usibanganya icyaha cyo kuticira urubanza kugirango akumire hamwe nibibazo byinshi.
Kenshi cyane dukora amakosa, tuzamura umuntu uzaza. Abana bahora bagerageza gufata urugero kubabyeyi babo bakayandukure muri byose. Kubwibyo, mbere ya byose birakwiye guhera wenyine. Muyandi magambo, niba hari ikintu kidakwiranye na Tchad yawe bwite, birashoboka ko byagutwaye. Kubwibyo, gukora kubucuti numwana, tangira witondera amagambo yawe nibikorwa byawe. Ariko, muri byose ukeneye kumenya igipimo. Wibuke ko abana beza, nkababyeyi beza, ni umugani, ariko umubano mwiza hagati yawe hamwe nabana bawe ni intego igeze ku ntego.
None se kuki umubano uri hagati yababyeyi nabana wangiriye nabi? Akenshi ikibazo ... yego, yego, kubabyeyi. Ni gake batekereza ku kuba umwana na we afite ibyiyumvo, ibitekerezo. Uruhinja kandi rwihatira kwimenyekanisha no kwiteza imbere. Kandi arababara kandi adashimishije mugihe mama na papa bagerageza kumuhindura, byerekana ko umuntu akora ikintu kimurenze. Imyitwarire nkiyi irinda umwana kwiteza imbere, kwihesha agaciro no kwigirira icyizere. Tuzagerageza kuvuga amahame menshi yingenzi kugirango tugere kubwumvikane hamwe ninkubi y'umuyaga.
Kunda abana bawe
Akenshi ushobora kumva ku babyeyi: "Niba uri umwana wumvira, hanyuma ...". Kubwibyo, utabishaka ukingurira umwana ko umukunda kuri "gusa niba." Ariko abana bakeneye kwiyumvamo cyane nababo bihenze, bihenze kandi bikenewe kubabyeyi babo. Bishoboka, ubabwire. Ntuzigere utanga reservation kandi ntugashyireho ibintu mukunda umwana. Iyi myumvire igomba kuba idasubirwaho. Ntutinye kwangiza urukundo rudakenewe - ntibishoboka.
Ikuzimu umva umwana wawe
Abana bose bakunda kuvuga byinshi, ibitekerezo biriho muburyo bwabo. Gerageza kumva umwana wawe kandi ukababwira igitekerezo cye. Mureke aruta neza kandi atekereze neza. Mumuhe gusobanukirwa ko mumuryango mwese bamufata.
Burigihe ukomeze gutuza
Ntabwo rero bibaho kugirango ntaza, gerageza kutaramura amajwi kubana. Gerageza kuvugana numwana, nubwo vino ye ari nini cyane, kandi uri hafi ya hysterical. Nta mpamvu yo kuvuga byimazeyo. Nta mpamvu yo gusubiza ibibazo bikomeye "Oya na byose". Gerageza gusobanura icyateye amakosa yawe. Shakisha ubwumvikane.
Ba inyangamugayo kandi ufungure
Ntukabeshye abana, bitabaye ibyo bazakwishura igiceri kimwe. Ntubihishe ibigaragara kandi ntabwo bigaragara ibintu, gerageza kwerekana amakosa yihariye nuburyo bwo kubikosora. Ntiwibagirwe guhimbaza umwana intambwe zabo neza no gutsinda ibihe byose bigoye.
Shigikira umwana
Kuvura cyane kandi usobanukiwe nibibazo byumwana nibintu byose birahangayitse. Wibuke nawe kumyaka ye: nawe wahangayikishijwe na algebra eshatu za mbere, none ntabwo agitayeho. Nukubona ibintu numwana: Ntaranyura inzira wagumye inyuma, kugirango ibintu byose bihangayikeho byose bwa mbere. Umuhe uburenganzira kuri bwo. Buri kibazo gitangwa n'imyaka ye n'ingabo ze, niko umwana atariyorohewe no gusuzuma nabi kukurusha - igiti. Mushyigikire.
Birumvikana ko hari ibibazo ababyeyi badashoboye guhangana numwana mugihe bidakora wigenga. Muri iki kibazo, nibyiza kuvugana ninzobere. Kandi ntugomba gutinya ibitekerezo byatewe nabaturanyi: Mwisi ya none, ababyeyi bakunze kwitabwaho ubufasha bwa psychologue yabana, basuye bazana ibisubizo bifatika. Ntugomba no kwibagirwa ko rimwe na rimwe amakimbirane no kutumvira, umwana ahisha ibibazo bikomeye, uwabigize umwuga wenyine wenyine ushobora kubona. Kubwibyo, wirukane urwikekwe - isi mumuryango wawe ni ingenzi cyane.
Eva Avdalimova, Mama wa mbere Abanyeshuri