Nzi ko ababyeyi bankunda. Aya magambo ntabwo yigeze abazwa mumutwe wanjye; Ndabona uku kuri nkukuri. Mugihe cyo kuvura gukomeye cyangwa gutongana kwamatongane, ndacyazi ko mama na papa adafite icyayi muri njye. Kandi birumvikana, mu gihe, mu gihe. Ariko birahagije bihagije?
Mfite imyaka 22, kandi ndacyaba munzu yababyeyi bawe, mbyuka buri gitondo hamwe na rimwe no kurahira rimwe na rimwe kubera ibibazo bya buri munsi. Kuba inyangamugayo, sintekereza ko rimwe na rimwe kwitwara nabi, kuko ntekereza ko nanteye umutwe w'intangarugero cyane: Ndakora, ndiga kandi ndiga cyane. Ariko, kumenya urukundo rwa mutual ntirutandukanya kandi byunguka. Kubwamahirwe, nko mumibanire iyo ari yo yose, ibihe bibaye iyo mpamye gushima ko zita ku barezi babo nakazi kabo, bababajwe n'ubuswa kandi bagategura imyuka (yego, kwigaragaza "urukundo" nabyo birabaho).
Ahari niba twabaye dutandukanye, noneho hazabaho ibintu bike. Nibyiza, uko ubizi, ntabwo nigeze koza amasahani, nibagiwe gusuhuza imbwa, naje nyuma kurenza uko byari bisanzwe, nahagurutse muri ikirenge. Nubwo, gutekereza, nshobora kuvuga ko izi ari indi otmashka. Kubaha no gushima - ntube ku rundi ruhande rw'isi. Birahagije kwibuka ko imbere yawe abantu bahenze cyane badafite icyaha bavuga ko ibyo mutumvikanaho hagati yawe.
Kubwimpamvu runaka, hamwe nabagenzi nabakunzi, twiringira, ahantu duhanagura uburakari, gutinya kubabaza ibyiyumvo byundi, ahantu hatera inkunga. Ariko gushyikirana nababyeyi, rimwe na rimwe twibagiwe kuvuga ko tubakunda. Vuba aha, Mama yagize ati: "Ntabwo dukora ubusanzwe tuvuga", tuvugisha ukuri, naratangaye cyane. Natekereje ko muri urwo rwego mugihe ibintu byose byari byiza. Ntabwo rero mubiganiro, urubanza: Nmaze kwemeza neza ko buri muntu abonye amakuru yavuzwe muburyo bwe. Ahubwo, ikibazo kiri mubikorwa. Birashoboka mubintu nibeshye. Ariko reka tudanikorere, ntabwo ari njye gusa!
Ntabwo ari ukubashinja abana bose. Ababyeyi barashobora kandi kwibeshya, nabo babaho nabantu bafite ibibazo kumurimo cyangwa imyumvire mibi. Bazi kandi uburyo bwo gushimishwa no kubabaza kuri trifles. Itandukaniro riri hagati yacu ntabwo risekuru n '"ubwenge", ariko ko umuntu azi kumenya ibibi bye, kandi umuntu yemera ko ahora ari ukuri. Kandi ibi birashoboka. Birashoboka ko iyo umwana agaragaye, nzamenya kandi ko ari byiza kuri we - iyi ni stcinct. Urugero, igihe ababyeyi banjye bari bafite mu bitaro, bahisemo ko ntashoboye gukora ikarita. Nigute wabisobanurira ko nkora buri munsi amabwiriza amabwiriza kukazi katoroshye kuruta kuvura izina hamwe namazina? Nibyo, ndumva ko ababyeyi bamenya abantu bose kandi bagahindura abana babo neza, ariko hagomba kubaho "ubushobozi" bwo kumupaka amaherezo.
Vladislav Makarchuk ni ukuri: Ababyeyi nabo baribeshya. Ariko iyi ntabwo arimpamvu yo kudakunda
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Nemera mubyukuri, sinshaka kubwira ababyeyi ibibazo byanjye, ndashaka kubikemura wenyine. Ibi ntibisobanura ko ndi "umuntu mukuru kandi wigenga," kuri njye twigenga ko bafite ibibazo bihagije, kandi simbona igitekerezo cyo guhungabanya abantu ukunda mugihe nshobora guhangana n'ibihe. Ariko iyo ababyeyi bagerageza gufasha aho batabisabye, ntangira kurakara.
Kandi biraba, nashimiwe kubyo nagezeho, muri rusange, kandi simvuze ibi, ahubwo nibagiwe kuvuga igitekerezo cyawe ku kintu gikomeye kuri njye. Ntutekereze, simvuze ko ababyeyi banjye batitaho kandi ntibashishikajwe n'ubuzima bwanjye, gusa dufite ibyihutirwa, nibyo.
Ntabwo ntekereza ko ikibazo kiri mu itandukaniro ry'ibisekuruza. Ndashobora kubwira ababyeyi banjye byose: kuva mubintu bito mubintu bikomeye, kandi nzi ko nzanyumva. Ikindi ni uko atari ngombwa buri gihe gusangira ibyabaye; Ibihe bimwe bigomba gusigara hamwe nawe. Duhereye kuri iyi mibanire ntizibura cyangwa ibinyoma.
Ahari impamvu "impamvu idakora", iri mubihe byihishe. Mubantu ukunda, duhora dutegereje ibintu byiza, twibagiwe ko kuri buri wese "ukuri". Ubu simvuze kubyerekeye amategeko arindwi n'amahame azwi. Hano hari ikindi kintu: mu guhamagara buri munsi cyangwa ibyifuzo. Umuntu ntiyigeze akeka ko byari byitezwe kuri we, kandi ku bw'impanuka byabyaye icyaha gishya, undi yandi maso yafashe icyemezo cyo guceceka. Komera rero umupira wo kutumvikana.
By the way, kubyerekeye kutumvikana! Iminsi iba iyo nshaka rwose guhindura byose "kuva kumutwe urwaye kugirango ugire ubuzima bwiza", ariko kubwimpamvu iyo ari mubihe bibazo biguma ku bitugu byanjye. Hano ndabyemera ko hampyine: Ugomba kwemeza neza ibyifuzo byawe. Akenshi twibagirwa ko abandi atari telepats, ntibashobora kumva ibitekerezo byacu n'amasezerano yihishe. Ababyeyi baranzi kurusha abandi bose, ariko ntibashobora gusoma ibitekerezo.
Ariko muri rusange, mbwira, birakwiye gucukura imyenda y'imbere yanduye no gusesengura intambwe zose? Ahari biroroshye gukunda ababyeyi badatekereje kuki, kandi mugihe cyo gusaba imbabazi kubipfunyitse? Gutongana no kutumvikana ni ingaruka zifatika zumubano uwo ariwo wose. Birakenewe kubifata no kugerageza kugabanya umubare wibihe bibi. Icyo gihe ibintu byose bizaba byiza.
Byose kubyerekeye ibyo mvuga, - Banal kandi bimaze igihe kinini bizwi, ariko rimwe na rimwe ugomba gusoma igitekerezo ku nshuro ijana kugirango amaherezo igira igikorwa. Kurugero, ubu nzagenda duhobera mama na papa.